Is this normal?

[Unregistered]

Hey guys. Not a lurker, just a bit embarrassed so I don't want to use my real account.

Is it normal to be almost 20 and to have never had a girlfriend? When I think reflect upon myself, I've got mostly good traits. I'm athletic, fit, I can talk to girls just fine, I'm not terrible looking and have close to/over 20 good friends.

I'm not too sure what my problem is. I have the courage to ask girls out since I've gone out with 3 (first two only on the first date, didn't really like em that much) then the third one I reeeeally liked a lot but got friendzoned after ~the 6th date. The problem there was that she wouldn't initiate jack shit and I was too nervous to try anything past holding hands. It was one-sided. Anyway still hung-up on her after a year but trying my best to get over her which is why I'd like to start asking more girls out.

A big problem I think I have is that I always think that girls don't like me, that I get friendzoned by each and every one I meet. Even if I think there's a slight chance they like me, I always seem to think that I'm not good enough, or that the same thing that happened with that third girl will happen again. I'm not experienced enough in the field of dating to try anything like kissing or whatever, cause I just don't know when to do it or when is the right time.

Sorry that that sort of turned into a rant...If anyone has some advice, criticism, or just reassuring words that'd be great, I don't feel so awesome right now.

 

[TheGoon]

LURKER!!!!!!! THAT'S WHY GIRLS DON'T LIKEY YOU!


jk <3


OP, I had my first girlfriend at 18. I JUST turned 20 this month. There isn't anything wrong with your situation.. You have the drive to approach women and talk to them, just go that little extra inch of making a move

I never had game personally and was always a tad over weight, so by your discription, if i could do it, so can you. I bagged a really good chick with no regrets. just gotta pick the right one!

Remember; If you're in a relationship, you'll want to be single... If you're single, you'll want a relationship. If you're in a relationship, you will see single people having fun. If you're single, you'll see couples having fun..

That won't change; i never got to experience a single "playboy" life really, so if you wanna do that, i would do that now.. because the more we wait brotha the harder it'll get. (inb4 omfg when you turn 21 you go to bars and get fucked up-> that is, if you live in the US and the drinking age isn't 18- where you live )


have a good one

 

[Loyal 2 da game]

Looks like you got friendzoned 'cause you weren't doing anything and she was getting bored of waiting for you to finally initiate romance. Remember, girls expect you to make the first move. If you're having issues with making it happen, a little alcohol could help you gain more confidence to make a move. It'll make everything way less awkward, and a lot more fun, given you and her aren't shit wasted.

Frankly 20 without a girlfriend is a good thing. Means you probably spent way more time focusing on school instead on pointless junior high relationships.

 

[Unregistered]

Looks like you got friendzoned 'cause you weren't doing anything and she was getting bored of waiting for you to finally initiate romance. Remember, girls expect you to make the first move. If you're having issues with making it happen, a little alcohol could help you gain more confidence to make a move. It'll make everything way less awkward, and a lot more fun, given you and her aren't shit wasted.

Frankly 20 without a girlfriend is a good thing. Means you probably spent way more time focusing on school instead on pointless junior high relationships.

Haha she doesn't drink. I suppose whenever I go out with the next chick I like a lot I'll go with a "nut up or shut up" policy and just go for it. I'm afraid that I'd move too quickly though which might chase the girl away. Kiss on the first date? Second? No idea.

 

[Imagine]

I personally haven't had a girlfriend either. I'm 16 though , and my reasons are different than yours (Boiled down, it's because I don't want one/haven't been looking for one). However, I don't think it's weird. You've gone on dates, you just haven't found someone who you 'clicked' with.

 

[Annex]

It doesn't really matter TBH, Normal is just a perception. The only downside of you not having a girlfriend until you are 20 is that you will be quite behind in terms of knowing what to do when dating someone and girls might think you are retarded for a bit.

 

[Unregistered]

It doesn't really matter TBH, Normal is just a perception. The only downside of you not having a girlfriend until you are 20 is that you will be quite behind in terms of knowing what to do when dating someone and girls might think you are retarded for a bit.

Oh well that's not very good Got any tips on how I can learn while I go out with a girl? I don't want to go through 6-10 potentially perfect women before I finally know when to kiss them for the first time haha

 

[Arcus Isidar]

Not a huge deal, you could try a dating site which might alleviate some of the nervousness. Met a couple decent girls that way, one of which I'm currently dating.

 

[mynameisjoe]

You're fine... your whole situation seems to be in order. You can comfortably talk to girls, and have had some dates.

HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF. What you do is up to you- if you really want to move past a friendship, show it. And whenever you feel down or anything- look at yourself: "fit, athletic, and plenty of friends" Single isn't a bad thing, I'm sure you know that, and you seem to be doing very well as a single person.

 

[Annex]

Oh well that's not very good Got any tips on how I can learn while I go out with a girl? I don't want to go through 6-10 potentially perfect women before I finally know when to kiss them for the first time haha

First kiss should be during or after the first date. Kiss them early and get used to it. As far as your expectation of "perfect women" yeah its pretty unrealistic, but generally instinct should prevail ask them to be your girlfriend after 1-3 dates depending on how well they respond to you. Once you enter a longer term relationship it really depends on the person.