Online reationships

Slim enough to spend $1500+ on the first date?

Did you meet your girlfriend on a dating website or literally "online" as she did?

Literally online.

 

[Boxur227]

Literally online. We met in our clan on RS

How far was the venture if you don't mind me asking?

 

290 miles, 4 hours in a car

 

290 miles, 4 hours in a car

Thats great Roary

 

[Bright Eyes]

Two things that irk me in the posts that display negativity towards online relationships:

1) That there's a possibility you don't actually know who you're talking to

2) That spending money to visit someone is a bad idea (with the added logic that it would be a first date)



In response to the first point, even the slightest amount of intelligence will give you a clue to the truthfulness of an individual you meet online. There's no possibility of being 'catfished' or tricked if you are keen and observant.

Voice chatting/video chatting are equalizers, too. I guarantee you the people who have online relationships do both of these before meeting.

Once you've established a rapport with someone (whether it's a friend or significant other) you'll recognize their speech patterns/typing habits - it's a diction unique to the individual. For instance, I frequently use hyphens instead of semi-colons.

It's not hard to know when you're talking to a different person. The only scenario I can think of where someone might be tricked is if two individuals (say a guy and girl) were to catfish someone with the girl on video/voice and the guy typing. Even then, there would be obvious inconsistencies between the two - facts or personal information that would be contradicted at some point in time.

Keen observation will defeat any attempts to deceive you.

In any case, what's the chance a person you meet on Runescape (or another game) will be looking to deceive you (in order to gain something or for some other reason)?
They'd be upfront about it (lurers) or it would be obvious early on - criminal masterminds looking to extort or phish people on Runescape for profit is just as absurd as it sounds.
It's more likely that the person you become friends with is genuine.




In response to the second point, people only spend money to visit after they get to know the other person. It's not a "first date". There's trust built over time; you get to know the other person just as you would in real life. A lack of physical contact can strengthen the relationship because you must rely on personality and shared interests alone to sustain it.

There's never a guarantee that the relationship will work out (in real life or online) and there are plenty of devastating divorces that prove financial risk is part of any relationship, not just those online. Spending money on a plane ticket to meet someone you've known for months/years online is as risky as spending money on a present for your girlfriend who ends up breaking up with you in 3 months. Risk is part of every relationship.

 

[Add My Msn]

I have dated online before, but it isn't as good as dating someone in real life. Not going to lie, I almost cried while reading your story.

 

[Loner]

I personally have never online dated but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't attempt it I just feel like things are a lot easier if done in person and it helps build a connection if its in person versus online plus you're able to gauge someone a lot better in person.

 

Two things that irk me in the posts that display negativity towards online relationships:

1) That there's a possibility you don't actually know who you're talking to

2) That spending money to visit someone is a bad idea (with the added logic that it would be a first date)



In response to the first point, even the slightest amount of intelligence will give you a clue to the truthfulness of an individual you meet online. There's no possibility of being 'catfished' or tricked if you are keen and observant.

Voice chatting/video chatting are equalizers, too. I guarantee you the people who have online relationships do both of these before meeting.

Once you've established a rapport with someone (whether it's a friend or significant other) you'll recognize their speech patterns/typing habits - it's a diction unique to the individual. For instance, I frequently use hyphens instead of semi-colons.

It's not hard to know when you're talking to a different person. The only scenario I can think of where someone might be tricked is if two individuals (say a guy and girl) were to catfish someone with the girl on video/voice and the guy typing. Even then, there would be obvious inconsistencies between the two - facts or personal information that would be contradicted at some point in time.

Keen observation will defeat any attempts to deceive you.

In any case, what's the chance a person you meet on Runescape (or another game) will be looking to deceive you (in order to gain something or for some other reason)?
They'd be upfront about it (lurers) or it would be obvious early on - criminal masterminds looking to extort or phish people on Runescape for profit is just as absurd as it sounds.
It's more likely that the person you become friends with is genuine.




In response to the second point, people only spend money to visit after they get to know the other person. It's not a "first date". There's trust built over time; you get to know the other person just as you would in real life. A lack of physical contact can strengthen the relationship because you must rely on personality and shared interests alone to sustain it.

There's never a guarantee that the relationship will work out (in real life or online) and there are plenty of devastating divorces that prove financial risk is part of any relationship, not just those online. Spending money on a plane ticket to meet someone you've known for months/years online is as risky as spending money on a present for your girlfriend who ends up breaking up with you in 3 months. Risk is part of every relationship.

Thanks for your post. I think you really hit the nail on the head. You take your own risks getting into a online relationship.

I have dated online before, but it isn't as good as dating someone in real life. Not going to lie, I almost cried while reading your story.

I'm sorry that it almost made you cry, atlest it ended well I do agree, online dating isn't as good as dating someone IRL. Loving and holding another is a huge factor in a relationship. But if you feel strongly about someone then you really can make it work.

I personally have never online dated but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't attempt it I just feel like things are a lot easier if done in person and it helps build a connection if its in person versus online plus you're able to gauge someone a lot better in person.

I wouldn't encourage people to date online unless you ever every intention to meet them. There is no point otherwise.

 

[Jay Zee]

Your story is sweet, and good for you guys for making it work. However, whichever one of you reported me is still an asshole lol, particularly considering you obviously knew I wasn't an impostor.




Also, why did you guys instantly join Sythe as soon as you moved over? Why not while you were still in Australia?

 

[Boxur227]

290 miles, 4 hours in a car

That is maintainable, it's certainly not an entire country - 1000+ miles - $1500.

If you were in this situation, would you have spent $1500 to visit your girl for the first time?

P.s - Divica, don't think I'm talking negatively towards your relationship. In fact, it's quite the fairytale ending. I'm happy for you and wish the both of you the best.

I just feel $1500 for a first date is a bit ambitious.

 

[RunescapeAccSeller]

I've seen the show Catfish and I don't understand how people can date someone as long as they have without calling them, without seeing them on cam, without even meeting them! Some people on the show had been dating for almost 5 years + . Crazy lol

and thanks

you do realise that that show is fake right?

that shit aint real

 

[Essentialx]

My thoughts are literally this: catfish

 

[Essentialx]

Absolutely. There wasn't an amount I wasn't willing to pay

What if it was horrible and not what you expected?

 

What if it was horrible and not what you expected?

Then it was worth finding out

 

[Tycho]

An online friend of mine is in an online relationship right now. They seem happy about it and are on Skype as often as they can with each other. They live in different countries, a fair distance away. However, he has plans of visiting her in the Winter. At that point they will have been together for about 7 months. The core strength of a relationship relies greatly on friendship and companionship. My friends didn't decide to meet on a whim or after only a couple of weeks. They've built a connection with each other and have decided they were comfortable moving to the next step. Yes, it will be expensive but, at this point for them, the price tag is only an obstacle they can over come with hard work and not a deterrent. I'm happy for them and I'm happy for anyone who finds someone special in this world, no matter how it happened.

 

[Boxur227]

Absolutely. There wasn't an amount I wasn't willing to pay

So essentially, you would be comfortable taking a girl out on a first date and spending $1500 in expenses for the night?

 

[Tycho]

So essentially, you would be comfortable taking a girl out on a first date and spending $1500 in expenses for the night?

I think the term 'date' has evolved to mean more than dinner and a movie.

 

[Boxur227]

I think the term 'date' has evolved to mean more than dinner and a movie.

No, it means exactly the way it's intended. A date is a physical and emotional experience between two individuals to determine whether they're compatible together for their future.

That's all it is, one very costly date with no guarantee the two people will enjoy eachothers company.

 

[Tycho]

No, it means exactly the way it's intended. A date is a physical and emotional experience between two individuals to determine whether they're compatible together for their future.

That's all it is, one very costly date with no guarantee the two people will enjoy eachothers company.

But no one has been talking about two randoms meeting each other on the internet and meeting for the first time after a long trip. They've built a relationship with one another over time. The OP posted about how they watched a movie together over Skype. In my mind, that would be a date. It doesn't have to be physical.

 

[Boxur227]

But no one has been talking about two randoms meeting each other on the internet and meeting for the first time after a long trip. They've built a relationship with one another over time. The OP posted about how they watched a movie together over Skype. In my mind, that would be a date. It doesn't have to be physical.

The majority of people in the world know sharing feelings over a text, email, whatever, is a hell of a lot easier than in person.

When you meet in person for the first time all the bullshit you've shared over the internet or messages goes right out the window.