for those stuck in the friend zone

[Belumoth]

I know that you're asleep, but I just wanted to reassure you that I'm willing to try this out again. I want to figure out how we are together and what makes us good. Just hang on with me and let me heal as needed. There's gonna be a lot of heavy shit that may surface, but I need you to help me with it all. Give me a chance to fix what I fucked up almost 5 years ago.

I've been the one she had come to for help when she was having problems with her now ex boyfriend. We dated before for a couple months but she broke it off. It wasn't easy, it wasn't fun. I dated a couple girls during the time but none were near what I felt with her.

So stick it out. Be there for her. But don't tell her that she needs to be with you.

Be her friend.

 

[Patriarch]

Treat her as you would treat yourself. Cherish her for who she is, not what she is. Make her feel as if she is the centre of the universe. Dont ever chuck her aside.

 

[Krenshaw]

Treat her as you would treat yourself. Cherish her for who she is, not what she is. Make her feel as if she is the centre of the universe. Dont ever chuck her aside.

Don't overload her with feelins tough in the beginning or you might lose her from the very first beginning already.

 

[Belumoth]

and thus ends the "second chance" wasn't even able to make it home to try and make it work.

but this just shows you that it is possible.

 

[Belumoth]

Aw I'm glad for you Belumoth! I'm stuck in the completely ignored zone, so I think I'm outta luck.



What's wrong with feelings? Maybe it's just me but I love a boy who can show emotions or is more the "female" in the relationship when it comes to feelings.

i think you missed my second post =/

I was on the phone with N***. So here's the deal...dont quit your job. You're going to stay in Utah and work your ass off...N*** and I broke up, talked tonight, and we are in the process of making things right between us. This means that we are trying to get back together. This is serious. I have ALREADY seen changes in N*** to know that he wants to actually try to make this work. Its different this time, we are a couple, but were not going to be acting like one. We are going to find outside sources that make us happier when we are on our own and ones that make us happy when were together that don't involve physical contact or lovey dovey shit...i can't give up now with 4 years already under my belt. I gotta give it one last chance. Especially if he's being the way he is right now.

 

[Patriarch]

What's wrong with feelings? Maybe it's just me but I love a boy who can show emotions or is more the "female" in the relationship when it comes to feelings.

Exactly my point. Most girls would prefer a sensitive partner instead of one who goes for being tough & acting macho but doesnt think of her as the centre of his world.

 

[Krenshaw]

Exactly my point. Most girls would prefer a sensitive partner instead of one who goes for being tough & acting macho but doesnt think of her as the centre of his world.

I didn't tell you have to act macho, but if you are too open about your feelings, women basicly have their "drug" they wanted and are looking for more elsewhere.

If you keep them in the blue, but not too much, they'll stick with you forever. Just my 2cents...

 

[Loyal 2 da game]

belumoth, sounds like she's just tryna keep you on the hook......

 

[artshow]

We as men must realize that with women they like to be in control yet be able to run with their emotions as well. We have to be willing to adapt to that nature and most of the time let them think they're winning. Pick and chose your battles defend your points on the ones worth defending them on. In regards to friend zones if you feel you have a shot then you need to sit back from a neutral point of view and figure out how to proceed.