Yet another girl situation...

[IxI Duality IxI]

Alrighty then, hmm - how to make this short? Not sure if I can. So let me begin - well I started seeing this chick I work with (she is kind of new). So days go by, and I talk to her everyday - and I think she deff likes me. I got her number, and texted her for just a day. Then the next day at work she asked for a ride, so I said sure. So I drove her home and she hugged me in the car, and I told her we should hang on one of our days off, and she said yeah.

So next day comes around, and I'm leaving while she is coming in. So it seemed liked she was looking for another ride but I kinda wasn't feeling it so I sort of switch topics. So I left work and hanged at my friends, and felt kind bad - So I texted her if she still needed a ride and she said yeah.

So I picked her up, and she said some like "I'm stressing out.", and I asked why? She said she was going to break up with her boyfriend (wat da hellz?, i didn't even know this chick had a BF - my idiot self should of asked her!) So I was just like "Oh wow really why?" and she was telling me reasons and stuff. She also said he might get a job where we work at. (Ohhhhh shhhhiii--)

I really didn't want to hear that BS so when she was done I switched topics. So she told me this place is opening up and nearby and saying that "we" should go, so I said yeah for sure. So I dropped her off and basically hugged again.

My question is, is she breaking up with him for me? I felt pissed inside because I feel like she is just venting out her problem(s) and I'm like her sponge absorbing, just telling her what she wants to hear. But if I think, she could be giving me hints that she is trying to get with me. Not sure what to think - But I was thinking on asking her out to the movies and then after that let her start making moves.

Dang, that was hella long. Thanks for all that read through the whole essay.

TL;DR - Girl is breaking up with boyfriend most likely for me? About to ask her out to movies,etc. and after, don't interact with her much to see if she makes any moves? Your thoughts?

 

[Pockets]

This seems to have escalated fast.. and by fast I mean REALLY fast. You have no idea what kind of relationship she has with her boyfriend, she may of been with him for 2+ years and she's already wanting to move on to another guy? That doesn't sound normal and I'd tread carefully when dealing with her. If I were you I'd already stop contact, tell her to work things out with her boyfriend and THEN contact you, especially if she's already hinting towards you two moving to another job together kind of like "running away together."

Learn more about her, and her situation with her boyfriend, THEN make your move with wanting to take her to the movies etc..

Escalated fast? They hugged and might be going to a nearby place opening up.

It doesn't sound to me like she's into you based on the conversations you've had, although it's plausible. Also, like chloecat said, a girl who breaks up with her boyfriend and then immediately starts another relationship is probably not a girl you want to be in a relationship with.

A lot of the details here are pretty vague (type of workplace, age, how long she's been with her boyfriend, the new place opening up, your past experiences, etc) that make it difficult to say.

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Escalated fast? They hugged and might be going to a nearby place opening up.

It doesn't sound to me like she's into you based on the conversations you've had, although it's plausible. Also, like chloecat said, a girl who breaks up with her boyfriend and then immediately starts another relationship is probably not a girl you want to be in a relationship with.

A lot of the details here are pretty vague (type of workplace, age, how long she's been with her boyfriend, the new place opening up, your past experiences, etc) that make it difficult to say.

Alright well she is 18 and I am -- lets say I'm between 18-21 haha. We both work at a restaurant. I'm not sure how long she has been with her boyfriend. But it's got me thinking, a while back we were all joking with a few coworkers and one the girls told her jokingly "Oh you don't have a man!" and she laughed.

Her facebook also says single. Could she of just made this stuff up just to see if I'd admit my feelings? New place opening up is a haunted house attraction in our area. My past experiences - of dealing with what? Thanks for the feedback. I also might call/text her tonight to see if she wants to go to the movies tomorrow, then after I will purposely stop showing so much interest.

 

[Raising Hope]

If you're interested then go for it and take her out a few times and get to know her a bit. To me this sounds like an easy ride home from work for her everyday but that's just my opinion who knows maybe she just thinks you're cute and doesn't care about your car keys and pay check. I feel like she was just telling you about her boyfriend to let you know that shes available and wanted you to make a move. Are you even looking for a relationship right now or just looking for a strictly sexually relationship? Sounds like this girl doesn't like to be alone and I mean at all because she's not even over with her current boyfriend and is already looking for replacements.

 

[Matresa]

Well, if you really like her and think you'd like something serious with her, I'd say you should possibly help her get through the breakup right now, DO NOT RUSH THINGS, she'll need some time to heal and whatnot.

Take advantage of this time she'll need and get to know her well, as I said no need to rush anything. I'd say at least 3 months, so she can have some time off and you can know each other better. If at that point things are looking good, the interest is mutual and you'd like to go for it, then do so.

I went through a very similar situation where I thought a girl might have broken up with someone because of me, but no need to immediately think that. Try and find out why they broke up, how long they were together, etc., perhaps it was for the best that they broke up as it happened with me. The guy was the biggest fucking douche and wasn't even treating her well.

Anyways got a bit drifted off there, bottom line is she'll need some time, and why not help her get through it. Tell her what she needs to hear, motivate her and whatnot. And do me a favor, even if she IS giving hints that she wants to date you, don't rush it. It could end up being just a rebound thing, then you'll feel like a dick and your emotions will be played with as well.

Good luck bud, I know how chicks can be tricky.

 

[Keller337]

She probably is making up this stuff to try to get you to admit that you liked her etc... Probably fishing for a "Now I can be your boyfriend" reply...

Yeah.

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Update: I knew this chick was lying without a doubt. I told her how did it go with her boyfriend and she was like "I left him", then she was saying that he didn't the job at our place. Wtf?

So I asked her to the movies (over text) and she was just all bland with her response like Ya ok, but im broke. So I just said it's all good, then she texts me saying "Iight". Like what? I dig this chick when I'm talking to her but from now on I'm just going to call her.

So the next phase is movies, I'm going to quiz her too about her ex-"relationship" - I'll update this thread to let you guys/gals know how it goes - then I am going to lack some interest in her to see if she starts coming to me. Lataa pimps n' playas!

 

[Pockets]

Update: I knew this chick was lying without a doubt. I told her how did it go with her boyfriend and she was like "I left him", then she was saying that he didn't the job at our place. Wtf?

So I asked her to the movies (over text) and she was just all bland with her response like Ya ok, but im broke. So I just said it's all good, then she texts me saying "Iight". Like what? I dig this chick when I'm talking to her but from now on I'm just going to call her.

So the next phase is movies, I'm going to quiz her too about her ex-"relationship" - I'll update this thread to let you guys/gals know how it goes - then I am going to lack some interest in her to see if she starts coming to me. Lataa pimps n' playas!

Forget her imo. Why would you want a chick who is already lying to you?

 

Don't leave your current job for her, it's not worth it. She could fuck you over just as fast and you'd be out of a job with no girl.

 

[Raising Hope]

Want to go to the movies? "I'm broke", Want to pitch in for gas for driving you home everyday? "I can't sorry, I have no extra money" I know you didn't ask her for gas money but you should and that's most likely what she'd say. Anyways how did she survive before she met you? Things cost money and I'm sure she's not that destitute where she can't afford 20 dollars to go see a movie. This girl sounds like she's just looking for someone to skate her through life with minimal work other than holding a boyfriend for as long as she can. If I'm going on a date with someone I'd pay but that's just the guy I am but I'm definitively not adding someone to my list of bills for the month or giving her an allowance! You guys just met and look at the things you're doing for her already, driving her home, paying for her movie and most likely all the food and drinks to like come on in 3 months I can see her getting pregnant mysteriously even though she's on the "pill" and you guys were safe. My ex and I had a system if she bought the tickets I'd buy the food and we switch or if one of us couldn't afford it this time we'd get it next time and if we ate out I'd pay the bill and next time she'd pay the bill it's just fair that way.

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Next update: Alright so we went to the movies. So driving her there I did my quiz. Now either this girl is telling the truth or one of the best liars I've met. So I asked her how'd it go with her boyfriend. Then I asked her if she called or texted him, and she hesitated at first - I tried to get a good glimpse at her eyes but I was focusing driving. She said she texted him. She said she was with him for about 4 years off and on.

Then she went on saying she left him and was with someone else...then she was blabbering saying he still wants her back, and that she needs to give him his stuff back (clothes, etc.) As for the job situation she said that he doesn't try to find a job and he gets crazy jealous because most of her friends are guys.

Next step is to disengage contact - most likely a Hey at least when I see her. But after that study what she is doing.

 

[Puppet Master]

Don't eat where you poop man.

 

Sounds like a really messed up situation. For one she could have been in a relationship and was looking for someone to comfort her and confide in. Or she would be trying to get you to admit your feelings for her, could go both ways. You said you've known her for a coupe of day, maybe get to know one another a little more before you start thinking about beginning a relationship with her? (If that is what your wanting) In most cases, it's just best to do what your gut thinks.

 

[Pockets]

Dude warning flags everywhere. Do what you want but pursuing this sounds like a worse and worse idea with every post you make.

1. You already don't trust her.
2. You work at the same place.
3. Most her friends are guys.

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Update update: Well I come back with upsetting news. So I avoided her much for one day and just got one conversation from her coming to me, which was work related. (Whackkk). Next day comes (today), start about two conversations then avoid.

Shes done her shift and so was I. She called me over to talk to her, me being the idiot that I am came over instantly. So we talk about random stuff for about 30 minutes. I'd figured she want a ride, so I said you waiting for your ride? She said no she is walking home with a co-worker than getting a ride from there.

After this then I left and said peace to everyone. Then as I was getting a drink in the back I saw my coworker gave her a hug and my other co-workers were like "Ooooh". Now that really got me pissed off. So now I am in a situation. I am cool with this co-worker (who is now consider a rival, but still a cool dude.) Should I continue my quest and just tell her I like her? Or should I confront my co-worker saying that I think she likes me.

Is this just a stupid game to see if I will slip up?, or does this girl need constant attention as you said Pockets? This is now just going to make me start hanging out with other girls. Thanks for all who are still continuing to read this thread.

 

Sounds like she does have a need for attention. Perhaps steer clear, if she wants you she'll come to you. You shouldn't cash after someone who is willing to hop guy to guy (even if it was an act to get your attention)

 

[sith kid]

Actions speak louder than words. Don't tell her that you are attracted to her, show it in your actions. You can spend days on end obsessing over a chick and microanalysing every detail, but that road doesn't have an end. A direct approach will not only weed out the chicks that are just playing with you, but it will save a lot of time, effort and date money. If she's attracted to you and you actually do something about it, i.e. physically escalate shortly after assuming attraction, you will probably hook up with a girl. If not, who cares? You tried and that's enough to keep your ego at check, besides it beats doing what you're doing now; still wondering after 5 days.

I hope I wasn't too brutally honest, but that's the soundest advice I have for you.

 

[Jay Zee]

Kind of an interesting situation. I'd like to hear more about what happens

 

[Pures_Pride]

keep updating the first post with what happens next rather interested

 

[ASAPgang]

Don't go forward and tell the co-worker she has feelings toward you, because that would be manipulating and lying.
No offence to your half, but interrogating her in regards to her ex/current boyfriend would be a slight turn off for her, no doubt.

like you said.. they've been "on and off".. any couple that says that, are obviously going through the "off" phase, and will be back "on" soon enough..