Is it okay for parents to hit their children?

I've never gotten hit by any of my parents, I actually received a lot of love from them.
This made me the person I am now, I am really relaxed and calm. I am not that annoying attention whore that kids who never gotten any attention and got hit wen they were little now are.

I'm not going to say exactly who because I don't want to sound like a racist, but there are these certain people that have a different religion and are raised differently.

When they were kids they got hit by their parents whenever they did something wrong. The issue with them is that if they don't get punished for something they think it's fine (This is literally because of their parents)

I think hitting your children has a VERY negative impact and I don't think it should be tolerated to hit someone that can't hit back.

 

sometimes its better to hit on by your parents and relive the guilt than hear there verbal crys of disappointment and still have that guilt

 

My dad whooped my ass when I was younger, and everyone I grew up with got their ass whooped. My dad never actually struck me beyond the whoopings like a slap on the face or an actual blow, but he would pop me on the leg or the back of the head when I got really smart or twist the back of my ear. There's nothing wrong with whooping your kids because its good for them and teaches them to acknowledge and fear punishment for doing wrong, but more aggressive punishment (I've known people who actually got struck by their parents as punishment and they were loose cannons and were kinda loopy) is not good for kids because it overdoes the instillation of fear of punishment and pushes it to fear of their parents.

 

Ithink its okay to punish children as long as you're not abusing them. I find it absurdthat some people punish kids by saying no Xbox or something... Really?

 

It's their child, as long as it's not a life threatening abusive situation then the kid will get over it in a day and be fine.

 

I was always hit on the hand or the backside when I was child, and honestly it taught me to respect my parents, respect rules, and do what I was told. And did I turn out fine? Yes. Was I ever in fear of my life? No. Did I grow up to be good? Yes, why? Because I was shown the right path.

I went through school, and uni and got a degree and work and live a good life. Why? Because my parents bought me up right, I was shown by a young age what life I need to live, and was taught to respect people, and do right. Is there any harm in that? No. Was there any harm in my parents giving me a slap on the hand and showing me that was I did was wrong? No, did I do it again? I tried not too because I knew what would happen.

There's a difference between parents trying to show their children that doing the wrong thing has consequences, and physically abusing your child. Learn em'.

 

If you we're asian, you'd meet mr Bamboostick and mrs flipflops across your face!

 

Yeh asian parted holy fuck, im korean but i was adopted into a white family, EZZZZZZZZZZ

 

Proven to be effective practice, pretty simple example of operant conditioning. Gershoff (2002 study I think it was) despite showing in his analysis of over 80 studies that it was successful in weakening the response, also showed that later in life, children who were smacked etc. were more likely to have a worse parent-child relationship.

Personally I was smacked a bit by my dad when I was being an annoying kid doing whatever I shouldn't have been doing and it worked on me, but I'd say the results differ from kid to kid. In general I would say there there is always a better alternative to corporeal punishment if the parent is willing. (eeeeyyyy studying for a psychology degree let me post on an internet forum, worth the debt)

 

This one is tricky. I grew up in a bad area. My parents never hit me, and i turned out fine.

Growing up i had a few friends who use to get hit when they did something bad.
Now every single one of those is a criminal.

Now Correlation does not imply causation, but i dont think you need to hit your kids to deciplin them. Just tell them, and they will understand. Kids are pretty smart.

 

I think a kid needs a beating every now and than but nothing to serious kids are fucking spoiled these days and it pisses me off..

 

You sound like 1 of those spoiled brats.

It's sort of amusing how people commenting keep saying something like: "Beating a child is wrong, but if you do it gently then it's good parenting".
It's like you understand that it's wrong but still justify it if it's done at 10% and not 100%. Might aswell say that rape is bad but when you do it gently then it's very good lovemaking!
The act itself is wrong and no matter how you dress it up, it's still wrong.

Also not hitting your child doesn't equal parenting. Parenting is a hard process and not using violence makes it even harder.
Can you not hit your child and still produce the spawn of satan? Ofcourse you can.

 

^ This. Hell, if I knew I just got a talking too by my parents and got away with alot more, I would've been the biggest rat around because I knew I would get away with it. Child does something wrong gets punished, he/she doesn't like it, ok learns not to do that again. It's not like your giving the kid a fucking bruise or breaking a bone lmao. Now that is out of hand yes, as stated above--

"There's a difference between parents trying to show their children that doing the wrong thing has consequences, and physically abusing your child. Learn em'"

 

I would like to say that making it acceptable to hit your children is how the lines will get more blurred in my opinion. It is already unacceptable to hit your children in the eyes of the public and look at how many of you had been hit. Imagine if it was acceptable, and it was a common punishment, would you be hit harder for doing something exceptionally bad? Of course, it would seem to be a never ending cycle, because lets face it, the worse that you did aat whtever your getting hit for, the harder you were hit. Notice that in societies that the actions of the society were based and deviated from there social norms by only slightly in most cases. So if getting hit was normal and you had strict parent you wouldn't be getting beat at that point, not hit.

 

You pretend as if the only consequence a parent can give a child is corporal punishment.

 

I think it depends how you view 'hit' as. If it's a soft hit on the leg or something, enough to hurt for a few seconds but not leave a bruise etc, it is fine to teach the child a lesson for being rude etc. People need to learn manners and respect from a young age or will never grasp it.

 

Please at least read the arguments on this page before you post.

OT: How does hitting a child softly teach them manners when this behavior is unacceptable in all other parts of society?

 

Why would you teach your child that the way to deal with rudeness is by assaulting the person being rude?

 

I think it's wrong to hit your children in any way. I think I barely ever got hit, but my dad did use to twist my ears. This is still wrong imo. Though, with this discussion another discussion comes up, would it be okay to hit your pets? In both cases I think not.

 

My parents divorced when I was six years old. My brother and I decided to live with my Dad. My dad was a ex navy seal and ran a simple home. We had three major rules growing up. 1. Get decent grades in school, 2. Clean the house up before he got home, 3. Dont come home in a cop car. I was the oldest son and I had several responsibilities. My dad worked long hours (80+) a week. At the age of 11 I was cooking, cleaning and preparing my dads work clothes. Now because he worked long hours I was given a lot of freedom. I rode my bike anywhere I wanted and basically did whatever I wanted. My dad was easy going and enjoyed having the kids always at our house. I did extremely well in school up until 2nd semester of 6th grade. That's were i started rebelling. I didnt get grounded for crazy amounts of time, I got my ass beat growing up. My dad was cool until he got pissed. Down right fucking scary to be honest. When we got caught fucking up my friends would be happy they didnt have to answer to my dad. Now even though I took some serious belts across my ass, I deserved everyone of them. My dad never hit me unless I needed it. I was a hard headed dumb ass. I remember growing up and watching some of my friends stealing bikes and shit. I grew up pretty poor but I knew right from wrong. I knew if I got caught stealing that Bike my ass was grass. My dad had no mercy for lying or stealing. He'd drive me to the persons house and beat my ass in front of them. He didnt care how humiliated or embarrassed I was. He wasnt going to have a son who stole or destroyed peoples property. I could have my ass beat and be outside in 20 minutes. Now I didnt get my ass kicked all that often to be honest. I learned pretty early on I didnt have enough ass to handle that belt. I believe it taught me a valuable lesson. I believe all parents have the right to discipline their children. Hell I think not hitting your kids when they need it has amplified the pussification of our generation. When I got to high school I could handle myself pretty well. I passed on the knowledge my dad taught me. If someone offended me or ran their mouth I hit them. I abused my ability as a younger man and paid the price. As I got older I was able to dial it back. I learned that our society doesnt accept it. I've had to adapt to the pussy ass society we've constructed. Instead of being physically punished for stealing kids get grounded for week. I dont think taking away someones cell phone is a acceptable punishment. They need to feel the punishment and understand. Im disgusted in the way our world works now a days. My buddy has a 4 yr old little terrorist. He didnt want to physically discipline his child. He tried positive reinforcement and its not working. The kid doesnt listen and does as he pleases. He doesnt respect other peoples belongings and wants everything his way. When he does something wrong he gets a stern talking to and just goes and does it again in 10 minutes. I actually moved and refused to continue being my buddy's room mate because of it.