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Before we start this off i'm seventeen years old.

I've been dating a girl, she's perfect for me, beautiful, funny,smart, balanced everything.

My mom thinks that this girl has been corrupting me as we have fought alot (my parents and me) and they think it's because i have some "source" and they're blaming it on this girl. Keep in mind i have Asian parents, and live in an Asian country, so dating is not so easy.
Anyway, yesterday me and my mom fought, and my mom called my girlfriends mom and told her we were dating (THIS IS FUCKING BAD AS HELL). My girlfriend has no contact with me, facebook gone, phone gone everything. I love this girl, so much and i just don't know what to do. Her mom finding out is disgustingly bad, and if her dad finds out shes dead.

Should i be moving on or waiting for something, anything. I can't go on without this girl, she means everything to me. Please people of sythe, advise me. What do i do?
 
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Move on? No; it's only been a day. If she lives close by, maybe you should take a trip to her house and try and talk to her mom about it. If it's love, maybe you can convince her that it isn't a bad thing, regardless of the way you live and how things happen. If you get approval, or whatever it is that you can get, if its positive, ask her father for permission. Explain how you feel. I'm not aware of your culture, but definitely try that. The only thing that can happen is that you get denied permission to see her and talk to her. See how the girl feels, as well, if you get the chance. She might not want to sneak around if it comes down to it, and if it does come down to it, respect her wishes and leave her be. This can all take a very long time to happen, but try it if you think by any means it would work or give you some sort of path to go down.
 
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Then change, ask your mum for another chance.

That girl should be bringing out the better in you, but that doesn't look like your mother sees that.

It's still early, explain your situation with your mum, tell her how it isn't because of the girl. Say something like how your mum opened your eyes, and that it wasn't related to the girl. Maybe your mum would call her mum and say something. Or from there, give it a a day or 2 and apologize to her mum. Say you had a heated argument with your mother and she just basically jumped the gun. You've mended your relationship with your mother, and ask to be given another chance or at least be able to get in touch with that girl.
 
Is the girl 17 too? Or younger?
Also when you're parents think she's been corrupting you, does that mean your grades have been slipping or are they just going crazy because you are still the same person before having met your gf? Also is she herself asain?

I know asian parents can be a lot more strict than others, or at least more strict in certain ways, but you are turning into an adult and they need to realize that you are going to be making your own decisions and that includes on who you date. Some parents just forget that their kids are no longer kids.
 
She's asiaaan too. I can't talk to her parents, our culture doesn't work that way. This girl is scared as hell now, because her mom probably screamed the shit out of her. I don't know guys, i can tell she is "The one", cliche as it sounds. Should i just let her move on? Or should I wait out? My mother will never understand this, everything i say is taken sarcastically.

Day 2: Haven't heard from her but heard from her best friends, one friend said give up, the other said just keep waiting. I'm so hurt.
 
Honestly mate, if she means so much to do, it will be worth it to wait. Cause if she feels the same for you, then waiting a little couldn't hurt right? Even if it takes some time, if she's the one, then you'll have the rest of your life with her (cliche sounding yea)
 
Like my peers, I think you should just wait for this girl if she means so much to you. No offense, but you're 17 and you're almost an adult and can make decisions for yourself. I don't know why your parents are holding you back to make your own decisions.
 
It also depends on legal age limit's. I am not sure if there are any where you are from, but for example in the US there are age limit laws, Also, you are so young so you need to make sure that you actually "love" her and it's not just puppy love.
 
Its been long and i haven't felt this way about someone. And we've talked a bit. It's OK.
 
Ok, so basiccally just wait a few days or maybe a week or 2, then talk to your mom about it nicely, then go over to your girlfriends hoise and apoligize and ask if you and your girlfriend can date again, but remmber o be super respectfull. And dont give up on her just give it some time for your mom and her mom to cool off. Then talk to them about you and your girlfriend datin again!
 
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This is rough. Could you do some romeo juliet style knock on her window at 12am or organise to meet her by calling one of her friends? I Don't get why your parents don't want you to be together, are you from different social classes? It's sad that type of prejudiced still exists but you can't let this girl go. I realise in Asian countries it's all about respecting your parents but after you turn 18 you should have a bit more freedom to date whomever you want. Maybe you should watch the movie Sunflower it's all about a kid whose dad wants him to become an artist but the kid rebels against his parents in order to stay with a girl. It's very touching and has a nice ending so maybe if you have a spare hour or few you could rent it somwhere, it's completly in mandarin but you can watch it with english subtitles. Hope your situation works out.
 
I'd wait it out. I don't wanna sound rude but I don't know if she is the one. I am 26 an dated my GF now almost 2 years and we still fight a lot. Trust me things will get better. Send her a message and then the ball is in her court.
 
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