Help? How can i tell her?

[TezzSun]

Okay.... just to warn you guys, im not ganna tell too much because im scared other people from my school may be signed up on this forums. I doubt it because i see no1 thats techy but lets not risk getting expelled.

Now im a teen and, and yes, i like this girl

Okay, so when i first entered my school, we didnt talk much until i started to become the comedian in the class. I use to make everyone (including her) laugh.

It was great the first 3 or 4 months of school, we use to talk alot. Im in a strict private school and one of the rules is that boys and girls cannot talk to each other (The girls is on like one side of the room while the boys are in the other)

How did we speak? Simple...
My history teacher is pretty smart but fails to control us so while everyone is talking and he is just screaming, we talk. Around Nov 2010, i went to my country for 1 week for a break and she asked me to bring a pyramid from my country (im not from Egypt LOL but im from in Arabian country, thats all i can say) and i was like, im ganna see (I think she was joking)

1 week later, she asked if i brought something in a joking way and i pull out a small present all wrapped up with a small card under the bow which surprised her (I think she was not expecting me to get her something and i said in the card that i couldnt find a pyramid so i brought her something else. Either way, it still made her happy)

At the same time all this was happening, we got nerds on my back. I sit with this kid (who his dad is the priest of our school) who always hits my desk when i talk to her screaming, "DUDE! LOOK THIS WAY, NOT AT GIRLS! YOUR SUPPOSE TO BE FRIENDS WITH BOYS! NOT GIRLS!" which is funny because he really has no friends (and yes, he screams it right infront of her but she can tell i really dont care). At the same time, i always get text messages from the boys in our class claiming to be her (they use apps like "Textfree" and "Line2" but i didnt get tricked)

It was until December 2010, everything fell badly. She had a facebook which we both talked through sometimes and she was not allowed to have one, but she got caught (this is what i heard from one of her friends, i never really knew she was not allowed to have one in the first place) and her dad made her close it. At the same time, this girl who was the one actually helping me talk to her left our school (due to the cost being too pricey)

Yet time to time, she says a couple of "Heyyyy" on her friends account whenever she sleeps over her friends house (i know its her automatically because her friend never replies to me first) and about a week ago, i was sick and when i came back, she asked me if i felt better which surprised me because im wondering how did she know i was sick in the first place?

IF YOU REALLY READ UP TO HERE! THEN I THANK YOU ALOT!!
Now for the plan. I dont wanna date her but but i want to be friends to her (She did ask me this back in November but the principal came in before i can reply because our class was wild as hell)

Here are my options:
1. Write a Poem to her
I already did this but i never gave it to her. I dont know how, im just too shy... and i really cant find a good place to give it to her without teachers except computer class but there are too many boys which are going to cause problems.

2. Try to send the poem to her through facebook
As i stated above, she still looks through facebook from her friends account but thats only when she is actually with her friends. I thought of making a simple poem to her friend, send it to her friend and say i was dared to write it. AT THIS POINT, IT TAKES LUCK NOW! What im thinking of is that she will ask for a poem to and thats where im actually go to write how i feel and stuff. It could work of fail, im scared she wont ask for a poem.....

3. Stand up and speak to her
Its what most people do but the thing is its almost considered impossible because:

1. Everyone will be watching and one of the kids may tell the principal
2. Our school is small, and has cameras so....
3. There are teachers everywhere, its impossible to be hidden

Yes, you can say im in a much harder situations but still, can anyone help? Im kinda shy but i want to stop this. Its only my first year and i dont feel like keeping this feeling till i go to colledge

What am i suppose to do it?
WHAT DO U GUYS THINK? Im not trolling, you can clearly see a troll wouldnt post something like this, i need ur opinions! please!!
Thanks!

 

[Lordhooters]

Stand up and talk to her man. I understand that you are in a very strict school, but the punishment is never as bad as having a good friend.

I hope things work out for you, and if you would feel more comfortable with giving more information privately my MSN is always open to situations like this, [email protected]

 

[TezzSun]

Stand up and talk to her man. I understand that you are in a very strict school, but the punishment is never as bad as having a good friend.

I hope things work out for you, and if you would feel more comfortable with giving more information privately my MSN is always open to situations like this, [email protected]

Thanks, the school is one thing that is the problem but its my shyness that doesnt give me the strength and power. Im scared of the results, and i want to overcome it. If she wants to be my friend (which i hope) then its great, if not, well, live goes on but atleast i got the experiance.

 

[Lordhooters]

By the sounds of it, you guys are already friends....Just talk to her, but call her friend or bud in the conversation.

 

[TezzSun]

By the sounds of it, you guys are already friends....Just talk to her, but call her friend or bud in the conversation.

Wish i can talk to her. I dont even know how to start a conversation with her, i always wanted to talk to her.

We havent talked much so imma see what will happen. Maybe i should talk to her more often before even proceeding

 

[Jimb0]

You gotta try to bring her at your house , do jokes like you said that she enjoy ... do everything that she likes , and go for it man , it seems like she like you ( yea i have read everything) i have no problems with women , tbh womens run at me , but i know how it is to love this ONE girl ... i dont know how to help you seriously just gived you my idea ... thats what i did with that ONE girl ^^ , be careful if you ever get in relationship with her , do not ever lose her ... this is the worst thing ever

 

[Tha Traina]

ok sooo this is like my speciality topic, GIRLS.
What you need to do:
Get the poem on some nice but cute paper and roll it up and tie it with like a ribbon or string. Put it in like a cute box or something and slip it in her backpack/locker and whenever you get the free time say something cute "hinting" that you wrote it. See how she responds and if its good keep talking to her and when you think its time just ask her out

 

[kmjt]

I don't get it. If your already talking to her, or she says hey, you are already friends. A poem is out of line if you're only seeking to be her friend..

 

[uselesspoop]

why is your school like that...

anyway it seems you and her are off to a good yet a rough start. If you start a relationship with her in that sort of school, i can foresee loads of problems. School problems, family problems, friend problems.

And yes, i think she does like you from what you've said. If you feel your brave and ready enough i suggest you take Step 1.

Poems are a great way to express yourself and giving it to her personally would be very sincere. Make sure you don't let anyone see it though, since they might report to the principal ( ridiculous ... )

All the best my friend, don't fear failure. Go for it.

 

[The Chemist]

Can't you just talk to her, somewhere outside the school, where no one can see you both?

 

[neloza]

I would skip the poem route as that will lead to failure.

You need to talk to her. Just let her know how you feel about her. That is how everyone else does it. Talking to that first girl is the most difficult one, but once you do it and realize that it is not the end of the world talking to them after that is much easier.

 

[TezzSun]

Wow! Lots of replys back for once! I swear this is the first forum that actually has members that care! Than you all! Time to get responding

You gotta try to bring her at your house , do jokes like you said that she enjoy ... do everything that she likes , and go for it man , it seems like she like you ( yea i have read everything) i have no problems with women , tbh womens run at me , but i know how it is to love this ONE girl ... i dont know how to help you seriously just gived you my idea ... thats what i did with that ONE girl ^^ , be careful if you ever get in relationship with her , do not ever lose her ... this is the worst thing ever

Bring her home? The rest you said is what im trying to do, thanks alot but bringing her to my house is like IMPOSSIBLE at the moment.
1. I live an hour away from my school
2. She goes on the bus, i carpool and there is NO WAY i can bring her in the ride with me because im with all strict boys AND THATS GOING TO SCREW EVERYTHING!

ok sooo this is like my speciality topic, GIRLS.
What you need to do:
Get the poem on some nice but cute paper and roll it up and tie it with like a ribbon or string. Put it in like a cute box or something and slip it in her backpack/locker and whenever you get the free time say something cute "hinting" that you wrote it. See how she responds and if its good keep talking to her and when you think its time just ask her out

It seems possible, i can try to do something but i dont know how im ganna slip it in her backpack or something. I have her email so i can probably send it, will be alot safer. Ill see what i can do but thanks!

I don't get it. If your already talking to her, or she says hey, you are already friends. A poem is out of line if you're only seeking to be her friend..

We USE to talk to each other but for some reason, we stopped. Im already trying to talk to her but we dont make a long conversation. Atleast i wanna speak to her more frequently so i can lower the chances of liking her. Its best to talk to her than stay silent and let this sickness of liking her grow.

why is your school like that...

anyway it seems you and her are off to a good yet a rough start. If you start a relationship with her in that sort of school, i can foresee loads of problems. School problems, family problems, friend problems.

And yes, i think she does like you from what you've said. If you feel your brave and ready enough i suggest you take Step 1.

Poems are a great way to express yourself and giving it to her personally would be very sincere. Make sure you don't let anyone see it though, since they might report to the principal ( ridiculous ... )

All the best my friend, don't fear failure. Go for it.

Yes, we had a great start but now its falling. Being in a relationship is impossible and i dont even want her to be my girlfriend or any of that relationship stuff. I just want to atleast talk to her more and show how i feel.

Can't you just talk to her, somewhere outside the school, where no one can see you both?

The size of our school is pretty much like 4 tall apartments together

I would skip the poem route as that will lead to failure.

You need to talk to her. Just let her know how you feel about her. That is how everyone else does it. Talking to that first girl is the most difficult one, but once you do it and realize that it is not the end of the world talking to them after that is much easier.

I guess i can try to hold back the poem till later or just say how i feel by words. I need to atleast know how to talk to her more. Ill see what i can do.

Thanks guys alot!! I have some ideas now! i really hope this will work out! If other members see this, feel free to post your opinions! it will help me and anyone else who comes across this post!

Thanks guys!

 

[Mankstar]

I would leave out the poem for now, You're school sounds horrible everyone should be able to speak to whoever they like, Organize something where you can meet outside of school grounds where it will just be you two and no nerds

 

[tehctrl]

Here my 2c

I'm no expert but I think if you just want to be friends or good friends with her the poem is pointless / out of line, I dont see the need for the poem ect. Have you got her phone number? Maybe you can arrange to catch up with her it doesnt have to be like a date would be just hang out and enjoy the time you spend with her. But yeah, the first thing you need to do is work out if you really want to be friends with her or more? From the sound of thing's I think she has feeling towards you in a more than a friend way. But yeah as I said my suggestion is maybe get her phone number and text her or maybe ask her for her email address and start emailing / IM'ing.

 

[DGTurtle]

I Dont mean to make fun of your life but damn.
She's a human too just like me and you, she's not an alien
Just stand up and grow a pair
you will get no where in life with female's being controlled the way you are being and your school sound's way over the top,
I hope you get everything out of life you want by going to that school,
sound's like hell.

 

[DGTurtle]

Sorry Double Post

 

[Vallory]

Honestly, I'd junk the poem idea. It's cheesy, and if some guy gave me a poem expressing how he felt about me I'd think his intentions are different then what yours are. So yeah, junk the poem idea.

As far as talking to her, how old are you both? There is NO reason in the world that you can't have a female friend. The opposite sex, like someone said, isn't an alien. You're both human.

If that doesn't work, her friend seems pretty chill. You could possibly get her friend to be almost like a middleman. Send her messages to her friends facebook, her friend can print them out and bring them to her- vice/versa.

There's a lot of ways you can talk to her.

 

[PeptoBismaul]

damn what is that school a prison?cameras,no talking to girls even if its a religious school,god allows people to have friends which are girls,and about ur prob stand up if u overcome ur shyness it will feel way way better cus u know u did something u couldnt

 

[TezzSun]

Again, thanks for all the posts! Im sure there are other ideas that have similar situations like me (probably better because they can actually talk to girls without getting expelled LOL)

Time to start responding!

I would leave out the poem for now, You're school sounds horrible everyone should be able to speak to whoever they like, Organize something where you can meet outside of school grounds where it will just be you two and no nerds

Lol 2 nerds, funny. Kinda hard tbh, our classes are like smashed together and if you even whisper, everyone else around you can hear it. LMFAO my school fails.

I Dont mean to make fun of your life but damn.
She's a human too just like me and you, she's not an alien
Just stand up and grow a pair
you will get no where in life with female's being controlled the way you are being and your school sound's way over the top,
I hope you get everything out of life you want by going to that school,
sound's like hell.

Really, i wanna stop this question in my mind whether she wants to be friends with me or not. Its somewhat keeping me away from even paying attention in class! Ohh btw, dont worry, i didnt take it as an offense, i understand lol
Its somewhat like hell, we got sexist teachers who care more about the girls than boys if you wanna top that in our bad our school is

Honestly, I'd junk the poem idea. It's cheesy, and if some guy gave me a poem expressing how he felt about me I'd think his intentions are different then what yours are. So yeah, junk the poem idea.

As far as talking to her, how old are you both? There is NO reason in the world that you can't have a female friend. The opposite sex, like someone said, isn't an alien. You're both human.

If that doesn't work, her friend seems pretty chill. You could possibly get her friend to be almost like a middleman. Send her messages to her friends facebook, her friend can print them out and bring them to her- vice/versa.

There's a lot of ways you can talk to her.

Ahh, im sure there are lots of questions why we cant talk to girls. First of all, if you remember from me saying that i went on a vacation, im arabic or arab (whatever you guys prefer). Some families (like mine) are not really that strict but some (like my friends) are strict as hell. One of my friends got punished for not going out with friends cuz his dad caught him hanging out with this girl.

As for me, my parents dont care who i hang out with, as long as its a good person and not someone whos bad, they dont care.

 

[Zezecha]

Bro, I wanna say one thing... Your school is fucked up, yet youre paying for it? Fail...
Im not hating, just stating.
K, Id go with a cross between 2 & 3. Just write a poem, walk up to her & give/read it to her.
This kinda happened to a chick that went to my school. We talked with each other on a regular basis, she wanted me to go to some sports games with her to make sure she didnt get bored when watching her boyfriend play(haha). But , then I didnt make my move and other people became friends with her.
Overall, just make your move soon or you wont even be her friend anymore... =/