Well i can do anything.. hey even if its just on ones you have already covered having another opinion cant hurt can it... i cant get on msn much at the moment because im kinda in and outta places ATM... ill PM you my private im on it more k.
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Well i can do anything.. hey even if its just on ones you have already covered having another opinion cant hurt can it... i cant get on msn much at the moment because im kinda in and outta places ATM... ill PM you my private im on it more k.
Okay, I'll add you now, then.
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I got a nice long one for you..
The very first day of summer I decide to sleep over my friends house with two other close friends. I knew they smoke and stuff and I was cool with it, I even particapated before (I'm 14 by the way).
This is where the problem kicks in. My girlfriend and I made a promise that I wouldn't smoke or drink or she would break up with me, and she recently ended that deal. So I smoked and drank but she thought I was only going to drink, so she got all mad at me and said "BLAH BLAH NO SMOKE WHATEVER". Keep in mind that even though I am only 14, me and her have been dating well over 16 months.
Now, I smoked 3 cigarettes a day and I think I got hooked because I just want more. It's been going on friday night, all day saturday, and all day today.. I need help with the girl and with the smoking. Please help me?
The very first day of summer I decide to sleep over my friends house with two other close friends. I knew they smoke and stuff and I was cool with it, I even particapated before (I'm 14 by the way).
This is where the problem kicks in. My girlfriend and I made a promise that I wouldn't smoke or drink or she would break up with me, and she recently ended that deal. So I smoked and drank but she thought I was only going to drink, so she got all mad at me and said "BLAH BLAH NO SMOKE WHATEVER". Keep in mind that even though I am only 14, me and her have been dating well over 16 months.
Now, I smoked 3 cigarettes a day and I think I got hooked because I just want more. It's been going on friday night, all day saturday, and all day today.. I need help with the girl and with the smoking. Please help me?
Oooh. Thanks for the quick tips, Shawn.
Vownage, for me...think of what's best for her? If you actually want this girl, then the best choice would try to avoid your contact with alchohol and cigarettes. If you keep going on like this, and the woman gets pissed off, chances are, you're gonna be empty-handed eventually, since, I guess she can't handle it.
And if you want to quit smoking, just go look for some gruesome facts about smoking. That usually creeps people out.
If you think that smoking is more important than the girl, then, I guess you'll find someone else?
But then again, I'm just giving something from my point of view.
Vownage, for me...think of what's best for her? If you actually want this girl, then the best choice would try to avoid your contact with alchohol and cigarettes. If you keep going on like this, and the woman gets pissed off, chances are, you're gonna be empty-handed eventually, since, I guess she can't handle it.
And if you want to quit smoking, just go look for some gruesome facts about smoking. That usually creeps people out.
If you think that smoking is more important than the girl, then, I guess you'll find someone else?
But then again, I'm just giving something from my point of view.
vown4g3-
I strougled with this my gf smoked and drank we also made a deal that shell stop but she did it behind my back, So i Dumped her
My advice get clean start over also try smoking leaves or tea instead
(wow major dey ja vu )
I strougled with this my gf smoked and drank we also made a deal that shell stop but she did it behind my back, So i Dumped her
My advice get clean start over also try smoking leaves or tea instead
(wow major dey ja vu )
I agree with Shawn... Find someone you can trust and talk to them... MAke sure it isn't just one of your friends as the advice they tend to give is not really the correct advice. Try someone a bit older and more mature... Even a school councellor or something...
Ehh well are you saying that she has also smoked since the deal was made ??? if so then i dont see what gives her the right to give you shit about doing it too. Although you made an agreement etc if she broke it already doesn't that kind of cancel the deal... i mean she gets to break up with you coz u smoke but your supposed to let it slide ??? IMO if she is going to be like that then you shouldhave a talk to her and bring it up... whats the worst it can do ?V--own4g3--V said:
here's my problem:
i am moving at the end of july to nevada [specifically, las vegas]
i am dating a girl right now and we love each other both very much. i myself love her more than anything.
i am not one to look to the future, so until the week of my move, i will be fine, but that week i am likely to have a complete breakdown. of course, only idiots would do anything like a long-distance relationship, and we both know that we're gonna have to cut it off
i'm trying to spend as much time with her as i can until then... but i am still probably gonna be all sad and stuff for like the first week i'm in nevada [a week is not a lot, but i get over things fast]
i'm not really asking what i should do,... but this IS a support topic
i would like to be supported
i am moving at the end of july to nevada [specifically, las vegas]
i am dating a girl right now and we love each other both very much. i myself love her more than anything.
i am not one to look to the future, so until the week of my move, i will be fine, but that week i am likely to have a complete breakdown. of course, only idiots would do anything like a long-distance relationship, and we both know that we're gonna have to cut it off
i'm trying to spend as much time with her as i can until then... but i am still probably gonna be all sad and stuff for like the first week i'm in nevada [a week is not a lot, but i get over things fast]
i'm not really asking what i should do,... but this IS a support topic
i would like to be supported
here's my problem:
i am moving at the end of july to nevada [specifically, las vegas]
i am dating a girl right now and we love each other both very much. i myself love her more than anything.
i am not one to look to the future, so until the week of my move, i will be fine, but that week i am likely to have a complete breakdown. of course, only idiots would do anything like a long-distance relationship, and we both know that we're gonna have to cut it off
i'm trying to spend as much time with her as i can until then... but i am still probably gonna be all sad and stuff for like the first week i'm in nevada [a week is not a lot, but i get over things fast]
i'm not really asking what i should do,... but this IS a support topic
i would like to be supported
Your right, this is a support topic...
I had this problem when i moved from sydney to mackay.
Depending if you now people in Nevada or not, youll find it extremely difficult and will be wanting to move back pretty fast.
The trick is gathering a friendship group together.
Make sure it is people who share the same interests...
Skater - go to a bowl,
gamer - go to an internet gaming lounge,
you get the idea.
Give it 6 months and youll love it where you are.
As for the girl, i had a similar problem.
I found a bomb-ass girl 4 days before i moved. This is a bit different and i dont fall in love easy, but im sure i can help.
Keep in contact with her still, its not a long distance relationship.
MSN and SMS are the best because they are cheap. But if you two get free-calls to each other then phone her twice a week for a little bit.
Keep it random, because you dont want to be calling her for the rest of your life, after 3 weeks make it one a week, after 4 weeks stop calling her, make sure you call her randomly though.
From here on treat her as a friend and try not to think back.
Hope that helps. Its what i did with all my friends and my old crew and it worked.
As for msn, if you dont feel like talking to her, block her, then unblock her 30 seconds later and say "sorry, i got disconnected." or "Sorry, i kicked the cable out". Most of the time the conversation dies and she will probably stop talking to you unless she can think of a way to bring it to life.
Hope that helps.
And get rid of the bar in your sig, that might help.
Youll get over her once you have settled in.
Youll get over her once you have settled in.
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Hey, well, I have a minor dilemma here... One of my brothers started his first year of college this year, and he is living in an apartment... I was sad when he left, but I still have another brother so it isn't that bad... My older brother went through college living at home, but now he is going to dental school, so next week he is moving into a condo.. My mom and dad both work, but it's not like i never see them or anything. But still, I'm sad that i have no one else in my house... My brothers were awesome, and I always feel much more comfortable at home when they're here... but now I just feel lonely. Sure, I have my friends, but I'm not with them all the time.... Any advice on how to stop the loneliness and feel better?
i am glad that you are supportive, but that isn't going to work
the thing is, i'm not in love with her because she's hot, yes she is hot, but that's not why i love her
i will love her for the rest of my life, and someday, i will come back for her. i know she will miss me almost as much as i will miss her
get a girlfriend?
uhh... do things that you cannot normally do when people are around, such as-
read a book
do a puzzle?
nah who am i kidding. tthose suck [although i do rather enjoy reading]
just get a girlfriend
i am glad that you are supportive, but that isn't going to work
the thing is, i'm not in love with her because she's hot, yes she is hot, but that's not why i love her
i will love her for the rest of my life, and someday, i will come back for her. i know she will miss me almost as much as i will miss her
Sorry about the inactivity, been gong through exams and such.
I hate to burst your bubble, but this whole "I will come back for her" just isn't going to fly. Your in a high-school(?) relationship, and you think that really means something in the long run, but trust me, it really won't. There are a few people who do go on to marry thier highschool sweethearts, but realisticly, you'll move away in a few months meet some new girls, and your old girlfriend will be in the past.
no, the thing is that i don't want to get married. i am never going to get married
i don't like settling down. i'm not going to stay in vegas long after i graduate college. i'm probably gonna move back here for a few months after college
and next summer i am going to spend at least a couple weeks here
the thing is,... i'm not like most people
it will work for me
no, the thing is that i don't want to get married. i am never going to get married
i don't like settling down. i'm not going to stay in vegas long after i graduate college. i'm probably gonna move back here for a few months after college
and next summer i am going to spend at least a couple weeks here
the thing is,... i'm not like most people
it will work for me
You won't be able to keep a girl if you don't plan on advancing the relationship, in her eyes tht means getting married. College is still 4 years, and she may find someone else in the next year.
well, one of the major factors in this is that she is not likely to get another boyfriend... for a long time... or ever
she's very intimidating....
i am pretty much assured that she'll be there for me next time i see her again
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I started chew, got hooked, wtf do I do now? lol. Me and drugs these days..
Well, theres no real easy way to quit chew. You could try patches though.
Hah, the first time my girlfriend had a smoke, i was with her.
She went to kiss me and i pulled back and said no thanks i don't like the taste of ashtrays
She never smoked again...
