she is very testy, as is all women when they are prego.
you have an extremely extremely young relationship, and getting pregnant so early on- to be honest- cut the chances of a long relationship in HALF!
moving in was not a good idea, not so quickly.
she is still getting used to the idea of being pregnant, she has to worry about whats in her belly.
(changing her living situation)
you moving in right after it, with someone she has not been with for a long time, is yet another think that changed her living situation.
everyone does their best to get used to their living situations.
sudden permenant situations occuring one after another, she feels like she is not in control. and if you dont have control, you feel powerless and your esteem goes down. so she felt like she needed to take charge for herself.
she will probably come back to you, after all you are the babys father. she just needs her space, she has tons to think about, and tons of things to be upset about now as is. but on the same hand you do to, this time apart career focusing, college etc; should take place so you can figure how to support this child on a LONG TERM basis. still call her or text her, at least once a day. or everyother day, be sweet on the phone. dont sit there and contemplate suicide because then that will stress her out even more, she will feel guilty and STRESS IS THE #1 REASON FOR MISCARRIAGES. so be happy for the situation, dont think of it as a permenant thing because sometime soon she is going to think "wow this is going to be hard to go through all by myself".. keep yourself open dont sit there and want her to feel sorry for you. you gotta be there for her, she wants a strong someone independent guy that can take care of her.
if i were you i would be extremely supportive and be happy that you have your OWN CHILD, YOUR OWN! on its way. and its life's best gift. instead of pounding into her head about getting back together, work on your friendship. ask her about her day, her parents or what outfit she is wearing for her next special occasion ( girls like that!). and then tell her some things about your day etc;. tell her a small child hood memory, n let her tell u one. but try to stay on the positive because you dont wanna get stressed because then she will get stressed, AND vice versa. sense you guys have a baby coming, your both on heightened stress levels. but when that baby finalls comes out and stares you in the eyes its the best feeling in the world. if i were you, id consider putting away a savings bank acct; a second job- (if u have a first one) and just doing things that she would consider responsible. things that she will beable to tell that you are working hard for her and your baby. this will give her a second reason to be happier with you. plus these things will kinda keep you busy to keep your mind off of negativity and sad stuff. have confidence. dont smother her, because that will just push her away even farther. and dont ask her in two weeks if u guys are back together or not, she will say it or bring it up on her own. also possibly look around for area' apartments, and after your friendship gets better bring it up to her. n tell her u have looked into it. dont move until you both have jobs and are financially stable. also try your best to get her parents to help out, say small things like "hey if we ever need a bag of diapers or a few extra dollars, would u guys beable to help us out?". you also need to be on their goodside too, because you have to remember if u piss them off... she lives with them.. she is gunna hear their opinion all the time. so if they r mad at something u did, then she might just chain reaction and feel the same way they do. volunteer to do yard work or something nice for them. then fifthly take her out on random dates even if its just to mcd's, or if she gets a weird food craving, run out at 11pm to get it. it means alot to us when guys go out of their way to do something sweet.i say within the final months or weeks of the pregnancy, you should start i guess " spending the night in hopes to feel the baby kick or in hopes the baby comes". this way, you, her and her parents will get used to you being there SOME TIMES n not all day every second of the day. so everyone can get used to it slowly, and not just like BLLLAAAMMM, everything changed! it may not be a good idea to fully move in before the baby. because that means room will have to be made for your stuff AND the babies stuff. maybe even moving to an apartment within the first few months of your babies life will do good.
so basically
1) SPACE- each of you deserve it and need it, but still show you care. itll be your last time for the next 18 years that you'll beable to have it to YOURSELF.
2)FRIENDSHIP- your girlfriend will always be your bestfriend, so make sure you guys have at least 3 happy conversations in one day.
3) RESPONSIBILITY- yeah no one wants to do it, but itll help her know that your serious, and that you want to be back with her and that you want to be the father.
4)SUPPORT- give her support and ask for support from the parents, but you have to show them responsibility too or they wont trust you with alot.
5)DATES- you need to have them to get to bond and chat more often when no one else is around.
6)SLOWLY- slowly make your pressense known and let them all know that you are not going to miss this, even if the world blows up.
be strong and know that she cares about you, alot. she just cant handle that level of stress, she needs less of it and more happiness. she will view you as selfish if you stay suicidal, and that will break her heart more than anything, and thats the last thing you want because once you break our hearts, we women will do the grimmiest things ever. and sense she is a mother to be, she will get even more pissed. trust me, lol.
but for the time being, keep yourself busy with positive and productive tasks and think about the next sweet thing your going to do. apologize on stupid arguments, sometimes like "were is the remote, U had it last!" even if your right. make yourself feel good by doing the best that you can, and at the end of the day tell yourself," ykno what for my situation im doing pretty damn good! and i feel good about it!"
