Homosexuality a choice?

Seems like a fucked up situation...LOL

Anyways, I've heard that being gay can be chosen or you can be born with it. There's no one answer, but, majority of the people are born with it. Therefore, I voted "no".

 

Yes, however, I don't think everyone can choose to be gay either. The 5 people I talked about above are my brother and My friends. My brother wishes he was gay, and has tried, but is just not attracted to men, just like how gay people say they are just not attracted to women. I find this very interesting because this would mean that not everyone can choosw to be gay and feel right about it, so would make me think it is more so not a choice otherwise straight peoplr who want to be gay could.

He is marries btw.

And sorry for all typos, I am posting from my Ipod and have fat fingers and it is too difficult to edit on these things for typos.

 

Your friend who "chooses" to be gay, isn't sexually gay but just gay as in the way society may see him.

You CANNOT just simply choose to be pleasured by the opposite sex

 

No he is sexually gay with his husband who is one of the others I was talking about. They got married in Canada but it is not officially recognized here (michigan). He is 27.

It is hard to tell and I think it differs by person. Some gay people are gay and choose to be. Some gay people are gay and don't choose to be. And some straight people are straight and don't choose to be.

Also, if it was true that someone can't choose to be pleasured by people of the opposite sex, how do you explain bisexuals? Unless you attempt to prove bisexuals do not exist your statement can not be true.

 

it is a choice saddly

 

Some peoples are just different ..

 

Whys that sad? It shows we have control over our own inhibitions.

Even though we don't consciously make the choice, it is our choice. This can be affected by nature and our interactive environment. But these affected areas of our decision making section of our brain is probably unnoticed by us.

This is true with alot of the things we feel we are just born with. It's kind of like your first language, it's hard to imagine not knowing our own language it just comes naturally and as an innate activity, when in reality we were conditioned in some way to remember and use this language. Now while this isn't exactly like choosing your sexuality, it does give some insight on how we make this unconscious choice in the beginning.

 

I mean when you're not biologically TOLD what to enjoy. Bisexuals are born like that, just like gay or straight people.

I CANNOT choose to enjoy the penis.

 

I know but juat because you can't doesn't mean no one can.

 

Okay, but I've yet to see proof where people can choose to alter their genetic disposition

 

You can choose to be pleasured by all means, most men are attracted to the way their partner makes them feel rather then what they look like on the outside. If a straight male was receiving oral sex by another man I don't see him not enjoying it, he's going to like the feeling and he'll climax. Then again not all men are the same, some aren't so secure with their own sexuality.

Your friend who "chooses" to be gay, isn't sexually gay but just gay as in the way society may see him

This makes no sense, his friend is gay because he experienced sex with a female and didn't like it but liked it better with a man that is the definition of being gay.

 

I've never seen proof of this besides a "story". He was born gay if he didn't like it with a female. You can't choose what your brain decides to exert dopamine for. If you can, you'd be constantly on a heroin high mentally

There's also a difference between having homosexual feelings for one or two men you have specific feelings for and men in general. (like between a woman that a man has fallen in love with and some random bimbo in porn.)

 

Rather he was born gay, or he chooses this way in life it's not up to you to decide or call upon on. A person in todays society has the right to live their life the way that they please, and they way that they desire. If a kid buys a pair of skating shoes and a skate board and doesn't know how to use a skate board, does that make him a skater? No, but it makes him happy and who is to argue with him or make him feel any less of a boy or a man. There's no difference between having sexual thoughts about someone in fantasy or in real life they're still turning you on regardless. It all depends on how secure you're about your sexuality and if you're giving or receiving.

 

I refuse to believe that one can be straight (noticeably; having sex with a women and enjoy it) then just simply CHOOSE to un-enjoy it and start enjoying sex with another gender.

Sorry but it doesn't make much sense unless they have some mental problem.

 

It's not a mentality issue it's just about sex, and sex is complicated. You're not the guru of other peoples feelings, and you have no right to put someone down just because you disagree. I'm straight, but I'm not going to enjoy sex with every girl I encounter, just like not everyone homosexual is going to enjoy sex with someone else whose gay. Not everyone is good at sex, and that goes for all straights and all homosexuals.

You can be straight and receive oral sex from another man and still hold your dignity. It wont make you any less of a man nor change your whole sexual orientation.

 

They don't have to choose to unenjoy straight sex to be able to enjoy it with a member of the same sex. Choosing to be gay and choosing if you enjoy something is different. You could be born able to enjoy both and choose to be gay instead of straight.

 

Exactly, that's why they're people who are bi sexual. Although most bi sexual men will have anal sex and that's completely different than just getting oral sex from another man.

 

While theres alot more variables towards attraction than what Rebecca Black is saying, he is right about the idea that it is a changing possibility.

Read above, it's an unconscious decision you yourself make. Which is altered through many forms of environmental,instinctual,innate, and attracting variables.

 

Alright I accept the fact their environment, etc. could have shaped their sexuality. Like how some women who were abused sexually by their father when young could lead to them being lesbian, though I'm not trying to make it in a negative comparison lol.

Just didn't make much sense that they just decide they're gay.

 

What makes you choose to be straight? It's not like straight is the default choice for human sexuality like internet explorer is on my laptop.

Both are choices you make on an unconscious level early on in life.