Uhm, date..

[1LastChance]

This advice isn't much better.


You want at least something with a collar, long selves tend to be good too. (Don't wear a tie.) You want long pants and a belt. Take a hat in case it's sunny. Don't wear sunglasses, rings, watch or other adornments.

Brush your hair, brush and floss your teeth, shave, shower well, and get a good night's sleep beforehand. Use both Cologne and anti-perspirant (separately applied, no cheap stuff.)

For a picnic wear comfortable walking shoes, but polish them up first or buy a clean pair for going out so they don't look scruffy.

For your food don't buy anything too cheap. The main meal can be almost anything generically likable, but make sure you have a dessert course, and a bottle of nice wine (red is the norm, but you could go white also) if you're not driving home. (If you are driving home, pick a fancy non-alcoholic drink, imported mineral water for example.)

Also consider your blanket and basket, and it might be a good idea to have a look around the picnic site beforehand to spot the ants and shade etc.

Finally, if its raining on the day you need a backup plan, so think about some alternative indoor date ideas beforehand.

Sythe teh Ladies man, Liek Omg.

 

[ZzDiety]

This advice isn't much better.


You want at least something with a collar, long selves tend to be good too. (Don't wear a tie.) You want long pants and a belt. Take a hat in case it's sunny. Don't wear sunglasses, rings, watch or other adornments.

Brush your hair, brush and floss your teeth, shave, shower well, and get a good night's sleep beforehand. Use both Cologne and anti-perspirant (separately applied, no cheap stuff.)

For a picnic wear comfortable walking shoes, but polish them up first or buy a clean pair for going out so they don't look scruffy.

For your food don't buy anything too cheap. The main meal can be almost anything generically likable, but make sure you have a dessert course, and a bottle of nice wine (red is the norm, but you could go white also) if you're not driving home. (If you are driving home, pick a fancy non-alcoholic drink, imported mineral water for example.)

Also consider your blanket and basket, and it might be a good idea to have a look around the picnic site beforehand to spot the ants and shade etc.

Finally, if its raining on the day you need a backup plan, so think about some alternative indoor date ideas beforehand.

Don't take any advice from anyone from this thread except Sythe he knows what he is talking about.

O_O.

 

[PennyRoyal]

Just wear whatever you'd usually wear. Don't dress up in a suit for a picnic! As for food, just take sandwiches, chips, cake etc. nothing too fancy, just snacks.

You could, go utter nuts do like an 19th century pinic like in britian shows some class/ crazy skills.

> but as stated dress normally, get some yummmy! food and just relax ment to be fun gl with dating scene.

 

[Deacon Frost]

Just wear whatever you'd usually wear. Don't dress up in a suit for a picnic! As for food, just take sandwiches, chips, cake etc. nothing too fancy, just snacks.

When I go out in public, I'm usually fancied up as much as possible. I don't wear suits, but if I had a good one, I probably would.

Verts is right about dress. Don't wear anything special - for something as unassuming and casual as a picnic, she might find it weird if you try too hard. As for what to bring, it partly depends where you go; you'd bring different things to a beach than you would, say, a park. It also depends whether she's a vegetarian or not; if you're not sure, it's worth asking, since a lot of women are (or will pretend to be on a first date ).

Finally, I personally think sandwiches might be a bit boring (and lol at you making any goddamn sammiches anyway), but just do what you're comfortable with.

Yeah, I do try to hard at times, so that's a good point. I asked her what she thought I should make, and she said she'd let me worry about that, but I also know she likes Italian so I'll probably make a few dishes.

I actually laughed at the thought of a guy bringing a suit to a picnic...lol, that needs to happen in a will ferrel flick.

But yeah deacon, just don't be too nervous and don't try too hard. Just wear some casual outgoing clothes and be yourself around her. It'll be natural for you to be a little nervous, but don't dwell on it too much because if you're anything like me it'll make it 100x worse.

Good luck, and I think you'll do fine.

Fortunately, I'm not nervous, never am. But I do try very hard because of how socially awkward I am. Conversation doesn't come natural to me, lol.

Girls love it if a guy can cook or bake. Maybe you can make a mean lasaña. Ask her and find out if she likes any food that you can make well

That's why I learned. Lol.

You know, it really coulden't hurt to ask her what types of food she likes haha

If it's really a big deal you could ask to do something else that is more... Uhh... Straightforward instead? Tell her you're DEATHLY afraid of grass, and there's just no possibility of you being able to go somewhere for a picnic.

I know what she likes, now. I found out a little bit after I posted this. Now it's narrowing it down because Italian food is rather broad. You have pasta on one end, and breaded products on the other.

These girls are so wrong.

Suit that shit up, tbh. I think, black pants, white shirt, black jacket, black tie, black top hat and some leather shoes, then roll up to her house with a rose. That's how you do it.

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I would rather look like the one on the left rather than the one on the right. Casual dress is ok as long as it's not disgusting as shown above, though.

I'll give u advice from a serial dater note I've never actually had a Girlfreind.


This gonna be ur first step, so you gotta make the first date count picnic isn't very 21'st century but w/e.

Wear something normal get a hair cut you obviously have facial hair get rid of that aswell. MOST important rule is don't lie that's if you wan't the relationship to last

Relationships ain't for me why waste time when you gonna have feeling for another girl in the near future?

I'm not 21st century. I'm very old school when it comes to dating, and even find it customary to open doors for girls, so a picnic suits my personality to a 't'. Plus, from what I've read, girls don't like contemporary, they prefer something that makes them feel unique.

Laughed at this, but this is probably the best advice so far.

Bring your swag
Compliment her plenty.
Keep the conversation hot, switch it up don't let it die and get quiet.
Keep the conversation more about her, make her feel important.
Keep it fun and flirty.
Be the natural you and be a little stupid at times.

Like kmjt said, you're gonna need some danm confidence. Without that this dates gonna go down the sh*ts, but maybe she could be different.

As for the suit, that's funny.. What most people wear signifies their unique style and dignifies who they are. Suit wouldn't even be appropriate for a picnic. I know for sure my friends would beat me if i brought up that idea for a picnic.

ex: White undershirt/ Black polo / khaki shorts / white nikes.
ex2: White nice cotton shirt that fits you good(assuming yoursomewhatbuilt) camo shorts, white nikes.

Not the greatest but i got my own closet with my sh*t, so i know mine. You have to know yours, what you should wear should come easy.

Plenty of good advice that I'll take to heart.

This advice isn't much better.


You want at least something with a collar, long selves tend to be good too. (Don't wear a tie.) You want long pants and a belt. Take a hat in case it's sunny. Don't wear sunglasses, rings, watch or other adornments.

Brush your hair, brush and floss your teeth, shave, shower well, and get a good night's sleep beforehand. Use both Cologne and anti-perspirant (separately applied, no cheap stuff.)

For a picnic wear comfortable walking shoes, but polish them up first or buy a clean pair for going out so they don't look scruffy.

For your food don't buy anything too cheap. The main meal can be almost anything generically likable, but make sure you have a dessert course, and a bottle of nice wine (red is the norm, but you could go white also) if you're not driving home. (If you are driving home, pick a fancy non-alcoholic drink, imported mineral water for example.)

Also consider your blanket and basket, and it might be a good idea to have a look around the picnic site beforehand to spot the ants and shade etc.

Finally, if its raining on the day you need a backup plan, so think about some alternative indoor date ideas beforehand.

Very detailed, Sythe. I'm naturally a very hygienic person, so most of that comes naturally. The outfit suggestion, sounds like I'll have to do a bit of shopping.

I do have a good back up plan if that does happen. Since we're doing the picnic at night (because she likes the night more than the day), if it happens to rain that day it'll be even more in my favor as there's a spot in town where we can sit without getting wet and eat. However, it's not a very large spot, so it promotes a little more closeness .

How does Ginger ale sound? Can't do alcohol, unfortunately, unless we stay in.

The no amenities advice is good, I hadn't thought of that. I usually always wear a hat and sunglasses, but I guess that removes from the first impression.

 

[1234567ASDF]

I think a hat and sunglasses wouldn't go well as a first impression at night. It'd be killer if you did Hat + sunglasses + suit though. I'd love you forever, LOL.

Anyways, ginger ale should be fine. I know you're probably not 21 though and you must live in the US so bringing wine isn't the best thing to do outdoors.


Well good luck and tell us how it went

 

I do have a good back up plan if that does happen. Since we're doing the picnic at night (because she likes the night more than the day), if it happens to rain that day it'll be even more in my favor as there's a spot in town where we can sit without getting wet and eat. However, it's not a very large spot, so it promotes a little more closeness .

You should avoid touching / physical intimacy on a first date (and in fact for the first couple of weeks if possible, while still getting to know your partner as a person.) Human pair-bonding is very very strong and very old in the genetic pattern; It tends to override all of your other instincts right at the base of the brain, including your capacity to reason objectively about the other person.

Ever wonder why people who hate each-other get married and have kids? This is why.

The no amenities advice is good, I hadn't thought of that. I usually always wear a hat and sunglasses, but I guess that removes from the first impression.

Sunglasses tend to impress upon others that you have something to hide. Adornments such as rings and chains (other than those kept for clearly sentimental reasons) impress on others that you have low self esteem. Tattoos and piercings impress on others that you were abused as a child, or are used to being abused.

How does Ginger ale sound? Can't do alcohol, unfortunately, unless we stay in.

Would be acceptable, but is pretty commonplace. I wouldn't go for it.

 

[Deacon Frost]

You should avoid touching / physical intimacy on a first date (and in fact for the first couple of weeks if possible, while still getting to know your partner as a person.) Human pair-bonding is very very strong and very old in the genetic pattern; It tends to override all of your other instincts right at the base of the brain, including your capacity to reason objectively about the other person.

Ever wonder why people who hate each-other get married and have kids? This is why.

Makes sense. I'm not saying I'd touch her, but I feel sitting closer to a person promotes familiarity. At a typical picnic bench you sit across from your date, where I'm talking, you'd sit next to, which is what I meant by more intimate.

Sunglasses tend to impress upon others that you have something to hide. Adornments such as rings and chains (other than those kept for clearly sentimental reasons) impress on others that you have low self esteem. Tattoos and piercings impress on others that you were abused as a child, or are used to being abused.

Agreed, but I do have piercings. I'm not gangster with them, however, as I barely wear noticeable studs (work places approve of them if that says anything). But where I do have piercings it draws attention to my important physical features, sort of a "look at me right here" kind of thing, which tends to help draw from other bad physical features.

Sun glasses, I do wear, but I take them off frequently, especially when I talk to people. Same with my hat that I almost always wear.

Would be acceptable, but is pretty commonplace. I wouldn't go for it.

True, maybe I'll just get a good water or something. Or a sparkling grape juice that's enjoyable but also says 'sophistication'.

We had a sort of somewhat last minute first date today. We went to the movies with a friend each. She brought a male friend, I brought a chick, so we got to actually meet in person and see if we were at least attracted to one another.

It went well, except her male friend groped her a bit much for my liking, haha. Oh well. But yeah, so now I have a bit better understanding what to do on the picnic.

 

[Try and run]

When I go out in public, I'm usually fancied up as much as possible. I don't wear suits, but if I had a good one, I probably would.



Yeah, I do try to hard at times, so that's a good point. I asked her what she thought I should make, and she said she'd let me worry about that, but I also know she likes Italian so I'll probably make a few dishes.



Fortunately, I'm not nervous, never am. But I do try very hard because of how socially awkward I am. Conversation doesn't come natural to me, lol.



That's why I learned. Lol.



I know what she likes, now. I found out a little bit after I posted this. Now it's narrowing it down because Italian food is rather broad. You have pasta on one end, and breaded products on the other.



I would rather look like the one on the left rather than the one on the right. Casual dress is ok as long as it's not disgusting as shown above, though.



I'm not 21st century. I'm very old school when it comes to dating, and even find it customary to open doors for girls, so a picnic suits my personality to a 't'. Plus, from what I've read, girls don't like contemporary, they prefer something that makes them feel unique.



Plenty of good advice that I'll take to heart.



Very detailed, Sythe. I'm naturally a very hygienic person, so most of that comes naturally. The outfit suggestion, sounds like I'll have to do a bit of shopping.

I do have a good back up plan if that does happen. Since we're doing the picnic at night (because she likes the night more than the day), if it happens to rain that day it'll be even more in my favor as there's a spot in town where we can sit without getting wet and eat. However, it's not a very large spot, so it promotes a little more closeness .

How does Ginger ale sound? Can't do alcohol, unfortunately, unless we stay in.

The no amenities advice is good, I hadn't thought of that. I usually always wear a hat and sunglasses, but I guess that removes from the first impression.

You sound like a pretty classy guy.

 

[bad_moose]

I would wear a casual shirt with sleeves (You can roll them up if you like), or at least something with a collar (Try Topman, they are pretty good for that) and whatever else you like. Make sure you are clean and that you have showered, shaved and done whatever else you need to do to make yourself look/smell nice.

As for food, try and work out what kind of foods she likes. You could make some sandwiches with nice fillings (Roast Beef and Horseradish, Roast Pork and Apple Sauce, Garlic Pate with Red Onion and Tomato etc.) or maybe make some wraps of some kind? Try and go for the things you know she likes. Bring a cake of some kind too, maybe a Victoria Sponge or Chocolate Cake, as well as some crisps (Go for some of the more expensive ones that are better quality). For drinks, you could buy some grape juice, or something else that's a little unusual. Just look around your local supermarket, you should find something nice. I have no idea how old you are, but it is legal where you live a bottle of nice wine could be good.

Bring a decent blanket to sit on, and take the food and drink in a hamper/basket. You could consider bringing a small Patio Umbrella to sit under, if there is no shade where you are planning to have the picnic (Visit the area first, just so you have a rough idea of where it is good to sit).

Just try and enjoy yourself and try and get her to enjoy herself. Be polite, and drop in the odd compliment here and there (Don't do it too often, it will be obvious that you are trying to get on her good side).

And as Finn said, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A BACK UP PLAN. WHAT HAPPENS IF IT RAINS, OR SOMETHING ELSE HAPPENS THAT PREVENTS YOU HAVING THE PICNIC?!

I hope I have helped

 

[roddyisawesome]

It really depends on the situation. If you're going for a more casual attire, I'd just say a white tee and a pair of nice jeans... But if you really want to make an impression on this girl, I would wear I nice light blue oxford, or maybe a nice solid color polo.

And as for the food... girls don't care much about food. It's all about the man.

And good luck

 

[Det0x]

Hmmm i have an idea, maby get some fish and chips ? and sit on a blanket/grass what ever make sure its sunny, bring maby a ball? or even better if u have a cute dog, but make sure she likes dogs, also just wear some nice shorts and decent tshirt... ermm, if weather turns crap, take her to movies insted? or w.e i mean do what u want dont try to be anything else your not