Is sex THAT important?

Decap · May 15, 2016

So, to be short and simple.
Do you think sex is that important in a relationship, or is it one of the "bonuses" in dating?
I for one feel it is one of the most important things in a relationship, simply because it is the closet you can get to someone. What are all of your thoughts?

Darkest Dream · May 15, 2016

Yes, sex is intimate and intimacy is important in a romantic relationship.

Goods4RS · May 15, 2016

It's important because it's a natural thing for humans to do. Especially for relationships.

Drimble · May 15, 2016

highly important. ive seen people get married without having sex before their marriage and i always feel like they are just doing a coin toss on wethor their marriage could even possibly work out lol. just kinda weird to me, please dont hate me religious people

p.s. i come from a religious family and attended a private school most of my life. im finally away from all that.

Saint Grimm · May 16, 2016

The intimacy is important, but that's about it... I mean, I'm not gonna throw a good girl to the curb just because she's not very good in bed.

Noora · May 16, 2016

Some people don't have sex before marriage is because it's a big sin their religion, for example Muslims cannot have sex until marriage as well some other religions. It's frowned on by family members for a Muslim person to get a girl pregnant without being married.

Logic · May 16, 2016

In todays society it's thought to be very important. It likely is if you are in a stable relationship. Although (for women) the more sexual partners you have the less likely it will be that you will ever have a stable (5+ years) relationship.

An illustrative graph:

Not aware if there are any similar studies made about men, but I'd say it's highly likely that something like this also applies to men.

Superfluous · May 16, 2016

karlrais said:
In todays society it's thought to be very important. It likely is if you are in a stable relationship. Although (for women) the more sexual partners you have the less likely it will be that you will ever have a stable (5+ years) relationship.

Not aware if there are any similar studies made about men, but I'd say it's highly likely that something like this also applies to men.

would be careful assigning causality here, it could easily go the other way... the more partners you have, the less interested you could be in long-term marriage (not that your marriages fail because you have more partners). also would be valuable to see it broken out by religion and race. but anyway, enough economics desires for now...

ot: i would say yes, sex is important insofar as you both care about it. i don't think it's inherently important but often has a place in healthy relationships. ultimately relationships are about trusting and feeling connected to others, and sex is a medium for that in many cases

MrDragomir · May 17, 2016

Indefinitely; without physical attraction I don't see a future with that person.

Soil · May 17, 2016

Sex is to tool to show appreciation and intimacy towards one another, without sex you can't really show intimate feelings which won't give you a deeper love between each other. On the other hand I know a friend who has been with his girlfriend for 4 years he's now 21, they have never had sex and won't until they get married, to love someone so much that you wouldn't violate them until marriage shows a deep love and I've come to that understanding from having long talks with him.

Logic · May 17, 2016

Superfluous said:
would be careful assigning causality here, it could easily go the other way... the more partners you have, the less interested you could be in long-term marriage (not that your marriages fail because you have more partners). also would be valuable to see it broken out by religion and race. but anyway, enough economics desires for now...

ot: i would say yes, sex is important insofar as you both care about it. i don't think it's inherently important but often has a place in healthy relationships. ultimately relationships are about trusting and feeling connected to others, and sex is a medium for that in many cases

True on the casuality part. My aim was more at if you want to have a stable relationship then as a man you should avoid women who have had many partners. Very likely that if you are her 10th partner then there will be an 11th partner or the relationship just won't last 5+ years for what ever reason. It might very well be that people who are programmed for long term relationships just have less sexual partners as a result.

Dalt · May 17, 2016

Sex is definitely important in relieving stress between relationship.

Also, if the girl is willing to shag immediately, chances are she isn't the "one true love".
Or is she?

Logic · May 17, 2016

Dalt said:
Sex is definitely important in relieving stress between relationship.

Also, if the girl is willing to shag immediately, chances are she isn't the "one true love".
Or is she?

It's more like: chances are that she has shagged a fair amount of men before you and might shag someone a few weeks later after getting drunk at a party

Unspeaking · May 17, 2016

Probably the most important part of a relationship. You need intimacy/physical attraction.

Dixo · May 18, 2016

Dalt said:
Sex is definitely important in relieving stress between relationship.

Also, if the girl is willing to shag immediately, chances are she isn't the "one true love".
Or is she?

Haha the common stereotype of fucking on the first date. If she does it, shes definitely just a fling.