Online reationships

[Tycho]

The majority of people in the world know sharing feelings over a text, email, whatever, is a hell of a lot easier than in person.

When you meet in person for the first time all the bullshit you've shared over the internet or messages goes right out the window.

What about video chat and phone calls? Do you disagree that these mediums can offer that same level of personal interaction you can get from a physical face to face meeting? Sure you can't walk down the boardwalk together, but you can laugh and talk and yes even argue just as you would if you were sitting on a sofa together.

 

[Boxur227]

What about video chat and phone calls? Do you disagree that these mediums can offer that same level of personal interaction you can get from a physical face to face meeting? Sure you can't walk down the boardwalk together, but you can laugh and talk and yes even argue just as you would if you were sitting on a sofa together.

Not when both parties don't expect to see one another in person. Lots of intimate details can be shared when both people never plan on meeting up, that's why networks like chatroulette exist.

 

[Tycho]

Not when both parties don't expect to see one another in person.

How many relationships have been expected? You never know what tomorrow is going to bring when it comes to these things.

 

[Boxur227]

How many relationships have been expected? You never know what tomorrow is going to bring when it comes to these things.

For your own benefit, I'll stop the argument here as now you're starting to prove my point.

Unexpected and lack of positivity has been my concern this entire time.

The amount of money he spent for an idea that had no foundation is just outrageous, rich or not.

In some situations, both parties could feel obligated to stay on course due to the amount of money they've invested into the relationship, although they have grown apart. Some couples will live together, miserable, just because they can not justify spending the time and money on each other and it be for no reason.

G'nite.

 

[Tycho]

Unexpected and lack of positivity has been my concern this entire time.

Every new relationship is a blank canvas. You can't reasonably expect anything to be anything. You have to work at building it, making it your own and then maintaining it. My point is, how that is done in the modern age is evolving. Also, if someone is crossing continents then I would imagine their level of positivity is pretty high.

The amount of money he spent for an idea that had no foundation is just outrageous, rich or not.

Again, there was a foundation. For the OP it was, I'm unsure exactly how long, but I think judging off the post it was at least a few months that they had been in a relationship before they decided to meet. For my friends it will have been 7 months. If there was only emails and instant messages then I'd be right there with you, but with video messaging and calls and facebook and whatever else there is available to people today, the potential to know someone intimately before you ever shake their hand is higher than at any point ever.

Good night.

 

I'm shy irl. Socially awkward. I don't talk much, not even to my family or friends. I find it hard to connect with people irl.

I met Jess online. We talked. And talked. And talked. I found it so easy, we connected instantly. I was able to tell her about myself and learn about her. I probably talked to her more in the first week of meeting her than I had talked to anyone else that whole year. I had never before, nor could I imagine myself, talked to a girl, or anyone for that matter, for so long at once, about deep personal things. And yet I felt so comfortable.

It might sound cheesy and cliché or whatever, but I had never felt the way I felt towards Jess towards any other girl before. I was very curious and excited to meet her, if you've ever felt that way towards someone you'd understand. I had money to blow, so why not go meet the FIRST EVER person I've connected with on such a deep emotional level.

So I went. I was scared, nervous, worried. What if she didn't like me? What if I reverted to my awkward shy self around her? But no, we met, we touched, we kissed, spent time together, talked just as much as we did online. It worked I was the happiest I'd ever been. Then the time came to leave :c I knew I'd see her again though, I couldn't let her go.

So I got home, and we cried together on Skype. It might seem pathetic to some, but it was truly heart breaking. But we trucked through it and continued to talk everyday, it got harder when I started uni and Jess got a job, since those things together with the 7 or 8 hour time difference gave us little time to talk sometimes. But yeah, we made it through, and I went to visit again.

The second time was better than the first, since we were actually in a 'relationship' this time. So as expected, we had a great time together again It was hard leaving but not as hard, since we were both sure we'd meet again. Jess was determined to save up enough money to come to England and stay with me, although she is very bad with money But she managed it, however the time at which she would accumulate enough money was in the middle of a uni break, so I decided to go back to Australia and then travel back with her

Now shes here. In my bed every morning, next to me while we sell gp In September we're moving into our own studio apartment close to my uni. All this in under a year. If I never made the leap to go meet her in the first instance, it may never have happened, and I could still be an awkward lonely nolifer sitting getting 200m's on RS 24/7.

 

Your story is sweet, and good for you guys for making it work. However, whichever one of you reported me is still an asshole lol, particularly considering you obviously knew I wasn't an impostor.




Also, why did you guys instantly join Sythe as soon as you moved over? Why not while you were still in Australia?

I reported you (Jess) sorry if I jumped to conclusions but from the place I was sitting it didn't look good.

I apologise.

 

[Add My Msn]

I'm shy irl. Socially awkward. I don't talk much, not even to my family or friends. I find it hard to connect with people irl.

I met Jess online. We talked. And talked. And talked. I found it so easy, we connected instantly. I was able to tell her about myself and learn about her. I probably talked to her more in the first week of meeting her than I had talked to anyone else that whole year. I had never before, nor could I imagine myself, talked to a girl, or anyone for that matter, for so long at once, about deep personal things. And yet I felt so comfortable.

It might sound cheesy and cliché or whatever, but I had never felt the way I felt towards Jess towards any other girl before. I was very curious and excited to meet her, if you've ever felt that way towards someone you'd understand. I had money to blow, so why not go meet the FIRST EVER person I've connected with on such a deep emotional level.

So I went. I was scared, nervous, worried. What if she didn't like me? What if I reverted to my awkward shy self around her? But no, we met, we touched, we kissed, spent time together, talked just as much as we did online. It worked I was the happiest I'd ever been. Then the time came to leave :c I knew I'd see her again though, I couldn't let her go.

So I got home, and we cried together on Skype. It might seem pathetic to some, but it was truly heart breaking. But we trucked through it and continued to talk everyday, it got harder when I started uni and Jess got a job, since those things together with the 7 or 8 hour time difference gave us little time to talk sometimes. But yeah, we made it through, and I went to visit again.

The second time was better than the first, since we were actually in a 'relationship' this time. So as expected, we had a great time together again It was hard leaving but not as hard, since we were both sure we'd meet again. Jess was determined to save up enough money to come to England and stay with me, although she is very bad with money But she managed it, however the time at which she would accumulate enough money was in the middle of a uni break, so I decided to go back to Australia and then travel back with her

Now shes here. In my bed every morning, next to me while we sell gp In September we're moving into our own studio apartment close to my uni. All this in under a year. If I never made the leap to go meet her in the first instance, it may never have happened, and I could still be an awkward lonely nolifer sitting getting 200m's on RS 24/7.

Lol you guys are sweet.

 

[Lame]

Didn't turn out as well for chloe=/. From what i read it seemed like he was a dead beat taking advantage of her. Dating online is a risky business tbh. I probably wouldn't do it.

 

So essentially, you would be comfortable taking a girl out on a first date and spending $1500 in expenses for the night?

Yes sir. And lo and behold - we've been together since

 

[Azie]

Very nice story like something out of a movie. You should have recorded everything would of been great lool. I met my gf on rs too, I live in London and she lives in Cardiff (Wales) so it's all good in terms of meeting each other irl. But yeah your story is pretty nice.

 

Also, why did you guys instantly join Sythe as soon as you moved over? Why not while you were still in Australia?

We started it 2 months after I got here, and tbh I don't even know why we did lol. We just thought it would be cool to bot bow strings for gold and sell see how much money we could make to contribute towards out accommodation. I don't think I'd ever been on Sythe before then. I've bought gold when I had a staking addiction but that was just from googling 'cheaprsgold' back when 200m cost me $180.. -_-

 

[RyanJ]

I met my girlfriend through Tumblr. We are still currently long distance. November 16th will be 1 year for us. We are on Skype camming almost 24 hours a day. Fall asleep on Skype and wake up on Skype. I've been to visit her 2 times now. Just this next Thursday I will be driving to pick her up and bring her back to my city for a couple days. It's great and I'm very happy. If I had a choice to have a physical relationship with a different girl, I wouldn't even think twice about saying no thanks.

My opinion on it is fairly simple. Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life, look into your heart and figure out what makes you happy and do it. If you don't like the idea of long distance relationships, then simply don't date someone that is a long distance away from you. There is no reason for someone to judge another person because they are happy living their life a certain way. Worry about your own life and priorities. Just my opinion on it, to play devil's advocate against myself it's also fair to say people have the right to judge whomever they want. I just wouldn't agree with it.

 

[funbox]

I've seen some interesting stories on the thread and i hope it all lasts for you, as for the topic tho i'm a bit weery. Main reason why is, unless both people cam eachother there is an extreme risk of identity theft, which in other word im referring too people using googled images acting as if its them

Nowadays these it seems to have become more common(and socially accepted) to date online, but for now you will always find a person that only believes in the "good old way" of meeting irl.

 

[IRL Seller]

My story;

For those of you who don't know, Jonathan and I met online. We no longer date online since I moved from Australia to the United Kingdom. I want to know if you've ever dated online, if you're against it or for it?

Spoiler: Runescape related online dating series.

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Spoiler: Click here if you'd like to read our story.

Back in August 2012 I met Jonathan whilst hunting Jadinkos on Runescape. He was an 'efficient' completionist cape player and asked if I knew how to hunt 'properly' since he was going for 200m at the time and thought he was all hot shit. I replied no and he offered to teach me. I added him to skype and he taught me how to hunt effectively. (most xp p/h without missing ticks)

One night I asked Jonathan if he wanted to watch me a movie with me. (we press play at the same time) he said yes and he called me on skype. This was the first time we had spoken to one another. After about 40mins into the movie 'Bad Teacher' I fell asleep, whilst still on mic so Jonathan ended the call.

The next day we spoke again and continued to speak everyday for the next week. Towards to end of August I had to go on a family holiday to Bali, which is where my oldest brother was getting married. We still spoke whilst I was on holiday as much as we could. Eventually I got back from my holiday and my feeling towards Jonathan were stronger than ever.

We continued to talk and eventually the conversation of meeting IRL came up, it never seemed like a realistic idea since I wasn't working and was living off fortnightly Centrelink payments. (I was renting a room) Jonathan was about to start his first year of University so he suggested that he came in his first break over Christmas. As I joke I replied, why can't you come next weekend. So from there he booked a plane ticket for the 7th of September. His parents didn't really agree, but since he was funding the flight himself they couldn't really tell him he couldn't go.

7th of September came around and I remember going to the airport and thinking to myself 'what if he isn't here, what if he doesn't like me, what if this is just a joke?'.. I remember being on the phone in the airport to my fiend Ben trying not to cry cause I was so scared. Then I saw this tall, fluffy haired spotty boy walk through the doors and I looked down at my phone hoping he wouldn't see me. Not because I didn't like him, but because I was so shy! He walked over too me and we had the most awkward hug and he kissed my head. We walked toward the Taxi rank and went back to my house.

During the 11 days he was here we did all kinds of stuff
> Went to Caversem wild life park and fed Kangaroos
> Went to Perth Zoo
> Went for walks around Perth
- We couldn't really do much since I didn't have any money cause I still at this time wasn't working.

The 18th of September came around and it was time to say goodbye. This was the hardest moment in my whole life. I didn't know if I would see him again, if we would still talk any more. I had never cried so much in my life. I remember my dad picking me up and watching him wave goodbye as I drove away.. It was so hard, I was so sad and this was the moment I told myself to get off my ass and get a job.

So I did, about three weeks after Jonathan left I got a job at Harvey Norman (Australian and Irish will know what this is) and I worked 38 hrs a week saving as much as I could to fund my visa and plane ticket to the UK so I could see Jonathan again (approx $2,000 for flight and visa).

Jonathan booked another ticket to Australia for 3 weeks over this Christmas uni-break. This time was better since I moved back to my mums, we bought a cheap car ($1500) so we could get around and visit more places. I still worked for he 3 weeks Jonathan was in Australia so he had to entertain himself throughout the day. He sun bathed and spent time with my family. January the 4th came and Jonathan left once again. This time wasn't as hard to say goodbye because he had already booked a ticket back for March 16th. The weeks between the second visit and the third went so fast, we still spoke every night and every morning. I continued to work which kept my mind busy.

March 16th! Jonathan's last visit, we still had our car but we ended up selling it since this was the last time Jonathan was coming back to visit me cause I had booked a ticket to fly back with him! After months of dating online and Jonathan flying to Australia three times I got to go live with him. Which was amazing... I flew from Perth to Dubai on the 31st of March and landed in Newcastle Airport on the 1st of April 2013.

and here we are now...

I don't think people can choose who they fall in love with, love just happens. I support online dating because anyone can make it work if they believe they can.

If anyone does have any questions regarding online dating then ask away!

Please also share your thoughts of 'e-dating' or any stories of your own!

I have tried, it wound up just being some random person that was like twice the age she said she was. She was desperate. I like meeting people in person and going from there. It's not to say that it can't work but it is not for me.

I am sorry to hear about you and Johnathon though. That must be hard.

I've only ever been in one and it didn't work so I didn't try again.

 

[n4n0]

Online/Long distance dating can and does work at times. The relationship I'm in now is currently long distance (Friend of 4+ years, dating for 8+ months now) - She's moving to Washington in March to be with me. We skype, text, facebook, etc on a daily basis. We're so close emotionally, it's almost as if we are together in person to be quite honest.

Sure, it's not ideal. I can't hold her, I can't touch her, I can't do anything along those lines, but we're as close as can be and will be living together in just a few more months.

There's a plethora of similar stories that can be found. People who met online, dated online, and eventually met/moved in with each other and are currently together, engaged, and even married. Technology in this day in age makes it a lot easier to manage a long distance relationship than it was 5-10 years ago, and that's a big reason why so many work now days.

 

[LoLSmurfin]

@ Jess and Jon, I'm really glad I got to hear your story! Heartwarming


My girlfriend and I were facing the possibility of becoming long-distance as we went off to college - her to Texas, me to South Carolina. We were completely ready to give it a go, so I don't see a reason why others shouldn't be given a chance to reach out to someone new online.

On a side note, we ended up going to the same college, but our decisions weren't based strongly on our relationship.

 

[IRL Seller]

What about video chat and phone calls? Do you disagree that these mediums can offer that same level of personal interaction you can get from a physical face to face meeting? Sure you can't walk down the boardwalk together, but you can laugh and talk and yes even argue just as you would if you were sitting on a sofa together.

Can you hug them like you were next to each other?

That is what always got me with my one online relationship. You could never touch that person. Hug them when you got sad. Kiss them after a romantic comment.

That also ruins the experience of dating for me.

 

[RyanJ]

Can you hug them like you were next to each other?

That is what always got me with my one online relationship. You could never touch that person. Hug them when you got sad. Kiss them after a romantic comment.

That also ruins the experience of dating for me.

Not sure if you read my previous post and my little 'story' but if you did I agree the physical aspect of it is difficult. I guess it depends on the needs of the two people. For her and I a physical relationship is WANTED but not NEEDED. Though it may sound stupid, we have got into the habit of making a "kissy face" at each other on cam and asking for a kiss. Same with hugs, we just put our arms out like we are giving a hug. Obviously it's not a REAL one, but hey it's the best we can do with what we have right now.

But like I said, I agree that it's hard. It just depends on the persons needs.

 

[BGlave]

Why date someone you can't see in person? Seems stupid unless you're socially inept, no offense.