Ask her out over phone or text?

[IxI Duality IxI]

Hello all, welcome to my girl situation #7........is it 8? D'oh I had too many situations with the girlies. Now I'm sure this should be an easy answer, but I just want some opinions. I will try to keep it short.

So basically I met this girl at school (college). She is dope and I dig her style, and I think I got it in the bag because I'm the only one that basically talks to her inside the class. Anyways, this class is only once a week, but I got her number. So basically I had class 7 times, but I would make an attempt to talk to her outside of class.

And I texted her a few times, just basic talk, kept it short and sweet and seemed okay. Looked up her twitter, and no BF, no flirty stupid BS pics blah blah blah. So I was talking to her in school today, just simple chat, and I was going to ask her to this haunted house maze nearby. But first, I asked her if she liked scary movies and she said not really. So in my mind I'm thinking that approach might not work, was going to do bowling or skating.

But she to leave because her mom was there to pick her up, so basically I just said see ya. Was going to say something, but I just think it would feel right, and rushed because she was standing up and getting ready to walk away. And she seems some-what shy, but she talks to me with no problem. NOW,

MY QUESTION! Should I ask her casually over text or phone?

Reason I ask this, is because these girls nowadays are always on their phone, but yet forget the purpose of a cellphone. TO TALK! I'm oldschool and rarely text unless it's someone annoying haha. So, do you think she will be too shy to pick up the phone? Heck, I know girls that wouldn't even dare to pick up. What do you guys think?

tl;dr - Should I call this "somewhat" shy girl, or text her casually about hanging out?

Thanks and enjoy your day!

 

It's always best to do it in person. Just say "hey, do you wanna go get coffee sometime?" Or something like that. It's not asking for a date, but it's asking to see eachother outside of class, and get to know eachother a little bit. Anything from grabbing coffee, to a walk, to simply hanging out at the park together. It may seem silly, but this gives you a chance to talk 1 on 1, get to know her a little better, and potentially if everything goes well, ask to grab a bite to eat, movie, or skating some time ^^

 

[pur3bloody]

Do it in person when the time is right, ifnot, phone call is the next best option. Women like a man with assertiveness and confidence. Calling or in person is far more sexy to a woman than text. I only text for a date if I met the girl on tinder and just want to hook up real quick.

 

[Darbss]

asked my fiance out over the phone via text while in the shower. Fapping.

balls in your court homie, shoot.

 

[oldschoolpvper]

imo, dont use text of a call.

make her feel comfy when shes with you then just ask in person.
ask her for lunch or so in class. if she says yes then just ask her for a date during the lunch if it goes well.

gl mate.

 

[Kezm0n]

In this day and age, with social media being so productive and with every teenager having their noses glued to their phone screens, it's perfectly acceptable to ask someone to a casual date over text/im/phone etc. I wouldn't even ponder the idea of it but just go for it, make casual conversation through text and just drop the idea of you both doing something together into play. And the perk with texting is that you give her as long as she needs to dwell on the idea without being put on the spot. As she sounds pretty timid and shy it might be awkward for her if you pose a question she's not all that comfortable answering right there and then. Keep it casual but don't fall headfirst into the friendzone lol.

 

[SVEDKA]

Meet in person talk for a bit, make some jokes and then go for it. It's a lot harder to turn down someone in front of you than it is VIA call or text.

 

[basics]

Meet in person talk for a bit, make some jokes and then go for it. It's a lot harder to turn down someone in front of you than it is VIA call or text.

This^

Best to ask her out in person bro
It always means more when you do stuff in person, it may be harder but in the end its worth it

 

[syclone1]

Like what most have suggested already, just talk to her in-person! Find a good time, and bring it up casually that you'd like to take her somewhere--or hang out. Make it special! In any case, best of luck man!

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Word up gents, I will wait it out till in person - until then I will still be talking to her little by little. Then I wait will for the perfect time to strike, haha!

 

[Kezm0n]

Word up gents, I will wait it out till in person - until then I will still be talking to her little by little. Then I wait will for the perfect time to strike, haha!

The game is weak in these guys - you really needn't put so much emphasis on inviting a girl out to a meal or a few drinks or w/e it is you wanna do. At the end of the day she's only going to say yay or nay. You're not waiting for the perfect moment to sweep her off her feet into a horse and carriage, you're literally just throwing down one of the most common proposals laid out. The majority of teens these days have their phones literally glued to their hands, conversing and making plans over text, most prominently, is perfectly acceptable! You shouldn't make such a big deal about it bro.

 

[Carbon]

I'm still in Highschool but does asking people to the movies still work? If not then I guess you could ask her to get something to eat. Anyways, if I were in your position I would probably ask her over the phone. It's always good to do it in person but you said she seem's somewhat shy and you don't want a false response because she's too shy to say yes.

 

[pur3bloody]

The game is weak in these guys - you really needn't put so much emphasis on inviting a girl out to a meal or a few drinks or w/e it is you wanna do. At the end of the day she's only going to say yay or nay. You're not waiting for the perfect moment to sweep her off her feet into a horse and carriage, you're literally just throwing down one of the most common proposals laid out. The majority of teens these days have their phones literally glued to their hands, conversing and making plans over text, most prominently, is perfectly acceptable! You shouldn't make such a big deal about it bro.

The game is weak... Lol... That's why I'm currently talking to 8 chicks, 3 of which I have dates with already.


@gyazo, I wouldn't really suggest a movie date since the first date is usually a time to show your personality and get to know the other person, at the movies you can't really do that. Try bowling or mini golf perhaps.

 

[syclone1]

Lol, damn guys...well personally I think doing it in person shows a better side of you. Also it'll show that you're actually confident enough to make the first move. It definitely has its ups but it will really be up to you.

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Sheesh, mixed results here. I can see if I can try over the phone if it seems the a good time to throw it in there, but if not - I will wait it out till a good time in person.

 

[Kezm0n]

The game is weak... Lol... That's why I'm currently talking to 8 chicks, 3 of which I have dates with already.


@gyazo, I wouldn't really suggest a movie date since the first date is usually a time to show your personality and get to know the other person, at the movies you can't really do that. Try bowling or mini golf perhaps.

I don't mean to be rude but speaking to a few girls and lining up a couple dates isn't really significant. Especially when what you're advising is to follow an outdated? generic standard, without taking vital factors into account as mentioned by Gyzo.

 

[SVEDKA]

Sheesh, mixed results here. I can see if I can try over the phone if it seems the a good time to throw it in there, but if not - I will wait it out till a good time in person.

Think of it this way, the more confidently you ask her the less likely she's gonna turn you down.

 

Person is obviously the best.

However, don't call her and ask. You can just text her a few times and ask if she wants to go do something. Sometimes calling someone throws up a red flag because some people take that as a next step by talking on the phone. However, some like it. It's totally on how the girl is.

 

[Sun]

From a girl's perspective, I would prefer to be asked somewhere in person. That way I can see how you're acting when you ask. Rather, if you're asking via text, I have no idea what you're doing. Are you taking a shit and asking me out? In person is the genuine, good way to go.

However, if I had to choose between texting and calling, I'd choose texting if she seems shy or seems like she'd be on her phone quite a bit throughout the day. Calling may make her nervous. When certain people call me, my voice gets weird because I feel weird being on the phone with them. You really can't go wrong here though. If she wants to go out with you, she'll say yes regardless of the method you ask her. It's all about how you ask her, and if she actually wants to go out with you.

Good luck, my man. I hope it works out for the best. Just be straight-forward and you'll be entirely fine. I'm sure you've asked girls out before, so it can't be that hazardous.

 

Just ask her out, it's nothing to be afraid of

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