Am I over reacting?

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Okay well, how do I start.

I've been diagnosed with sever depression and anxiety. My father is schizophrenic. When things go badly and my mother can't deal with the pressure, it's usually up to me to fix and look after everybody in the house hold, it usually goes without a thank you, but that doesn't bother me, you do want you have to do.

What does bother me is my Dad, I'm not sure what to think of it at this point but let me explain..

A few things, without creating a wall of text that bother me are:
- My Dad, CONSTATLY mentions that my girlfriend should go on the pill, no exactly a bad idea, thats not the point, he constantly brings and up and its like I HAVE TO, which frankly, I don't, the most I can do is mention it to her, I'm only 15 and shes turning 16 on the 22nd. Yes we've had sex but we have been going out for almost 2 years so yea. We are also safe about it.

- Yet again my dad, money hoards. Basically means he hides money from the rest of the family. Usually he spends it on stuff to survive 'the end of the world'.. For example, the other day, I ask for $5 to go down town and just get a quick thing to eat, he opens his wallet and is like "Don't have any money" when there is clearly a $20 note sitting right there.. Next thing you know he spends that $20 only 'survival' equipment. Usually this wouldn't annoy me because we are all entitled to a thing for our selves every now and then, but the fact that he blantently lies to my face (Lying is one thing he hates) and spends it on something that probably will never be used is annoying.

That being said, multiple times I've asked for an extra few dollars (rarely more then $5) I usually just have to clean the kitchen, nothing special, I can live with that. But my parents seem to be dumping more and more house work on me and doing less themselves, so when I asked for the extra $2.50, he replied with "Clean the whole kitchen and do the next six loads of washing and maybe I'll consider it." Which wouldn't usually annoy me, but I can't help but feel I'm turning into one of those spoilt little shits that demand everything.

- I would have a job, but my parents have said to me, whenever I get a job, no matter the age, even if its selling RSGP, I'm paying rent, which does make sense, but doesn't at the same time and with the fact I have to travel atleast an hour to school every day doesn't exactly leave much time for working. I'd only be able to work a few hours on weekends earning a small amount of money, which would ALL end up going on rent. Then I'd have no money, then when I ask for some, they'd be like "Go work more then"..

Now Sythe I ask you, am I becoming one of those spoilt little shits, am I over re-acting or what? How should I go about this? Because with depression I have enough trouble fending off issues as it is (Suicide, self-harm, me doing STUPID things etc...)..

Thank you muchly Sythe, in advance.

 

With your dad, you should understand that with Schizophrenia, especially paranoid schizophrenia, it's in a persons nature to feel like something bad will happen and they need to be prepared, I can sympathise with this and you should probably give the guy a break.

Your dad obviously is just concerned, I'd probably recommend your girlfriend goes on the pill too. You should talk to her about it. It sounds like the last thing you need is an unexpected arrival in your life when you're only 15, the more contraceptives you can use the better.

With the chores, I think maybe you're expecting from your parents, yeah. Your parents have to work hard for their money I assume, so it should be expected you do too. Otherwise, it'll be a major shock when you're independent and earning for yourself. Same with the job, it's the same in real life.. earning a pay check and giving most of it away for bills and expenses, you better start getting used to it. Put a few dollars away a week and you can save up, then when you can buy something - you will appreciate it a lot, lot more.

My advice is talk to your girlfriend about the pill, it'll keep your dad happy and it's doing no harm. Give your dad a break with the money hoarding, there's nothing wrong with that. Do what you're told to when you ask for money, it's a valuable life lesson you'll appreciate one day. Get a weekend job, it'll keep you busy and believe me that's what you need when you're suffering with depression, something that'll keep you occupied and give you a purpose, save up what you can and contribute to your parents efforts.

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