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talk to a school counselor

 

Yeah, thats what I was thinking. He might have already tried that though, but Ill tell him. Thank you =]
Janson, he cant do that. The counselors at the school have big mouths, it would get around school so quick.. and he really doesnt want anyone to know. But thanks for advice

 

Verbal Abuse is easily comparable to Physical Abuse. The more negativity put into a person's life, the more likely they will be mentally unstable as they grow older. I would suggest you tell someone else about it. Someone who might be able to talk to your friend's father and offer some help. Be careful though, make it clear to the person you decide to depend on that your friend did not tell you of anything that you know now, make sure that he/she knows that you discovered your friends problem on your own. If they do know that your friend told you these things, then it might come back on your friend, the father might think that his son is letting other people inside their business and help won't be accepted.

 

Thank you so much. I told him, and hes going to try and find a therapist. Hopefully things will work out.

 

i personally say he should find a therapist, they help ALOT. but besides that, his father may be very mean to him but he doesnt see it as being mean, he sees himself helping his son and he doesnt want him to be like he was. im not saying he is going at it the right way and treating his son right but that is my impression why he is doing it.

his father probably wishes he could start over and he doesnt want his son to get mixed into drugs and turn out like he did

 

This might sound very childish, have your friend cry in front of his dad one time, tell him to tell your dad that the words are hurting him very badly inside, they make me feel terrible and I would like the verbal harrasment to stop. This is also against the law for domestic abuse, if nothing else fails call the police and get some family help. These are my only words of help

 

Well, my mum and stepdad same off of there motorbike, my stepdad died upon impact, my mum died later from a brain haemorrage later that week in hospital. i have no family local to where i am and will have to go into care. i was just wondering how this works, ive googled it and came back with nothing, and im too embarrased to ask someone IRL.

can someone give me any info?

 

I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but honestly; that kid should just hit him.

Drugs or not, you don't just start treating your family like that.

You say that he's a good person and all this shit, but if he really was; then he wouldn't even let the excuse of 'drugs' hold him back from treating his family right.

How lucky he must be, he gets to take medicine then treat everyone like shit; then just blames it on the drugs.

It sounds like it's the dad who is depressed and emotionally unstable to me, not the kid.

That dad needs one of two things.

1) Counseling.

2) Ass kicking.

 

I went on a date on saturday, the girl I was with in the middle sent her friend over to me and he said she said she felt creeped out and awkward near me when she was danceing, I went to talk to her right away and I said if she felt that way she could spend the rest of the dance with her other friends and I would spend it alone (I didnt know any one there) so she did (I did find another date right after though) but I text her and call her she wont tell me why she was creeped out or what was wrong, please help me!!!! How can I get her to tell me or what can I do to make it up I feel really bad if I did somthing bad

 

Cry about it, maybe he is just kidding.

My grandpa says "Get your ass over here boy! ill rip your lips off !" than laughs. Or.. his personal favorite.. "Get me a pepsi, Scrotom Face!"

Just tough up and eat words. He should use this comeback, Your feeding me hate, thats why im fat, you asshole.

 

Tell him to talk to his dad about it.

 

Most epic thing I've seen said in a long time.

Congratulations.

-Claps-

 

Why is this kid taking the bullshit?

Whenever my dad gives me bullshit(nothing like abuse), I just tell him it's unnecessary, and childish.

I tell him there's no reason, and he seems to realize it.

If there is no reason for this name-calling, then have the kid stand up to his dad about it.

Tell him that the next time he calls him "fatty" or whatever, tell him to say, or yell rather:

"WHY IS THIS NECESSARY?? WHY DO YOU INSIST ON CALLING ME NAMES LIKE THAT. DOES IT HONESTLY MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER? IF IT DOES, THEN YOU HAVE THE MIND OF A 10 YEAR OLD BOY. SO LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE, UNLESS YOU ARE GOING TO TREAT ME WITH SOME GODDAMN RESPECT. I TREAT YOU WITH RESPECT, SO I EXPECT YOU AS A MAN TO TREAT ME WITH THE SAME BACK."

That should work.

 

man im so sorry to hear... that is tough. i cant even imagine. if i were you i would move with family even though they arent local. cause its better off to be with loved ones then people you dont know

let time heal it. if she wants to talk to you she will. dont push shit cause when you push it, she will only go opposite of you

 

Yes, this is exactly what's going on. However the father never did drugs. When I mentioned drugs it was medicine for a disease he had.. but the medicine had horrible side affects

 

oh sorry misunderstood. well i just think that the kids father does want his son to turn out like him and he wants him to be and do something with his life.

 

Yeah, Im sure this is what's going on.. he just doesn't realize that he's saying it in a bad way, and instead of helping he's just emotionally fucking him up.

 

yes he is going at it the wrong way... you have to question how he grew up and maybe he sees himself in his son... im not to sure. but tell your friend to keep his chin up and dont let it get to his head. live life and have fun while your young... you grow up quick

 

For sure man, for sure. He's also just learned to ignore him.. but the sad fact is, is that the damage is already done

 

Doupt that would help.
But, o' well, they could try