Girl Problems

[sniperrex9]

Spoiler: The OP

I know this is going to sound like so general or a very common problem but I like this girl who is focusing on school. I can't really get her out of my mind and I know like (95% sure) if i ask her out which i haven't yet. I would get rejected immediately. The thing is for some reason its not that I necessarily have to be with this girl but more in the line is I want her to be happy and successful.

Also background on this issue is that
1. Her brother for a week period put me and her into the same group chat trying to force us to mingle
2. I liked her for 2 years and she knows I like her since We both do Varsity Swimming and have the same coach
3. She smiles and says hi to me when we see each other in the hallways but doesn't have any interaction with any other dudes other than her brother
4. We are in Highschool and both Juniors
5. About 90% of her friends hate me or think I'm weird and 10% has no problem with me
6. The whole thing in general is bringing down my grades by me thinking about the situation and how to solve it.
7. All of my Interactions with her might be weird because i overreact to everything when it comes to this situation
8. I Got her number because her brother put us into the same conversation and texted her. Yeah i know, dumb idea. So when i texted her she responded to me but kept giving me 1-2 text responses.

I appreciate if you are trying to help me. Im just trying to solve this situation so I can stop thinking about it

Im sorry there isn't really any TLDR.

So i really did use most of the advice given to me and i did appreciate every part of it even though i was told a variety of different things. Regardless that girl I tried to pursue about a month and a half ago, texted me after she finds out that i was going to ask her to prom since we were talking alot and i'm pretty sure i was being friendly. (Sorry for my English) So basically I plan on asking her to prom, she texts me saying how she wants to go with her friends and then someone comes along and asks her to prom that isn't me and she says yes. After that happened i guess you can say i went through the 5 stages of grief which kinda sucked because after i did accepted what happened. I had a bit of an aftereffect where i was just super depressed. Right now i've been avoiding her and i have felt better than i was when i was trying to figure out was going on.

TL;DR: I've moved on yet there are some strangling feelings left for her, but overall I'm doing much better. Thanks you for your time and your thoughts

 

i think you should give it a shot man girls like confidence you should just approach her and ask her if maybe shed like to catch a movie or if shed like to go out sometime, regardless of what her friends think it doesn't matter just give it a shot you'll never know unless you try man

 

[Proc]

I would suggest to try and find a way to get over her (going out and meeting some other girls or hanging out/dating other girls at your school maybe?). I don't think trying to force something on her that she more than likely doesn't want is a good idea. I know getting your mind stuck on a particular girl or woman may suck, but you have to realize you having a desire to be in a romantic relationship with someone who does not reciprocate it only hurts the type of relationship she sounds like she wants (friendship). Most of the time trying to move from a platonic friendship to a romantic realtionship will not happen, as there is a reason it was platonic to begin with. It's more enjoyable when you find someone who immediately finds you attractive, wants that type of relationship with you, etc. Hope this helps

 

Trying to start a relationship or continue one with somebody who doesn't totally like/love you isn't an endeavour you want to take on. Trust me from experience it's hard as fuck but consider yourself lucky this happened now and not much later on. Can't force something man.

 

[sniperrex9]

I appreciate all the advice given thanks guys.

 

I appreciate all the advice given thanks guys.

Another point is girls are extremely influenced by their friends especially at that age. If they don't like you or there's some tension there it's unlikely to work out. Trust me again from experience.

 

[kmjt]

You say she knows that you like her so if that were the case and she liked you back, it would be more obvious. It sounds like she is just trying to be nice to you about it.

 

[Program]

It seems to me you aren't close with her so you have nothing to lose. Ask her to hang out and try to make it go somewhere. If she says no or it can't go anywhere then drop it and move on. There's no point in not giving it a try first though.

 

[Articus]

My man, just go up to her and confront her, she ain't gonna eat chyo ass. Haha

 

[Gun]

Even though it's said so much, girls love confidence. As long as she's not just a stuck up bitch, she will give you a shot for the confidence.

 

[Shreddedz]

If I were you - be a complete dick and a playa - forget about her and just act cool and casual... let her come to you bro chase is all

 

[DRSX]

Trying to start a relationship or continue one with somebody who doesn't totally like/love you isn't an endeavour you want to take on. Trust me from experience it's hard as fuck but consider yourself lucky this happened now and not much later on. Can't force something man.

Absolutely agree with you, I've also experienced that the hard way.

 

[Rosed]

If I were you - be a complete dick and a playa - forget about her and just act cool and casual... let her come to you bro chase is all

Sounds like the only interaction you have had with females is your mom tbh...

Can't tell if your kidding or retarded.

 

[Diviner]

Sounds like the only interaction you have had with females is your mom tbh...

Can't tell if your kidding or retarded.

sometimes it works

 

[Olympia]

You are overthinking it an completely obsessed with this girl. You have oneitis, there are 4 billion woman in the world, don't go crazy over a single one. Girls like confidence, men that are desired by other woman and show it. You are not doing yourself a favor by dreaming and jerking off about this girl 24/7, either ask her out, or move on. You will just become her gay friend if you don't act. Be dominant, don't be a doormat.

 

[shrimp scampi]

ignore other posts saying she does not like you SHE LIKES YOU IF SHE SMILES girls are bad at showing their love you must show you are show that you are better than other people at your age girls are very easy to charm be good at something cool like sport or maybe band and she will come to you make sure you are very clear that you wish to be in with her

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Ah high school, gotta love it. See if you can set up to hang out over text (casually) then make them power moves in person. If shes diggin you, you'll take it from there. If not, you will know when the mood is not right. Best of luck, and put your mind on something else while your at. Girls just eat your brain away! Best of luck.

 

[mulled]

Just go for the girl if you like her, try take her out for a date or something. Don't worry about what other people think, they will eventually get along with you.

 

[92go0d]

I think you're overthinking the situation as you seem to point out and that its basically you really care for a girl but she seems(?) to have other priorities. I think before anything you should realise that whatever does happen, everything will be ok regardless and that this is something everyone kind of goes through. The best way to overcome a crush is to obviously take a leap of faith and just tell her. This will end in two ways:
1. Rejection - but it doesn't mean the end of you/her being friends or the end of pretty much anything and it gives you time to get over it and move on with you life.
2. Acceptance - then yay you can stop thinking about it 24/7 and potentially move on to something more.
There isn't really any other way to solve a problem that involves having feelings for another person. If you do nothing, then you'll stay in the same place you are right now.

Either way, if her brother is pushing the relationship as much as you describe, I'm sure he thinks you and her a good fit. She just seems shy from what you described.

 

[GVT Hulk]

You say she knows you like her.. if she liked you, she'd say something. It's a lost cause dude.