Should I sue them?

[Pleasanter]

I'm not too sure if I put it in the correct section but I'd like to tell you what happened last night. Most of you know, I'm a teenager and all. Anyway, I'm living with the foster family because my parents got divorce and couldn't handle with 4 kids at the stage so my dad decided to send me to other family for the best option. I've been living with them nearly 3 years already and we've had many results of ups and downs but that is normal for everybody.

Last night, I was laying down on the couch and watching the television. We were fine perfectly. Anyway, I usually take my leftover dinner from last night to the next day for school lunch. I took the box of Spaghetti to school, at the night time, suddenly; my foster father went through my bag for no reason then he found that I didn't eat my spaghetti (I wasn't hungry at this time so I didn't eat all of them). He came at me, why didn't you eat spaghetti? It's stink! I told him, okay? He opened the box and threw at me then he kept telling me to smell it, I smell it fine and nothing smell wrongly. His behavior was extremely inappropriate, his action was like trying to physically abuse at me and he's pretty aggressive.. I understand that, I told him to control yourself not being like a dog then he choked me up, then hit on my head. I was like oh man, you will be in a big trouble for being insult.

I got up and walking to the kitchen and told foster mum what happened, then my foster father was like 'I do not fucking care' then I was like ok? He took his shirt off, took a big knife and trying to suicide himself for being insult cause I told him, I'll report this to the lawyer or the police for being physically abused.

I'm not too sure what to do but should I talk to my real family about what happened? Or should I walk to the police station and file a complaint to police about what happened? Or just leave it alone? I'm not too sure about that. I need some advices to do the right thing and for the best.

Many thanks,

PS. Sorry for the grammars and all.

 

[Jake]

go to the police. if your living in an unstable family like that you're in risk of getting hurt.

 

[asdasd123]

What the fuck lol, walk out of that home asap and go to the police station, never go back unless you have child services going with you to get your stuff

 

[Pleasanter]

What the fuck lol, walk out of that home asap and go to the police station, never go back unless you have child services going with you to get your stuff

I could do that. Look, I have a girlfriend. I haven't told to her that I'm living with foster family - she knows where I lives. I can't be fuck to moving other foster family that takes me ages to get know them and all.

I like here, loving the place and many friends living around here.

 

[Raptor lx]

Do what the above posters suggested. Contacting the police will result in your safety being assured, and they will try to ensure that there is a minimal risk of your foster father self-harming.

 

[Pleasanter]

Do what the above posters suggested. Contacting the police will result in your safety being assured, and they will try to ensure that there is a minimal risk of your foster father self-harming.

It's a great suggested but I need to know what does the police gonna do exact?

 

[asdasd123]

It's a great suggested but I need to know what does the police gonna do exact?

You'll be moved to another foster family, if you really want to give up your safety for a couple friends then you do that.


Personally I would be gone, fuck that if the dad gets out a knife man, LEAVE

 

[Pleasanter]

You'll be moved to another foster family, if you really want to give up your safety for a couple friends then you do that.


Personally I would be gone, fuck that if the dad gets out a knife man, LEAVE

I'll have a talk with my parents about that. I'm probably gonna run away to my mum's or dad's then the police will pick me up then bring me home and they will ask why. I'd explain all of it.

 

I'll have a talk with my parents about that. I'm probably gonna run away to my mum's or dad's then the police will pick me up then bring me home and they will ask why. I'd explain all of it.

No, if you run away then you look like a troublesome child and the police will likely believe them more than you. Just go straight to the police or call who ever is in charge of social services where you're from.
You should not be in a household like that, as it is dangerous for you. You also shouldn't run away as all you will be doing is causing trouble for your parents.

 

[Pleasanter]

No, if you run away then you look like a troublesome child and the police will likely believe them more than you. Just go straight to the police or call who ever is in charge of social services where you're from.
You should not be in a household like that, as it is dangerous for you. You also shouldn't run away as all you will be doing is causing trouble for your parents.

To be honest, I'm completely lost track. I don't know what is the best. I'm scared to go to the police station as I don't feel right and all.

 

[kmjt]

Personally I would be gone, fuck that if the dad gets out a knife man, LEAVE

From what I understood the father didn't take out the knife to harm him, he was attempting suicide on himself?


Either way, if he beat you, report him to the police. Especially if he isn't your real family.

 

[Pleasanter]

From what I understood the father didn't take out the knife to harm him, he was attempting suicide on himself?


Either way, if he beat you, report him to the police. Especially if he isn't your real family.

That's right, Kmjt.

Look, I'm pretty concerned that my girlfriend probably dump me because of haven't telling to her that I'm living with foster family. What if I moved to other foster family with a different name? She will like what? Why are you keeping secret for a long time. Is there anyone can help with this situation like how to tell her that I'm living with foster family without makes her to think that my family is pretty complicated and not sure how to explain as well. If anyone wants more details, just PM me.

 

[gabisc]

You can sue the organisation that is providing you with a foster family. You definitely have a strong case, and because you have been abused as a result of the actions of the organisation you can get a lot in damages. Also, please report this to the police to ensure that your current foster father doesn't repeat this again.

I just asked my Dad, who's a lawyer, and he said that it would be advisable to contact a lawyer

 

[Pleasanter]

You can sue the organisation that is providing you with a foster family. You definitely have a strong case, and because you have been abused as a result of the actions of the organisation you can get a lot in damages. Also, please report this to the police to ensure that your current foster father doesn't repeat this again.

I just asked my Dad, who's a lawyer, and he said that it would be advisable to contact a lawyer

I've already told my school. The school says, if it happen again, they will report it to the Community Service immediately once I told them if it happen again. I'm pretty sure it'd the same thing to the police as well as I do not have any evidence of being abused last night. How could the police believe? That is the major issue.

 

[SyntheticX]

I'd be reporting this ASAP. I would not stand for that kinda of behaviour from anyone. If your GF dumps you just because you live with a foster family then.. Well, she isn't worth it imo. Your partner is supposed to love you for who you are and help you through troubling situations.

 

[Pleasanter]

I'd be reporting this ASAP. I would not stand for that kinda of behaviour from anyone. If your GF dumps you just because you live with a foster family then.. Well, she isn't worth it imo. Your partner is supposed to love you for who you are and help you through troubling situations.

Just did. Just reported it to the Community Service. I feel so bad that I lied to her because I told her that I have a step-father instead of foster father and mum instead of foster mother. I was just about to tell my girlfriend about what happened. If she dumps me, then you're definitely right.

 

[Sun]

I saw that you just told someone about the situation, which was the right move. As for your girlfriend and friends, you're probably close to moving on to a bigger life soon, anyway, and most friends don't stay in tact. If I were your girlfriend, I would understand entirely why you lied. It's not something that you want to admit or bluntly tell someone, even if you're significant others.

Best of luck.

 

I've been moved families a couple times for different reasons. It's really easy when you let your social worker know, and there's no risk that your current foster family will be mad at you for telling and be worse because they'll remove you from the situation first. It could just be a one-off, bad day and just happened at exactly the wrong time, so I'd let it lie for now.. but if he even threatens anything insulting or upsetting I'd let your social worker take it from there before it becomes a whole deeper issue.

 

[Integrate]

You'll be moved to another foster family, if you really want to give up your safety for a couple friends then you do that.


Personally I would be gone, fuck that if the dad gets out a knife man, LEAVE

Huh, this could be an option.

However the most mature thing you could do in that situation would be facing your foster dad, because he is an human too and humans can have a bad day. I believe that if the situation was exactly as the described he will eventually forgive you and everything might not be the same as it used to be but things will be allright.

 

If it were me, I would've left out telling the school and straight up call Child Services.
They will actually have someone sent and assess your current foster family and depending on the condition the family is in, they WILL provide you with another foster family if they deem your safety is not secure in the household.

Also it would be wise to contact your biological parents and letting them know too.