So lost on what to do

[Ruthless and swaly]

So theres a chick i meet like 3 months ago and we started to hang out and talk a lot. We started hooking up and then she wanted me to be her boyfriend and i didnt really want her as my girl just cause i still wanted to party. I ditched her one night and called her drunk as hell and then she stopped talking to me. We still hung out every now and then just because her best friend is dating my best friend but it was just awkard because she was pissed at me but i kept saying sorry..Last night after not talking to her for a good week she texted me saying this "Im sorry...for everything. the way i treated you was excatly what you didnt need. i gave up on you. thats why your scared, because people like me. i proved i was no better. you deserve better." I was pretty shocked to see this just because i hadnt heard from her in a while.
i respond back simply saying "i dont want better i want you" whyd you give up? She then says "action speak louder then words"

i texted her back again saying " i know they do.. im just scared because i cant stand getting hurt again and i cant trust anyone..

She hasnt texted back today and ive texted her another time after that because i got her flowers to try and apologize.

Basically im just asking did she only send those texts to try and get rid of me, another guy etc. or does it sound like she wants to be with me and what should i do?

 

[UmbrellaCorperation]

I don't know man seems like she got over you but maybe shes playing hard to get but in my cases it's usually that she just got over you but you can never tell with a woman they are all different.

 

[Zerkerfist]

I'm a little bit confused here... especially when she said "actions speak louder than words" right after you asked her why she gave up. Does she mean that by giving up, she was hoping you would interpretate her 'action' of giving up as a sign that she just doesn't want to be with you, and therefore avoiding a big awkward conversation? Or was she talking about actions on your part?

I read it over a number of times and still don't fully grasp it :huh: If she DID NOT mean it in the context that I just suggested above, then I would assume that during your time apart from one another that she has obviously been thinking about you and she still has feelings for you and wants a relationship with you just as bad as she did before.

If she DID mean it in the context that I described above, then I guess it could just be her way of smoothing things over with you, but also telling you that her actions of abandoning you or "giving up" was her way of letting you know she is no longer interested in you.

This is confusing as hell to be honest, but I think that she probably meant good things by those texts and she still likes you. But who knows... the fact that she hasn't texted you back for awhile could be a bad sign too. I would try actually calling her or meeting up face to face so that you can have a full conversation instead of getting snippets of info through texts, and try to figure out just what the heck is going on here.

 

[Ruthless and swaly]

Yea man im confused as fuck too. Ill give her a call pretty soon and try figuring it out..haha i just have no idea

 

[Ruthless and swaly]

any more responses?

 

Kiss her.
She's saying actions speak louder than words because she wants you to do something.

 

[EisHERE]

i agree with shoop. Do something show her you want her. like SHE SAID actions speak louder than words! she doesn't want to hear "sorry" she wants to see it! let me know how it goes. Forget the words, let them actions speak brotha. anyone can talk but the actions make it.