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Well, to start everything off, I'd like to thank everyone who reads this, and offers advice to me, I really need it.
I've been friends with this girl for about a year, we've had a "Thing" before, It ended when I started dating my ex-girlfriend last fall, and when she dated her ex-boyfriend, we didn't talk much then from ~ November - April. We really are best friends, we can talk about anything, and everything. Lately, I've been starting to redevelop feelings for her... She set me up with her friend, but we haven't talked that much the past month and a half, and her friend didn't talk to me as much after speaking for about a month, and seemed to lose interest, so my 'Crush' on her faded away. Note, Her friend stopped flirting with me and whatnot, then I think she started.
Now, I think she has been flirting with me, I'm not sure if she likes me or it's just friendly flirting, Before when I liked her friend, she would never want to Skype anytime I asked, but the past 3-4 days all she's wanted to do is Skype, I've been getting anonymous questions on a website such as ; "Do you think she's pretty?", "Post your favorite picture of her", "Is she as hot in person?", etc. I'm thinking it could be her, trying to find things out without asking me, and seeing my reaction on Skype, She was getting the same type of questions about me, or she could just be looking for a males attention, I'm unsure of that though... Got a bit sidetracked there, oops... The flirting part, she tells me she loves me, calls me babe, sends kiss faces, but then she says I'm friend zoned... She doesn't know I've been developing feelings again, but then on Skype Saturday, she brought up that I didn't kiss her on a ride at the carnival in the Summer, saying she would have, etc. It confused me cause she said I'm friend zoned? Also.. Last night I had a dream I was with her, and my ex-girlfriend, my ex is the one girl I known I've loved too, anyways.. me and my friend were sitting on one couch and my ex was on the other with a few of my friends and randoms, and I was sitting there kissing my friend, does that mean anything at all? It kinda makes me think that maybe this could be what I need to fully get over the ex as well, which I am for the most part.. Need some advice here.
Ultimately I'd like to date her, eventually, we have an excellent friendship, I see a few problems though, I need to figure out how to get around, the first being she will bring up the "It could ruin our friendship and I don't wanna lose you as a friend" which would only happen if neither of us could come to grips with a breakup if the opportunity of dating presents itself, I know I could still be friends with her, we're both fairly mature.. Second problem, I'm going to Ontario, Canada, for a few months, but she also knows that and says we're going to Skype all the time and whatnot, which I'll talk about more, but yeah... Third is she could just shut me down simple, I mean, overall she seems like the girl I really want to date, and spend my time with, I'm not good at expressing that though, how should I go about expressing how I feel? I'm really no good with words if you aren't able to tell!
So, the part about me going away for a bit, I currently live in the Atlantic region of Canada, and I'm moving to Ontario for a few months. Reason being, I have Post traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, I'm bipolar, suffering from depression, I was diagnosed with all this at a childrens hospital when I was 15, I am now 18. The benefits of leaving outweigh what I'm leaving behind for a bit, for example I'm going to be staying with my cousin, and his girlfriend, stable household (He's 35-40) So an older cousin, lol, he also has PTSD like me, the same thing happened to both of us. Some other advantages are attending male support groups, being away from a place I've lived from my whole life, a city with a population of 15,000, to a city with a population of 500,000... Wow. The only thing bothering me about this is leaving behind my friends and family, but I'll have more time to work on myself and work on a more stable and better lifestyle, I've yet to tell one of my good buddies, I'm one of his only friends, so I don't want him to be mad at me, what can I do to make any of this easier?
Sorry for it being a bit scattered, I tried my best, it's also 4 am.
Once again, I'd like to thank anyone who read this and offered their advice and taking time to post, much love, and anyone in/around Hamilton, Ontario, What's it like? That's something I've been wondering, hopefully someone has an answer and advice!
I've been friends with this girl for about a year, we've had a "Thing" before, It ended when I started dating my ex-girlfriend last fall, and when she dated her ex-boyfriend, we didn't talk much then from ~ November - April. We really are best friends, we can talk about anything, and everything. Lately, I've been starting to redevelop feelings for her... She set me up with her friend, but we haven't talked that much the past month and a half, and her friend didn't talk to me as much after speaking for about a month, and seemed to lose interest, so my 'Crush' on her faded away. Note, Her friend stopped flirting with me and whatnot, then I think she started.
Now, I think she has been flirting with me, I'm not sure if she likes me or it's just friendly flirting, Before when I liked her friend, she would never want to Skype anytime I asked, but the past 3-4 days all she's wanted to do is Skype, I've been getting anonymous questions on a website such as ; "Do you think she's pretty?", "Post your favorite picture of her", "Is she as hot in person?", etc. I'm thinking it could be her, trying to find things out without asking me, and seeing my reaction on Skype, She was getting the same type of questions about me, or she could just be looking for a males attention, I'm unsure of that though... Got a bit sidetracked there, oops... The flirting part, she tells me she loves me, calls me babe, sends kiss faces, but then she says I'm friend zoned... She doesn't know I've been developing feelings again, but then on Skype Saturday, she brought up that I didn't kiss her on a ride at the carnival in the Summer, saying she would have, etc. It confused me cause she said I'm friend zoned? Also.. Last night I had a dream I was with her, and my ex-girlfriend, my ex is the one girl I known I've loved too, anyways.. me and my friend were sitting on one couch and my ex was on the other with a few of my friends and randoms, and I was sitting there kissing my friend, does that mean anything at all? It kinda makes me think that maybe this could be what I need to fully get over the ex as well, which I am for the most part.. Need some advice here.
Ultimately I'd like to date her, eventually, we have an excellent friendship, I see a few problems though, I need to figure out how to get around, the first being she will bring up the "It could ruin our friendship and I don't wanna lose you as a friend" which would only happen if neither of us could come to grips with a breakup if the opportunity of dating presents itself, I know I could still be friends with her, we're both fairly mature.. Second problem, I'm going to Ontario, Canada, for a few months, but she also knows that and says we're going to Skype all the time and whatnot, which I'll talk about more, but yeah... Third is she could just shut me down simple, I mean, overall she seems like the girl I really want to date, and spend my time with, I'm not good at expressing that though, how should I go about expressing how I feel? I'm really no good with words if you aren't able to tell!
So, the part about me going away for a bit, I currently live in the Atlantic region of Canada, and I'm moving to Ontario for a few months. Reason being, I have Post traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, I'm bipolar, suffering from depression, I was diagnosed with all this at a childrens hospital when I was 15, I am now 18. The benefits of leaving outweigh what I'm leaving behind for a bit, for example I'm going to be staying with my cousin, and his girlfriend, stable household (He's 35-40) So an older cousin, lol, he also has PTSD like me, the same thing happened to both of us. Some other advantages are attending male support groups, being away from a place I've lived from my whole life, a city with a population of 15,000, to a city with a population of 500,000... Wow. The only thing bothering me about this is leaving behind my friends and family, but I'll have more time to work on myself and work on a more stable and better lifestyle, I've yet to tell one of my good buddies, I'm one of his only friends, so I don't want him to be mad at me, what can I do to make any of this easier?
Sorry for it being a bit scattered, I tried my best, it's also 4 am.
Once again, I'd like to thank anyone who read this and offered their advice and taking time to post, much love, and anyone in/around Hamilton, Ontario, What's it like? That's something I've been wondering, hopefully someone has an answer and advice!
