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This seems like simple infatuation but either way getting friend-zoned is the worst! :S

 

sticky situation, she isn't worth it. i had a simlar problem but I tried my hardest to get over it

 

k so u gotta trust me on this, ive been around enough to know im right on this one...

u have 2 options...option 1 is walk away and just completely distance urself from her and slowly but surely the heartache will die down, but im sure thats not what u want...so, heres option 2

keep a friendship. make sure shes always got u to talk to when she needs someone. make sure u arent obsessive, make sure u never make her uncomfortable, and while shes with her bf DO NOT make a move on her. ur in the friend zone but it may not always be like that. what u need to do is wait for her and her bf to break up (u say they wont but 99% of relationships between people under 18 end) so wait for that moment and then just be there for her. she will see who u are and how much u care and she will feel love. 1 of 2 things will happen...either she will discover new feelings for u and want to possibly give dating u a shot, or it will just reassure her ur a good friend.

thats really the best i can tell u, its tough being in the friend zone but id say tahts ur best shot.

 

I know I'm kinda late, but read my story.

I was in a similar situation in highschool, I went out with this girl freshman year, I was really shy at the time and told her I wouldn't do boyfriend related stuff with her, I ended up getting dumped.

A year or so later she started dating her current boyfriend, they have been together for almost 3 1/2 years or something to that extent. Sophomore year I didn't have any classes with her and just avoided her when we walked past. Well, as my junior year comes about I'm becoming the "class clown" I guess you could say, I was a goof ball (still am haha ) I started opening up to everything, girls or just talking to people.

Anyways, Senior year we ended up having 2 clasess together, her relationship of 2+ years was kinda getting dull like some do over time, arguing etc. I was a fool and started talking to her in class, and started to have those old feelings again.

She being bored, tired or whatever it was with her relationship started to play around in class with me, joking etc. We became good friends again, talking on FB and such. Well.. things kinda progressed from there, we ended up kissing in an empty room at school. Wrong I know.. but I'd always had crazy feelings for this girl.

She ended up telling her bf cause she felt guilty and such, he got pissed and we settled it without fighting, not that I wouldn't fight, but fighting is preddy ignorant unless necessary. Self defense, etc.

Well one night months later (the next semester) I had another class with her, guess what... same thing happend but "worse" We talked on the phone everyday after school for hours. Her boyfriend told her he "needed a break" In her mind that meant they were over, so one day on FB I was like "Hey lets go hangout, just as friends" She actually went through with it, soon as she got in the car I knew shit was gonna go down..

It was lighting outside, raining like hell. I told my parents I was goin' to play Xbox with my friend at his house. Well me an her pull down to the lake and I lead her to the trail in the woods and we just sit there under a tree and look out at the lake, awwhh so sweet... lol Anyways we end up making out for hours, and then a cop shows up, I was so lucky that I worked at a gas station near by, so he asks me "What yah doin' Jason?" Me: "Just talking" Police: "Well buddy, I'ma have to ask you to go "talk" somewhere else" lol xD

Anyways we leave and go back behind my high school and things sorta happened... We didn't have sex, preddy much 3nd base. My mom called (HUGE COCKBLOCK) lol, so we kinda wrapped it up.

Guess what she did... told her boyfriend, so we fought and it was an even fight even though I don't care who won, only ego boosted faggots care about fighting.

Well.. they whole point in the story is to LET HER GO it's probably not going to happen. What I typed sounds mostly like sexual atrraction, but it wasn't I really cared for her, but you can't have something that belongs to someone else..

TL;DR Hope my story helps in someway.

P.S. I have since met the love of my life and we have been together for a little over 5 months. <3

 

Yeah most people are saying to get over it, It's going to be very hard for me

What you don't know is that how much she loves him. She is literally crazy for him. He is a very nice guy and very caring. He will never do anything to hurt her. So yeah its very hard for me because I know they will never break up. I bet they will get married one day and that just kills me. I think the best thing for me to do is just try option 1, hopefully time will heal my wounds but I doubt it

You have no more feelings for the other girl?
And yeah thanks for your story, I think I really will let her but it's going to be very hard for me, you have no idea..

 

Honestly, that's how I feel about my best friend. The only difference for me is that mine is single right now, so it isn't as bad as your case.

If I were you, I'd at least wait until she is done with her boyfriend. I know it doesn't seem like it, but unless they're like 25-30 and looking to get married, I can guarantee you they will break up. That's your chance right there.

Sorry for your pain man, I know exactly what you're going through... I myself am conflicted.

 

You are in possibly one of the worst possible situations because i was in this at one point myself if you tell her it can make things awkward and if you dont you feel like your missing an opportunity. Its up to you what you feel is the more important decision to make.