Best Friends vs. Girlfriend

[Painted Rain]

Don't say it, because if she really is your friend, she'll want to stay a friend regardless of whether the pair of you work out. If she denies you she'll probably say it herself, if not then you can add it yourself, but don't do it while or right after telling her how you feel about her.

What you don't want to do is wait and do nothing. There's a limit to how long we can conceal feelings for other people, let it out at the right moment. Good luck

I agree with that.

you keep her as a friend with benefits.

Lol... I already said I don't want to just hook up with her like that.

I think my situation is almost similar to yours, I have tried your option C, but its hard. I think the best thing for you to do is just stay friends.

Thanks for the personal advice man.

 

[Towelie]

I would choose option "A"

 

[sith kid]

What did you end up doing? If anything? Keep in mind the longer you wait, the worse it will get.

 

[Painted Rain]

I would choose option "A"

Okay..

What did you end up doing? If anything? Keep in mind the longer you wait, the worse it will get.

I haven't done anything yet... if I do tell her it has to be in a moment where I'm either too drunk to care what I'm saying or at a perfect moment... I just have to feel that it's right.

Why the longer I wait, the worse it gets? How?

 

[KingCrackerJacks]

avoid a relationship and stay friends

 

[Painted Rain]

avoid a relationship and stay friends

Why do you say that?

 

[Gooseberry]

I'm actually not too sure what to pick.
It actually depends on the girl, like how we get along, do we fight a majority of the time? and etc.

 

[YerYerYer]

Be open to her, tell her how you feel about her and see how she re-acts.

 

[KingCrackerJacks]

if you value your friendship and take it up a level one of you will most likely get hurt, ending that friendship

 

[Painted Rain]

I'm actually not too sure what to pick.
It actually depends on the girl, like how we get along, do we fight a majority of the time? and etc.

We get along amazingly. We have never fought.

Be open to her, tell her how you feel about her and see how she re-acts.

That's what half the people are saying :/

if you value your friendship and take it up a level one of you will most likely get hurt, ending that friendship

This is what the other half are saying

 

[Snow Patrol]

I suggest you stay friends for now, if you know for a solid fact she has no intimate interest in you there's no point pressuring her into it, don't lose her as a friend, and maybe as time progresses you guys can take the next step forward, but let her decided when.

 

[Painted Rain]

I suggest you stay friends for now, if you know for a solid fact she has no intimate interest in you there's no point pressuring her into it, don't lose her as a friend, and maybe as time progresses you guys can take the next step forward, but let her decided when.

Based on the majority of people saying this, I'll probably be going with this. Thanks for the feedback mate.

 

[sith kid]

I cannot emphasize this enough; if she is a true friend it won't affect your relationship with her permanently even if you get rejected.

Sure, it might be awkward for a couple of days, maybe a week or two, but if you don't even get as far as kissing (which you won't, if she rejects you), it will be just something you'll be able to joke about in a matter of days. You have absolutely NOTHING to lose.

Edit: And don't do it while you're drunk, it doesn't count and the next time you'll ask her you'll lose the spontaneousness of "legitly" asking her out. Keep it together

 

[Painted Rain]

I cannot emphasize this enough; if she is a true friend it won't affect your relationship with her permanently even if you get rejected.

Sure, it might be awkward for a couple of days, maybe a week or two, but if you don't even get as far as kissing (which you won't, if she rejects you), it will be just something you'll be able to joke about in a matter of days. You have absolutely NOTHING to lose.

Edit: And don't do it while you're drunk, it doesn't count and the next time you'll ask her you'll lose the spontaneousness of "legitly" asking her out. Keep it together

Thanks man, what you said makes sense. And I'll keep in mind the drunk part. You've been a real help!

 

[xi momo xi]

Stay best friends for sure. If it doesn't come naturally, don't force it.

 

[Painted Rain]

Stay best friends for sure. If it doesn't come naturally, don't force it.

So many conflicting thoughts from many different people! Thanks for your input.