Personal Support Topic

[nichlos1]

to dude above i have had this promblem in the past and what helped me was to shut my door and play a favorite playlist off my stereo quietly so i could concentrate on something besides my fears

well anyways here is my dilema

I'm a sophmore in high school with a 4.0 gpa taking 2 ap classes and on the jv baseball team sounds perfect right, well not exactly i dont have that many friends especially ones that are girls because i can never start or sustain a conversation with anyone. I want to talk to people but i never know what to say at all. Please someone help me

 

[Shawn_]

Lol. Hah, last night I had a rough night again. I just kept staring at the darkness in my room, and just felt like something was going to appear out of the darkness, or like something out there would haunt me. It took me about 2 hours to fall asleep. It usually doesn't happen when I'm really tired, or if my mood is strong. Ever get that feeling that something's watching you? And might come out and like, fuck your ass up? I don't know, I've always felt that as a child.

Well, I do know that feeling your talking about, but I don't exactly know what I can say to help you out in solving the issue that's really going to help aside from me just telling you that you have to overcome your mind.

 

[XxSilverxX]

First of all Shawn great idea, and it looks to be of great help to everyone posting...


Second, here is my problem:
There's these two girls at my school...in particular...I like them both but I gotta choose one to go out with, and I can't choose...And the one that I DON'T choose will probably hate me forever..Which I don't want..What do you think I should do?


And sorry if this question was a little stupid...Lol

 

[Shawn_]

First of all Shawn great idea, and it looks to be of great help to everyone posting...


Second, here is my problem:
There's these two girls at my school...in particular...I like them both but I gotta choose one to go out with, and I can't choose...And the one that I DON'T choose will probably hate me forever..Which I don't want..What do you think I should do?


And sorry if this question was a little stupid...Lol

Okay, well theres nothing you can do to avoid hurting one of them, but I can assure you that they will not hate you forever. For a while after being rejected they will be bitter, but far from forever, as I know for a fact that I am still friends with many girls who I didn't date because I didn't think it would work well even though they wanted to. They will get over it.

 

[DarkSpark]

First of all Shawn great idea, and it looks to be of great help to everyone posting...


Second, here is my problem:
There's these two girls at my school...in particular...I like them both but I gotta choose one to go out with, and I can't choose...And the one that I DON'T choose will probably hate me forever..Which I don't want..What do you think I should do?


And sorry if this question was a little stupid...Lol

the other one wont hate you unless you led them both on... Remember not to pick purely based on looks because you wont be able to change your mind... If you cant choose spend time with both at school just messing around having fun and see which one you get along with the most... THAT should be the reason you choose in my opinion.

 

[SlaveOfTheBeast]

Alright. Best friend moved. Best friend is going out with girl that likes me, and I've LOVED for 2 years. I like her. Oh god, what do do.
Just don't tell me to forget her and move on, it's not like that.

 

[Trustworthybutnottrusted]

Alright. Best friend moved. Best friend is going out with girl that likes me, and I've LOVED for 2 years. I like her. Oh god, what do do.
Just don't tell me to forget her and move on, it's not like that.

Talk to the girl and share your feelings for her. Girls always like it when guys come out and just let them know what's up. If she responds positively, let your best friend know about your feelings for her as well. Then let the girl choose who she really wants. I am not telling you to move on, but if the girl doesn't choose you over your best friend then you shouldn't be bitter... just accept that fact.

hopefully i helped out there, good luck man.



If you have any other questions just send me a PM or MSN if i am online

 

[Ultralomaniac]

Alright. Best friend moved. Best friend is going out with girl that likes me, and I've LOVED for 2 years. I like her. Oh god, what do do.
Just don't tell me to forget her and move on, it's not like that.

Like that untrustworthy guy above me said, you should tell her about it, because come on... what's the worst that could happen? if you don't tell her, she won't know, and she will stay with your "best friend"



2 years? that's tough.
But yeah, just tell her how you feel, and if she rejects you, just hang out with her and make her fall for you, she probably won't stay with your "best friend" for long, so you can take her once they're done

 

[DarkSpark]

Alright. Best friend moved. Best friend is going out with girl that likes me, and I've LOVED for 2 years. I like her. Oh god, what do do.
Just don't tell me to forget her and move on, it's not like that.

Just wait till he screws it up with her... It is bound to happen... If you and her are meant to be together... Otherwise sabotage the relationship... I doubt talking to him would work, he would just think your jealous.

 

[highstandards10]

I love the idea of this topic =D


Anyways,

So I've been dating this girl for about a month. She told me she loved me and I panicked and told i loved her back. [Big mistake, I know]. Anyways, I think I am starting to love her, the hard part is to let her know that I really mean it. The reason for it is because like, I think she could tell I didn't really mean it when I first said it and it kinda made us both a little saddened..I have no clue what to do

 

[DarkSpark]

I love the idea of this topic =D


Anyways,

So I've been dating this girl for about a month. She told me she loved me and I panicked and told i loved her back. [Big mistake, I know]. Anyways, I think I am starting to love her, the hard part is to let her know that I really mean it. The reason for it is because like, I think she could tell I didn't really mean it when I first said it and it kinda made us both a little saddened..I have no clue what to do

if you want to make her believe it next time then have some kind of romantic day... Even just at a park or something and just sit down or lay with her talking and then just talk about stuff and try and work converstaion towards feelings... Then when you say it make sure you look straight at her and do NOT stutter or soud ingenuine in any way.... Just make sure its a romantic sort of moment while your laying nice and close... also, i dont believe in love after that short of a time... how old are you ?

 

[OldFinn]

This is really cute, and I think alot of members will value this greatly in the future.


Good Luck.

 

[Macroman]

Just wait till he screws it up with her... It is bound to happen... If you and her are meant to be together... Otherwise sabotage the relationship... I doubt talking to him would work, he would just think your jealous.

What if he never does then hes really in trouble.

Make it clear you like her she will fall for you. Tell you're friend to back off.

 

[kushal]

25% of psychiatrists kill their selves. so i don't recommend anyone being one.

 

[Shawn_]

25% of psychiatrists kill their selves. so i don't recommend anyone being one.

99% of statistics are made up on the spot.

You can't spell.

Psychiatrists don't kill themselves.

 

[NotePad]

I have a Family, Mostly My dad. That almost demands me to make him proud, i don't like to let him down. But i always do becuase im the sort of person that doesn't like doing anything that anybody exspects. Especially when somebody demands it. I want to be able to live my life the way i want to, but i don't think this is the right thing to do.

For example, im happy were i am at the momment in life. I get average grades in school (btw im in grade 11), i have a very good social Life (No shortage of pretty girls) but on the other hand I sit on the computer when ever i have any spare time (and this is the thing that my father does not like) I am doing well in life, but my father exspects me to cease every opotunity to do better. For example he wants me to study more, We are living on the beach now so he wants me to learn how to surf. He wants me to get a job (basicly so i don't spend as much time on the comp) and at the same time wants me to learn many other things like driving a heavy truck. Im just not the kind of guy my dad wants me to be (a perfectionist) and a (try hard). I like having spare time, and i suppose im lazy.

Compared to other people, i don't think iv'e got it very hard, and these are probably no big deal. But im a headstrong person. and basicly my big problem is that i don't like doing things that other people say.

Whatever i do, in the end. My dad will be happy for me, but will not always be proud. In his childhood he did everything to make his father proud, but his father never said he was proud of him. So he's trying to make up for that by trying to get me to achieve something so he can say he is proud. But aperently I don't do enough >.>.. So really.. He's doing the exact same thing his father did. But in a different way. He over does the "encourgment" and Sets his standards of being proud too high.

Really my problem is that im too headstrong and i don't want to listen to other people..

what should i do?

This doesn't feel right talking about this behind his back...

 

[NotePad]

to dude above i have had this promblem in the past and what helped me was to shut my door and play a favorite playlist off my stereo quietly so i could concentrate on something besides my fears

well anyways here is my dilema

I'm a sophmore in high school with a 4.0 gpa taking 2 ap classes and on the jv baseball team sounds perfect right, well not exactly i dont have that many friends especially ones that are girls because i can never start or sustain a conversation with anyone. I want to talk to people but i never know what to say at all. Please someone help me

Tbh, i think your thinking about it too Much. You panick when ever in a conversation with someone and are not pacient enough when it comes to friendships/relationships. Don't think about it and try not to panick, just let it happen and it will be ok. First impressions arn't everything anyway. Also with the pacience, You have to give people a chance. A chance to let something grow. Long time friends are always the best friends. Share something personal with a girl-friend that you like, maybe she'll share something personal with you aswell and you both can help eachother; and maybe after a while it might form into something more than a friendship. Main thing to do - don't do anything that could wreck the relationship. Like over reacting or being in-pacient. Eventually you'll get it right Im a firm believer that there is a soul mate for everyone. So don't worry about things too much. Chill. Relax.

Sorry if i didn't help... You don't have to listen to me. No1 answered you, so i thought i might.

Gl ^.^

 

[Swan]

Alright - heres my little problem.

I use to be emo, but my friends never knew, and I don't intend for them to know. I get the occasional mood swing, and seeing as I know that I can get very emotional when emotion does hit me, it usually hits me hard. I got invited to a camping trip by one of my old school friends that moved to a new school. There were seven others. They always seem to target me for pulling practical jokes on, and they hid the packets of confectionaries I bought earlier that day. I start getting pissed off about it then I find out that they've eaten it all, which is like $10 worth dude. so I throw them out of my tent and just sleep for the rest of the trip wondering if they are actually my friends - they've done stuff like this on countless occasions, not just one like this. It isn't fun.

Help me please.

Edit: I also need to keep my scars hidden, and thats quite a job on its own, which can get frustrating at times, too.

did I make that sound like I started sulking because of lollies? I didn't, I started to practically cry because I'm so sick of this stuff happening to me all of the time, and to no-one else in the group. And they hold it to you for days or even weeks.

 

[fiddle]

Alright - heres my little problem.

I use to be emo, but my friends never knew, and I don't intend for them to know. I get the occasional mood swing, and seeing as I know that I can get very emotional when emotion does hit me, it usually hits me hard. I got invited to a camping trip by one of my old school friends that moved to a new school. There were seven others. They always seem to target me for pulling practical jokes on, and they hid the packets of confectionaries I bought earlier that day. I start getting pissed off about it then I find out that they've eaten it all, which is like $10 worth dude. so I throw them out of my tent and just sleep for the rest of the trip wondering if they are actually my friends - they've done stuff like this on countless occasions, not just one like this. It isn't fun.

Help me please.

Edit: I also need to keep my scars hidden, and thats quite a job on its own, which can get frustrating at times, too.

did I make that sound like I started sulking because of lollies? I didn't, I started to practically cry because I'm so sick of this stuff happening to me all of the time, and to no-one else in the group. And they hold it to you for days or even weeks.

Why don't you just tell them? "Listen guys, I'm tired of you pulling this shit, it's getting old and I really don't appreciate it. If they don't listen, then fuck them and get other friends.

 

[Swan]

you think I haven't told them? I do have other friends, but I've known these guys for practically my whole life.