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Why People Do ThingsA while back a few members from sythe and I came up with the three most basic reasons why someone would do something
Chapter 1: Why People do Things
People do things for three reasons and three reasons only: for entertainment, to not be in pain, and importance.
Let me attempt to explain these three:
Entertainment is given by the five senses: sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. Entertainment can be music you listen to, television you watch or the food you eat. Anything that stimulates your five senses in a desirable way is considered entertainment. Thinking can also provide entertainment, like reading a book that you process in your head, whatever gets your thoughts running in a desirable way.
To not be in pain is the most basic reason why someone would do something. A person would avoid a hot stove to not be burned. Someone would eat to not be hungry. Death is also included in not feeling pain; we do things not to die. To not be in pain just doesn't refer to physical pain alone, it also refers to emotional pain as well. We do things to make us not feel emotional pain, for example we do things to not be stressed or feel sorrow.
Importance can be given in countless ways and I think it's the most influential out of the three. Feeling important mostly has to do with other people. Why do people donate money, play an instrument, win a game they do it to feel important.
There is actually one more reason why someone would do something. Which is by accident. I'm not going to concern myself with it though because its an accident - they didn't do it on purpose. Other than that though even the slightest moves we make go under these reasons.
We do everything in our best interest. Does that mean that everything we do is selfish though? No, it may be selfish or unselfish depending on how it affects other people.
For example, let's say you have homework to do and don't do it, than your parents get mad at you for not doing your homework. By doing that they might yell at you they might punish you, and than they'll be concerned about your grades... That puts stress on them, which by that makes you selfish. On the other hand lets say that you do your homework (In your own best interest of course, but its also in your parents best interest), that'll make your parents happy which is you being selfless.
No psychology or philosophy book recognizes these three reasons. Observing these reasons we can go farther to answer questions that will help us in our life.
Now what do people want in life?
- Friends
- Popularity
- BF/GF
- Wealth
- Others ways to feel important.
The words we use and in the tone we say it in will greatly affect what the person has to say and what they do.
Let me try to answer a question.
Why do people talk to each other?
People may talk to each other to not be in pain or entertainment but when talking on a friendly level you have a conversation for the feeling of importance. Now if we want friends we have to give a feeling of importance, if we don't no one will talk to you. There are two main ways to give out a feeling of importance when talking to someone which are caring, and respect. Caring is when you become genuinely interested in the other person. The better you can do that the more friends you will have. When it comes to popularity though you can be the most caring person in the world and people may still walk all over you. Respect is a reason you may talk to someone. Why do you think so many people try to suck up to mods and admins? Talking to people at a higher status and people that have already have a lot of people to talk to gives people a greater feeling of importance. People that mainly look to be friends with people based upon how respected they are, are generally weak minded people. If you are respected you will have a lot of friends but if you don't know how to care then you will have trouble getting close friends.
Topics to discuss later
How to become respected
Understanding the human personality
Humor
Please post what you think if you agree disagree and why.
Chapter 1: Why People do Things
People do things for three reasons and three reasons only: for entertainment, to not be in pain, and importance.
Let me attempt to explain these three:
Entertainment is given by the five senses: sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. Entertainment can be music you listen to, television you watch or the food you eat. Anything that stimulates your five senses in a desirable way is considered entertainment. Thinking can also provide entertainment, like reading a book that you process in your head, whatever gets your thoughts running in a desirable way.
To not be in pain is the most basic reason why someone would do something. A person would avoid a hot stove to not be burned. Someone would eat to not be hungry. Death is also included in not feeling pain; we do things not to die. To not be in pain just doesn't refer to physical pain alone, it also refers to emotional pain as well. We do things to make us not feel emotional pain, for example we do things to not be stressed or feel sorrow.
Importance can be given in countless ways and I think it's the most influential out of the three. Feeling important mostly has to do with other people. Why do people donate money, play an instrument, win a game they do it to feel important.
There is actually one more reason why someone would do something. Which is by accident. I'm not going to concern myself with it though because its an accident - they didn't do it on purpose. Other than that though even the slightest moves we make go under these reasons.
We do everything in our best interest. Does that mean that everything we do is selfish though? No, it may be selfish or unselfish depending on how it affects other people.
For example, let's say you have homework to do and don't do it, than your parents get mad at you for not doing your homework. By doing that they might yell at you they might punish you, and than they'll be concerned about your grades... That puts stress on them, which by that makes you selfish. On the other hand lets say that you do your homework (In your own best interest of course, but its also in your parents best interest), that'll make your parents happy which is you being selfless.
No psychology or philosophy book recognizes these three reasons. Observing these reasons we can go farther to answer questions that will help us in our life.
Now what do people want in life?
- Friends
- Popularity
- BF/GF
- Wealth
- Others ways to feel important.
The words we use and in the tone we say it in will greatly affect what the person has to say and what they do.
Let me try to answer a question.
Why do people talk to each other?
People may talk to each other to not be in pain or entertainment but when talking on a friendly level you have a conversation for the feeling of importance. Now if we want friends we have to give a feeling of importance, if we don't no one will talk to you. There are two main ways to give out a feeling of importance when talking to someone which are caring, and respect. Caring is when you become genuinely interested in the other person. The better you can do that the more friends you will have. When it comes to popularity though you can be the most caring person in the world and people may still walk all over you. Respect is a reason you may talk to someone. Why do you think so many people try to suck up to mods and admins? Talking to people at a higher status and people that have already have a lot of people to talk to gives people a greater feeling of importance. People that mainly look to be friends with people based upon how respected they are, are generally weak minded people. If you are respected you will have a lot of friends but if you don't know how to care then you will have trouble getting close friends.
Topics to discuss later
How to become respected
Understanding the human personality
Humor
Please post what you think if you agree disagree and why.
