Girl Help :/ [Need to read all please]

[Flawl3ss]

Well dont text her. If she doesent text you and bitch that you didnt say happy birthday, then fuck her.

 

[lacuna]

So don't even tell her happy birthday?
Like, on peoples birthdays that Im not friends with but i know them i tell him happy birthday.
And what do i say when/if she txts me and says "Why didnt you ever tell me happy birthday?"

 

[SuF]

Wish her a happy birthday. Girls not talking to you for a few days isn't that weird. At least its not for me. >_>. If it goes on then just ask her whats going on and tell her how you feel.

 

[lacuna]

Wish her a happy birthday. Girls not talking to you for a few days isn't that weird. At least its not for me. >_>.

It's not like that, listen.
If you were talking to a girl and she had a Bf, and you guys were talking.
And they broke up, and you guys starting talkin real hard, like if you werent txting, we were on myspace talking, and if we werent doing that, we were hanging out, and if we werent doing that we were on the phone.
You guys were pretty much talking 24/7. And then;

Her and her BF get back together, and she promises you that you guys wont stop talkin because of her and him being back together, then talks to you for the rest of the day, and then stops, and you dont talk to her for 2 days straight. Not one word.
Yea, it is weird lol.

 

[Kleenex]

Go over to her house and ask her what's wrong. Hope you can figure it out from there.

If she seems to teeter between you and her boyfriend, give her an ultimatum: you or her boyfriend, and hope she chooses you.

 

[lacuna]

Go over to her house and ask her what's wrong. Hope you can figure it out from there.

If she seems to teeter between you and her boyfriend, give her an ultimatum: you or her boyfriend, and hope she chooses you.

It she don't answer my txt's, why would she welcome me to her house?
And, I don't want her to have to choose me over him, or him over me.
It's cool if we just talk as friends, and she knows that.

 

[M I K E]

Thats 100% correct.
When they first got back together she was like "I'm so sorry :/"
I told her "You mean a lot to me, but as long as your happy."
Then I told her how It's fine it we only talk as friends and she told me she "Promises we won't stop talking because of him" so idk.
But MIKE, you are so right because they are starting to do better and now we dont talk.
And if she's happy with him, I'm happy for her, 'Just Friends' is fine with me but idk how to start talking to her again :/

I mean I could tell you two things here.
What you want to hear, and what you should hear.
You want to hear, that she's going to realize you're the right guy for her..but what you really should hear is that she doesn't like you that way, nor does it seem as if she considers you a good friend.
After you guys bonded,texted, IM'd, hung out etc etc, you would think she had the decency to do even a little of that whilst being in a working relationship..but she didn't. Why do you want to even be friends with someone who used you?

 

[wtp]

You can't force her into liking you, and the harder you try the faster it's going to push her away.

 

[lacuna]

Idk man, I'v never fell for a girl like this.
But how was she using me? She told me so much, and shared her problems with me. And she told me she liked me, and the only prolly was her BF.
But thanks for telling me the truth, not what I want to hear.
Tell me more please.

You can't force her into liking you, and the harder you try the faster it's going to push her away.

I know, thats why i'm not even gonna try to talk to her, imma just wait for her. But should I just tell her happy birthday out of respect?

 

[M I K E]

Idk man, I'v never fell for a girl like this.
But how was she using me? She told me so much, and shared her problems with me. And she told me she liked me, and the only prolly was her BF.
But thanks for telling me the truth, not what I want to hear.
Tell me more please.



I know, thats why i'm not even gonna try to talk to her, imma just wait for her. But should I just tell her happy birthday out of respect?

She vented her feelings out on you, and once everything got better..she ditched you and decided not to speak to you. I think it's perfectly reasonable to say she used you.
If she genuinely liked you ( or liked you more than her boyfriend ), she would have dumped her boyfriend for you.

 

[wtp]

Idk man, I'v never fell for a girl like this.
But how was she using me? She told me so much, and shared her problems with me. And she told me she liked me, and the only prolly was her BF.
But thanks for telling me the truth, not what I want to hear.
Tell me more please.



I know, thats why i'm not even gonna try to talk to her, imma just wait for her. But should I just tell her happy birthday out of respect?

Naturally you're disappointing that she doesn't like you back, but I would still talk to her when it's appropriate. If she ever wants more you'll know.

 

[lacuna]

She vented her feelings out on you, and once everything got better..she ditched you and decided not to speak to you. I think it's perfectly reasonable to say she used you.
If she genuinely liked you ( or liked you more than her boyfriend ), she would have dumped her boyfriend for you.

True, So you saying; Now she doesn't really want anything to do with me?
And, should I tell her happy b-day?

 

[M I K E]

True, So you saying; Now she doesn't really want anything to do with me?
And, should I tell her happy b-day?

I don't think you should. Why put effort into someone like her?
If someone should be starting a conversation, let it be her.
I think, to make this friendship even possible, she should make the first move.

 

[lacuna]

I don't think you should. Why put effort into someone like her?
If someone should be starting a conversation, let it be her.
I think, to make this friendship even possible, she should make the first move.

Right.
The weird thing is, we talked for a little more than 2 months.
And there was time he and her BF were happy together, and she still talked to me the same way she always did. And she told me alot about her self, and I could go tell people and make her look kinda bad.
And when we started talking, she didnt even know me. We just knew who eachother was.
Me and my dude james pranked her, and she knew james, but not really me and I had her on myspace, and the next day she was laughin about it and asked me if It was me, and it started from there.

Naturally you're disappointing that she doesn't like you back, but I would still talk to her when it's appropriate. If she ever wants more you'll know.

But, she's told me how much she likes me and how she wants to be with me some day...

 

You just gotta lay off a little. Coming on too strong is never a good idea when a girl has a boyfriend, even if she's not happy with him.

 

[lacuna]

You just gotta lay off a little. Coming on too strong is never a good idea when a girl has a boyfriend, even if she's not happy with him.

Thanks Verts.
Should I just not talk to her until she talks to me?

 

Thanks Verts.
Should I just not talk to her until she talks to me?

Yeah that's a good idea.

 

[lacuna]

I was on myspace and she logged on and she talked to me.
It was only for about 10 minutes cause she's 'going to sleep'
But she did act different. Lets see if she dont talk to me and see it the cycle repeats again lol

 

[Guineapigcal]

She probably just needs time to think... it's not like the guy she's with is gonna be her partner forever anyway.... give it the end of the month -.-
Or you could just ask her out; I mean there's no great loss if you doesn't want you.

 

[speedsage]

drug her out , tie her up than slap her across the face do abit of this then that woahla shes yours.