There is this girl.. Advice needed

[Mr.cettz]

Were do i start >_<

It all started around December 2011, when this girl that hated me started to talk to me, we started to hang out and one thing lead to another thing. She liked me but at the time when she started to develop feelings for me I started seeing this girl ( I didn't know the girl I started to hang out with liked me) it only lasted for around 2 months because the girl was a total b***. The girl that I was hanging out with told me she liked me and I didn't know what to say, I just replied with a generic okay, after that we didn't talk for a good 1-2 months... For that time I couldn't stop thinking about her so i had to tell her that there was some kind of feelings there for her so I told her about how I couldn't stop thinking about her that whole entire time but she told me she got over me, so if she got over me I had to get over her.. We hung out a lot during the holidays, I went to her place, she came to mine. This happened for about 1-2 months and I knew I REALLY liked her.. When I told her how my feeling for her grew stronger she said she liked me as well.

The next day she invited me over to her place because it was a really hot day and she had a pool, a couple of her friends came with some alcohol so they got drunk, really drunk. The girl that I liked a lot came up to me and told me that she is still madly in love with her ex and cant stop thinking about him... I thought it was just the alcohol talking so I didn't really think much of it until the next day when she told me she actually did have strong feelings for her ex so I told her that she should figure out what she wants before we head into anything serious.

By the time this happened it was around April of 2012, I found out that she hooked up with my good friend so when I found that out I knew I had to get over her but it didn't happen, after about July we started talking again and she told me that she would like a relationship next year (2013) me being the stupid idiot that I am I told her that I would wait for her... I basically found out the next month that she started to like this guy around 2-3 months after we started to talk and I was basically just her rebound if something ever went wrong with her and this guy.

Its been around 5-6 months and I still like her A LOT and basically nothing has changed, we started talking again last week and we have been friends, this guy rejected her and nothing really happened with them since he rejected her. There is this girl that likes me a lot and I just cant go out with her knowing the fact that I like this girl...

Long story short. This girl I liked for a long time basically only used me as a rebound if something with the guy she met and liked 2 months after we started talking and now there is this girl that likes me and wants a relationship but I cant because of how much has happened since 2011..


What do I do?

 

[Swan]

Suck it up buttercup. That's life.

Hah, sorry I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm being serious. This is something you should really learn for yourself. I've been through the whole rebound scenario and I'm sure a lot of people have, and there's nothing anyone can say that will change anything for you. These sorts of experiences are valuable in growing up, believe it or not, because you learn from them.

If it's really getting to your head, I'd suggest phone counselling or something where you're talking with someone who's actually trained to walk you through what you're thinking. Posting here won't really help you at all. In fact, I think this kind of thing is actually detrimental because psychologically you may or may not just be searching for a sympathetic outlet for your feelings.

Sorry to be blunt, but I can't really say it any other way.

 

[Mr.cettz]

Suck it up buttercup. That's life.

Hah, sorry I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm being serious. This is something you should really learn for yourself. I've been through the whole rebound scenario and I'm sure a lot of people have, and there's nothing anyone can say that will change anything for you. These sorts of experiences are valuable in growing up, believe it or not, because you learn from them.

If it's really getting to your head, I'd suggest phone counselling or something where you're talking with someone who's actually trained to walk you through what you're thinking. Posting here won't really help you at all. In fact, I think this kind of thing is actually detrimental because psychologically you may or may not just be searching for a sympathetic outlet for your feelings.

Sorry to be blunt, but I can't really say it any other way.

Thank you for your input and trust me, my friend has basically said what you have said but even blunter!

 

[Swan]

Thank you for your input and trust me, my friend has basically said what you have said but even blunter!

Well, sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind.

If you really want to talk to someone, talk to a school counselor or chaplain, or if you have access to neither then there are usually free phone counselling services available (though that may depend on your country)

 

[Mr.cettz]

Well, sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind.

If you really want to talk to someone, talk to a school counselor or chaplain, or if you have access to neither then there are usually free phone counselling services available (though that may depend on your country)

Okay I may just try that Thanks

 

[Host]

Move on, and look at the positives, you've learnt a lesson. Now if a similar situation arises you know to make your feelings clear to her before it's too late.

 

[Deathsnova]

Forget that hoe, honestly just go out with your guy friends again untill you meet another nice girl. Girls like her end up being slutty or ending up in abusive relationships, its a vicious cycle. Cry it out and listen to some love songs if you have to but get back into the saddle after a few days. Best of luck!

 

[Elena]

Ditch the girl you like she is using you. Girls like her are players, if you guys do go out I am pretty sure she would cheat on you. You never know that girl that likes you can be the one and you would forget all about the other girl.