Suspicions she's lying?

[The Ract]

So, my best friend and I were supposed to spend thanksgiving together (I was going with her to her Aunt's). We planned this around a month ago, and got all the okays we needed.

She texted me today saying her sister's friend was gonna be stuck in boston with no family because she lives in Mexico, and that her sister gets to bring her friend instead so I can't go.

If this is / were true, I wouldn't care, as I do want to spend thanksgiving with my family as well. However, it doesn't really make sense. Her mom doesn't seem like the one who would say I couldn't come after she already said I could.

What I think happened is she wanted her new boyfriend (just got outta jail, supposed blood member) to go, so she cancelled on me and had him come and just lied to me.

Do I say anything? or just leave it as it is? I could definitely see her doing this.

 

[HNCdice]

So, my best friend and I were supposed to spend thanksgiving together (I was going with her to her Aunt's). We planned this around a month ago, and got all the okays we needed.

She texted me today saying her sister's friend was gonna be stuck in boston with no family because she lives in Mexico, and that her sister gets to bring her friend instead so I can't go.

If this is / were true, I wouldn't care, as I do want to spend thanksgiving with my family as well. However, it doesn't really make sense. Her mom doesn't seem like the one who would say I couldn't come after she already said I could.

What I think happened is she wanted her new boyfriend (just got outta jail, supposed blood member) to go, so she cancelled on me and had him come and just lied to me.

Do I say anything? or just leave it as it is? I could definitely see her doing this.

Tricky situation! If you do call her out on it you run the risk of looking like a tool. however I would take the chance. Hell even better, go see her the day she is supposed to leave, like right before they do and see who is there.

Also, if you have a feeling your gf will cheat on you like that, then i wouldn't stay with her anyways. Trust a HUGE part of a relationship and without it its nothing more than a friendship.

Cheers

 

[The Ract]

Well, we're not dating, which is why I don't want to say anything out of line. But, idk. I just feel like she would do something like this.

 

[titanlord1]

cant you just talk to the mother who invited you? be sneaky like saying "hey (girls mom) after i was told i couldnt come it turned out that i had plans elsewhere" ..etc so if it was the mom who didnt invite you then youd know for sure. if she was telling the truth then shell be reluctant. if ur friend was lying then she would have said "well tahts odd i remember inviting you...etc.

what do you think?

 

[The Ract]

Well, for one, i'm at college and don't really now how to contact her, and two, she'd then say something to my friend (even if she is telling the truth) which would get her mad at me for thinking she was lying. Also sounds kinda weird for me to ask her mom that >.< maybe if when im home, and over her house that's a possibility.

 

[Dragon Balls]

If you guys aren't dating, you should just leave it as it is. My answer is probably the most simplest as I don't think you want to cause trouble or break the friendship bond.

 

[Azie]

if you aren't dating then I would leave it and move on cause you wouldn't want to cause trouble in your friendship. If you have feelings for her (you might as you made the thread) then it would be better to speak about it to her in a normal way (don't make her think wtf) about it.

 

[Lean]

I'd just leave it alone man, if she's lieing then you already know the reason behind her doing so, since your just friends it's pretty common for a girl to choose her boyfriend over her long time best friends for the time being.

 

[The Ract]

Yeah, I guess you guys are right. I just wish she would have straight up said or asked me if she is lying.

 

[Loyal 2 da game]

man just a heads up, id avoid gettin' too friendly with her, her boyfriend sounds scary as fuck........... ese

 

[HNCdice]

Didn't realize you were not dating. In that case, you are pretty much friendzoned and anything you say will just distance you from her. So if you really do like her, then wait it out, ask her about the trip and hell even be up front about it. "Because its better to say too much than never say what you needed to say at all"

 

[Alex12345]

if i were you i'd contact the mother, somehow, and ask if she had a nice time with whoever it was your friend was supposed to be going with bring it up in a general conversation i suppose.

 

[Galaxy]

I say just talk to her. If you can't be straight up with your best friend with open lines of communication are yall really that close of friends?

 

[Endrit007]

Just leave it as it is, even if she lied, she has her reasons probably. And you're not dating anyway.

 

[Methasode Pker]

lmfao blood member ahahahahaha ......
your not dating ... point being u'll ruin a friendship over a thanksgiving dinner

 

[Gold Pack]

Let it be, dont ruin something over something like this, but if yo think you are sure do the right thing

 

[Snowbear]

Calling her out isn't worth the risk in my opinion. You aren't even dating. Enjoy your Thanksgiving with your family and just give her some time.

I do want to point out however that if she did cancel on you in order for him to go that is extremely rude and I'd second guess her value as a friend if that was ever confirmed to be what happened.

 

[artshow]

I would leave it alone as well. You're not dating but I would take it at face value and realize she maybe lying to you. Also just know in the back of your mind you may not be able to trust her as much now. If you were dating I would tell you to say something.

 

[Krenshaw]

I think I mentioned this before but I'm not able to see my post so I'd recommend trying to meet her up in real life and ask for explanation face to face, that way you can make conclussions and either try and go for a relationship or tell her to fuck off lol

 

[Tornstol]

Just don't overthink. If you do, it's gonna be a bad time.