Just no point to anything anymore?

[Unregistered]

I went out with a girl since I was 15 to the age of 18. It's been about a month since we broke up and I'm still feeling really fucking lonely. I have friends to talk to, family to talk to, but it's just not the same. I could talk to her at anytime and she would respond. She knew me better than anyone else ever could just like I knew her better than anyone else could. We were best friends with each other for 3 years. The spark faded between us and she wanted the relationship to end but was too scared to do it. Too afraid to even fucking end the relationship. So I had to do it and did. It's been a month and I feel as if nothing I do is productive and everything is pointless. I feel like nothing I do progresses me in life without her. She was my rock. Knowing that whatever I was doing made her happy made me motivated enough to do it. I feel as if I've lost my purpose. I don't know if I'll ever get someone who I love that much again. I miss her so much. We haven't spoken at all since we broke up but her friends told some of my friends that she's just as broken as a result. I really don't know what to do. I don't know how long I can carry on like this.

 

You're not going to get over someone you loved instantly dude.
Stuff like this takes time, just keep doing what ever you're doing and in time, you will meet someone new and forget about her

 

[The Graphic Guy]

Why dont you two give it a try again?
Provided, you do not keep thinking about how its not working out or something.
Its usually this mental block that causes the problem even if it wasnt there initially.
Take care man

 

You should really get in contact with her again, I knew a couple where the guy thought the girl didn't want to be in the relationship so he kept pushing her away and he broke up with her, because he thought it was really what she wanted, but it was just because of the constant fighting and the break actually helped them, believe it or not, maybe there is hope for you two after all, a small break to sort things out.

If not, there's not much advice anyone can offer you, no one can tell you to just "get over her" because it's a lot more than just getting over someone you where with for an extremely long time. Keep active, keep your mind on other things and slowly you'll learn to live without her, it's hard, extremely hard but it's doable.

 

[Sixseveneightmate]

I really think you should give it a go. I have a girl like this myself and we fight once in a while. We broke up once and i was a mess. If you love her, and she doesn't do you wrong, don't let her go, try once more. If she denies you, then rough up and find a new one. It's how life goes bud.

 

4th stage of grief, acceptance comes next!

Good reading: http://www.sythe.org/miscellaneous-guides/1268967-guide-getting-through-breakup-tragedy.html

 

Time heals everything

 

[Raising Hope]

That's your problem you let someone become your rock rather than a partner. I don't know your life story but trust me the world keeps spinning. Life is to short to waste it crying over a girl especially a girl who got bored of you. Maybe that spark faded between you guys but trust me there's still a spark in you and it just needs to be lit by someone else, at least for awhile.

If she felt the same way and was so madly and deeply in love with you she'd be right by your side right now because when a girl has something good she's not letting go unless she's done and do you really want to be in a relationship with someone whose bored of you?

 

[Suburban Gangsta]

Takes time, just go partying, invent something, go out with friends, kill time. Live your life, it will go away. It's like trying to get over a death of a loved one in a month...it doesn't go back to normal in a month, takes time. Live your life, don't let bullshit bother you.

 

[TradeFortress]

It'll take awhile, if you were with her for 3 years. It's normal though, everyone goes through that phase when they end a relationship like that. Just do stuff to keep your time occupied or pick up some hobbies and one day you'll wake up and realize you don't even care anymore.

 

[lucspender]

just do stuff you enjoy doing, in a few weeks youll be fine