Yeah.. Help.

[The debater]

I'm 17 year's old. I've been dating the same girl for 2 years now. I need some help guys;

My parent's are very religious, i'm not, im basically an athiest. Anyway, a few days ago i was hanging around with her and we were making out, and my parent's walked into the same exact store. My dad was outraged because he doesn't want me dating. He says i cannot meet her, and if he catches me with her, i'm in alot of shit.

I want to be with her.
My parent's don't want me too.
It can end really badly if they catch me.

I can't talk to my parents, so that's out of the question.

Should i wait for them too cool down ?

I do love this girl.

Help me please people of sythe! :'(

 

[The debater]

Anyone?

 

[Queen]

They shouln't do that, you have the right to love a woman. You're 17, You have the right to make your own decisions.
I'm sorry I can't help you that mutch. You should have a talk with your parents. Tell them your feelings for this girl, if they still don't allow you to see her I have no idea what to do.

 

[woodcut ox]

Well, whenever my parents tell me not to do something i don't listen in general. And I just deal with whatever happens.
If you truly believe your parents are wrong and you are in "love" go for it. There's a time where you got to sprout wings and fly on your own, and based on what i got from what you posted, it seems your parents have you by your balls still.

It would also help me if you could tell me what religion your parents are (some are stricter then others).

 

[Lilly]

Excessive public affection is so trashy first of all. Secondly, it is your like regardless of age, parents try to pull the age card constantly but the first time you stand up for yourself they generally get the idea that you're able to make decisions, assuming your standing up for the proper cause.

 

[naggiii]

I've seen this type of thing before. Rather than getting angry with your parents and having a battle, sit them down and have a serious heart-to-heart conversation. Let them know how you feel about this girl and really tell them your feelings. They're your parents, they love you, and they always just want the best for you. If you're 100% honest with them and you sit them down and have a real talk, they'll completely understand. They may not approve, but if you tell them how much you care about her and that even without their approval they can't stop you from seeing her, they'll know there's nothing they can do. You may be under their custody, but it is YOUR life, and you ARE allowed to do what you want with it.

 

[The debater]

Excessive public affection is so trashy first of all. Secondly, it is your like regardless of age, parents try to pull the age card constantly but the first time you stand up for yourself they generally get the idea that you're able to make decisions, assuming your standing up for the proper cause.

It was a kiss for about 15 seconds, sorry for the misconception.

My parent's are islamic, but i don't believe in religion. They WONT listen to me, they just won't. My parent's think im using this girl or messing with her, and when i say im not, they don't trust me.

 

[Lilly]

It was a kiss for about 15 seconds, sorry for the misconception.

My parent's are islamic, but i don't believe in religion. They WONT listen to me, they just won't. My parent's think im using this girl or messing with her, and when i say im not, they don't trust me.

instead of just saying you're not present a legitimate reason why they should allow you to see her.

 

You're almost 18, it's time to show your parents that you're growing up. If I were in your position I'd ignore them completely and deal with the consequences. If they ground you, find ways around it. I think it's completely retarded when parents decide that their kids shouldn't date if they're over 16, and if you can't talk to your parents about it, get them to roll over and accept it. Show them that nothing bad will come of going out with a girl.

BUT if they don't like you going out with girls because your grades are low or for some other legitimate reason, then maybe it's best you tone it down with this girl. Maybe start seeing her once a week and start bracing for a break-up. School should take priority over girls, even if you love her. You're only 17 so love will find you again at a better time.

 

[TheGoon]

Ya this shouldn't be flying.... If your dad told you he's going to do something to you tell him he might as well do it...

1) That's child abuse.
2) He won't even do it.


You gotta take your ground, if they aren't going to listen, make them.. I feel bad for this poor girl having to witness all of this, and for you of course brother.

Make sure she knows you're not your parents, and she isn't going to be looking forward to any of your parents traits.

As my parents used to be very over bearing i finally layed down some facts for em and just opened up, spilled my guts and how i feel/felt about how they shelter me and smother me... If you do this it might open their eyes a little like it did mine.

You're not converting their religion, you just want to talk to em.

Goodluck bud.

 

[SmallKid]

It was a kiss for about 15 seconds, sorry for the misconception.

My parent's are islamic, but i don't believe in religion. They WONT listen to me, they just won't. My parent's think im using this girl or messing with her, and when i say im not, they don't trust me.

If that's what they're saying, they DONT believe you, and this means seeing someone who can help you like a psychiatrist (don't know the word for it)

If they don't believe you, let them see someone professional. Be 100% honest and tell him or her your problem.

Not to be racist, but usually immigrants of any kind that come from a strict background think that there are different rights and wrongs, so you need to seek professional advice.

Or just break up, but I wouldn't recommend that.

Or if it escalates, you have the option to file a report against your parents, but I wouldn't ever do that, they're your parents and if they don't like you having a girl around, it's better than them hating on you for another few years...

 

[The debater]

I talked with them. The situation is better.

 

[DeFyGFX]

Do you pray? Was just wondering. Im muslim too