When exactly did you break up with your girlfriend?
As posted above, 6 months ago (roughly). I found out she was cheating on me and I couldn't get past it.
That's a tough one, are you sure it's love? Not just lust.
I wouldn't of gone with the letter.. Is it too late to get rid of that? Sure it seems cute but it seems a little creepy only knowing her for 10 days, if you can give us more background story we might be able to help.
I have not sent the letter. I wrote it more of a way to get how I was feeling down in writing (although typed).
We have been hanging out every day, to every other day in her room alone. I usually am helping her with homework. However she always makes me give her like hour long back massages (which I actually kind of enjoy, and I am a percussionist so I have no problem with going long periods of time while using my hands).
2 Other times we have hung out (so like 2 out of the 7 times we have hung out), I have been providing her some solace because of her boyfriend and her fighting. I have been up there at 3-4 in the morning with her just comforting her.
What other details were u looking for?
Don't try and get her to cheat on her boyfriend with you. Respect their relationship and be a good friend if need be to keep in contact with her. Also 10 days is rather short to be making the decision that "she's the one"
I know it is soon. I'm not saying she's necessarily the one, but I think you have to date and see how each other are before you can know that for sure. I would NEVER cheat, and I would NEVER be with someone that I knew was cheating, I was with a cheater for awhile and it was just a shit-show relationship.
Lol damn bruh.. You love her already? If anything, I'd flirt back just to see where it goes.
I'm not sure if it's love... I do flirt back and that's all it is from what I can tell.
sounds like you're on the rebound homie.
So, essentially you're just getting over the grieving process. You're still trying to compensate for the free time you have in your life that was once filled by your ex-girlfriend.
I would say hold off, especially with the letter. A letter now, in this generation, would only work in the movies. You also mentioned she has a boyfriend, which is unfair to the both of them to take such dramatic actions. Without knowing the physical abilities of him, you may get your ass whooped.
To me, it sounds like you're just getting out of or possibly still in the grieving process. You got out of an emotionally unstable relationship and now you're looking to re-fill it with another time-waster.
Take some time and rediscover yourself, i say this because you were in an emotionally unstable relationship for 3.5 years. Although you may know what you want, as humans, we tend to find the same type of relationships we were previously in without proper healing and self-descovery.
In other words, find yourself first. The last thing you want is a v2 of your previous relationship.
I know the letter seems like a movie thing, that's why I thought it might work... I am quite romantic and genuine and sweet.
As for getting my ass whooped, I think not. I passed the physical fitness examination for an Army ROTC program with qualifications that could land me in sniper school immediately after college (depending on if I fully accept my PFC ranking offer), and he is a skinny/lanky kid.
My morals are kind of set how they are I believe. I don't think there is much of anything that could change me at this point. I am firm on my mind, i guess it's just my heart that's not firm.
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I guess for now I will just live from a distance with her, still being friends but waiting and seeing where everything goes... I guess it will be hard on my heart knowing what it is she is doing with her scummy boyfriend who does nothing all day but smoke pot, and get C's in high school. but oh well, life goes on I suppose...
I am still thinking of continuing the letter, and giving it to her way down the road... months, maybe a year... If I still feel the same. However I do not really want to post it online....
