Call them up and ask then, each local town does stuff differently. As for the course thing if they offer one do it. Trust me it would be worth it grinding through it. Consider it like a bad quest in runescape, that you feel good about once you finish.
None of us on Sythe.org can offer you legal advice nor were we there to really know what happened. My advice is talk it over with your parents and see what they have to say. Chances are they have some wise advice

Unless you pay everything yourself you are better off being open and honest with them.