Pardon, I am not a very good speaker and this may come out as confusing. (For the most part why I have not participated in many controversial threads.)
I agree with most of what you're saying. There are two things that have really bothered me during my time here at Sythe: The lack of motivation or desire to change and many promotions/ the staff roster. (And username changes but that's a personal annoyance and I won't get into it.)
First of all, EVERYTHING is set in stone and there is little room for ideas or innovation. This was touched on by Dialatic with the "Do Not Suggest" list but it goes farther than that. It's getting to the point where the Suggestions sub-forum may as well be removed because it is absolutely useless. A suggestion that gets TON of support has as much of a chance of getting recognized as one that is immediately locked. Maybe the occasional "change the name of this sticky" but in all honesty what has really changed over the past year? In order for anything to get implemented it has to be a large staff initiative because no one listens to anyone if they are not staff. (For example Mohtasa's fantastic suggestion of a chatbox which would have been locked immediately if it weren't made by my lovely Tony. Even though it's been months and nothing has happened [and I'm guessing won't happen in accordance to the way things generally go here], the suggestion would not currently exist if made by a newcomer.) Now I feel that this is an issue for two reasons: First that the staff are WAY too hasty to lock anything that doesn't feel right and that even the greatest suggestions that would potentially further or jumpstart the site (I commemorate x339 on his persistence and ideas although terribly executed.) are either strongly opposed for trivial reasons or forgotten about because the administrators who have the power to actually implement them.. are never here.
This shows up in the way that staff treat the users under them as well. There seems to be this diluted mindset going on here. It's either that or people just don't care. x339, Alma Mater, Laptop65, etc. etc. You know the kinds of people I'm speaking of (not to generalize you all into one group.) These are cases of people who legitimately care about the site but in the snap of a finger would be shunned from the community for good if certain staff had their way. But I think they are the best kind of members we have or have had. There is definitely a feeling of superiority among many staff members that causes these issues. "Hey, I'll just close this thread because it's from a user who is being annoying, has no ranks, and will be forgotten about tomorrow; or I'm simply done arguing with him/her." Or worse, the notion that we'll be better off without this individual. We as a community need ever member we can get. Have you seen the Spam Forum lately? The market is going to dust. The Runescape and OT sections are great but lack the activity that is needed to keep them successful because no body is willing to do anything about it.
So there's that. And then there are the staff. I don't mean to undermine anyone I've worked with for the past 5 months as a staff member but I honestly do not understand why some people even accept some of the promotions they are given and stay on staff to begin with if they don't use the site. This isn't a paying position, so what is the point of just barely passing by when you don't post anywhere else? It makes the staff look weaker and it's an absolute waste of time.
This site consists of members, both staff and non-staff that really care about the site. I by no means am saying that most of the staff are incompetent. I honestly love you and I love this site but it hurts me to see the site going in the direction it is in. It's stale and that is going to be key to its downfall.