When its time to move on.

IMVUFret · Dec 28, 2012

There's this guy who I like. but its hard to see him. He lives nearly a hour away from me. He works a lot.
I met him at a party, and we hit it off. its been nearly 2 weeks since I've seen him. I've made every effort to hang out with him. without looking like a foul. but I think he finds excuses on why he cant hang out. I've been down to his home city the past 3 days hanging out with friends the people i met him threw.
Today I got home and decided I was done trying and told myself I was gonna move on. I deleted our conversation his number and erased him from my mind. but he texts me everyday.
I mean is he playing games? Cause I'm not down. and if this is how its gonna be I just wanna walk. I don't wanna talk about it with him threw text though because I feel like I'll look like a foul.

So please give me your OPINION. What do you think about all this?

The debater · Dec 28, 2012

If he takes the time to text you, he's not lying about hanging out with you. Hold on and wait for him to ask and just talk to him.

Cynthia · Dec 28, 2012

Wouldn't know as i am not not male but... he doesn't really seems to be playing games, he just works allot it seems, give him a chance

Integrate · Dec 28, 2012

In my opinion maybe he isnt interested in you as much as you are in him. He might text you everyday to dont make you feel like your just another one (This, if he puts several excuses as you say).

Other than that, he wants to hang out but as said above, he seems like a busy person so just give him some time. I mean not much longer if he didnt see you for 2 weeks? If there was a girl I really liked I would do anything to see her

EarlWolf · Dec 28, 2012

If he's a busy guy and manages to put forth the time to converse with you, he's probably interested in you. He might just be working so often that he can't devote time to you.

Now the key to a relationship is communication and happiness so start with that. Talk to him, tell him your concerns. If he's interested, he'll make an effort to hang out with you. If he's not committed as much as you want him to be, then you need to evaluate it for what it is and decide if you're happy or unhappy because frankly it's not worthwhile staying in an unhappy relationship.

Fuzzybear · Dec 28, 2012

By the sounds, he wants to try but is busy. Hence the texts.

I say have a good honest open chat with him. Or surprise ihm when you know he isn't busy.

Elena · Dec 29, 2012

Yeah, Honestly, He is A) Ether stringing you a long so no one else can have you.
or B) He actually Cares and that's why he continues to text you. Bottom line is you have to search your feelings hun and if you want to be with him then make it work and if you don't well then break it off completely before things become even more emotionally attached then they already are.

Saint Grimm · Dec 29, 2012

Hmmm I had a thing like this with a girl I really really cared about when I was younger. We would always make plans to spend time together then she would end up not doing it. It went on for bout a year or so before I gave up. Within a year of me just trying to show this girl I cared she let me do so bout once a month. Needless to say, I gave up and moved the fuck on. I can't say if its the same with this guy as it was with her, bit even though you dont want to look like a foul, it would probably be better off asking him if he was just fuckin you around or if he really had shit to do, although that probably wouldnt matter because after a month I started askin that girl the same shit and she always said she wasnt fuckin me around and was just busy.

R · Dec 29, 2012

Fact of life: guys are dicks.

A good kick up the arse usually does the trick, tell him how it is. Tell him you're interested in him if he's prepared to make the effort - I doubt he's so busy he can't manage to EVER hang out..