I love her :\

Hey Sythe, I've recently fallen for this amazing girl, she has around 4 boys going after her, including her ex which I recently helped her get through as. Although I have never actully told her i love her, I've been complementing her a lot on msn/facebook/in real life. I don't know what to do as her ex and I are really good friends and I don't want to do anything to hurt either of them. Please help me

 

I think you should talk to your friend about your feelings for her. Ask him if you went for her, if it would damage your friendship. If he says it would, back off. Remember, "Bro's before hoe's". My girlfriend was best friends with my ex and their friendship was broken because of me. I feel bad, but eh...

 

bro don't bother i've been down the same path a good friend will last a lot longer then a hot girl ur in love with trust me .

 

Ask him if it's fine if you go out with her and if he says no, then you can either still go for her or forget about her and remain friends.

 

First how old are you...Im not sure you know what true "love" is..

Next...if you dont want to hurt the either of them then you should find another girl...their are plenty of more fish in the sea.

 

4 other guys going for her?

Alright, first thing you have to do is evaluate the competition. Do you stand a chance against those 4 guys? If the answer is no, you should just try to get over her, and find yourself another girl. If the answer is yes, and this should only be your answer if you're either truly in love with her or you find yourself very attractive, you gotta make your move immediately. Tell her how you feel about her, before the other guys do. Hopefully, she'll maybe have the same/or some feelings for you. Then you can either ask her out, or maybe give it some time.

Good luck!

 

this is another dilemma that I'm facing, I'm 16, is it love or lust? D:

 

Lust... Not saying true love cant be found at 16, but its unlikely. My grandparents were married for 56 years, until my grandfathers death, and when they starting 'dating' they were 14 and 16.

But, give it a shot, try for her. Tell her how you feel. I would suggest NOT using the "L" word on her though. But hey, if you get her, who knows how long it will last. If not, hope its fun lol.

 

thanks man, i'm seeing her tonight

 

Yes, this.

 

When you're at the point that you're pretty sure that this girl actually loves you, it's time to make a decision. There is no law that says that you should ask your friend for approval first, but if he means a lot to you it wouldn't be a bad idea to have a talk with him. In all honesty, if he is a good friend he should accept that you two are in love and he shouldn't try to stop you. If he doesn't want you to start anything with her, then it's up to you. Who do you care about the most? But I repeat that if he is a good friend that, even though he won't be too happy, he shouldn't force you to stay away from her.

 

Been down the same road myself... we knew the girl for 2 years and i knew m my friend all my life... obviously i choose my friend... same as other guy said girls are a dime a dozen but good friends are hard rare... And trust me when i say you`ll find another girl its like impossible not to unless you dont go out