Is it okay for parents to hit their children?

IMO if the children learn something, it's ok, but there must be a proper reason.

It is absolutely wrong if it's not made to make the child learn

 

You need to know the measure and do it in certain cases

 

Yes

There are too many spoilt sensitive brats around now

 

I cba to read 11 pages like OP prescribed, but I'm on the side of the studies that show corporal punishment is ineffective. I feel differently about say tapping a child's Hans with a ruler to discourage bad behavior however.

 

What's your definition of properly hitting children>?

Is it acceptable if there's an alternate, better, method of making the child learn?

Why do you think that that's the case?

Is that your carefully considered opinion, after thoroughly researching how hitting children affects them?

 

Hitting your children is a form of punishment, if you try other methods and it proves to be ineffective, then use this as a last resort. On the other hand, using it first may make it ineffective. So, in the long run, is it ever effective? Probably not, just teach your kids to not be pieces of ass, set guidelines, hold them accountable for their mistakes, don't give them the easy life. Life is too short to fuss with dumb things like hurting your kids.

 

The times I received physical punishment, it was effective quickly and only in the short term. I learned no lesson besides fear. To teach kids fear instillation as a model for parenting, improvement, etc. is misguided. I learn most from open interaction. For example, I remember when my mother cried and told me how my actions hurt her, showed me. I don't forget what I did to make her hurt. I won't. I don't remember what I did to receive the physical punishment (though I tended to be younger when I received physical punishment, surely a factor). Physical punishment makes no sense to me.

 

Only in the USA. Legally speaking of course.

 

Depends on what the kid done, and how they hit him? if he got into trouble a clip around the ear is acceptable. When i was young my dad used to pretend to get his leather belt out. It stopped me from being an asshole lol.

 

Your dad couldn't parent you without threatening to beat you with a leather belt? Yikes, my dude.

 

I'll often 'tap' my children on the leg or hand if they do something specifically bad to upset me. It's a fine line. Myself and my wife are currently raising 3 children aged 6, 4 & 2.

My 6 year old and 4 year olds often push the limits, but I am a man with high expectations so if I compare my children to some of the ferral children I see from my area i'm generally really proud and it's VERY rare that I need to get to a point where the tap punishment comes into play.

I bought an egg timer, i issue 4 & 6 minute 'time-out' punishments which work very well.

 

When I was a kid I got an ass whoopin and it did me no harm



However with my own kids, I just use a stern voice. Usually works, if not my mrs does the naughty step approach.

 

I'm glad you don't hit your children, but how do you know being beaten did you no harm? It's not like you can compare yourself to a version of you that didn't get violently beaten.