So I met this girl...

[Cabbage]

We met through friends. She doesn't live in my state, but we've skyped each other for about 2+ hours every night for the last 2 weeks or so. I found out tonight she likes me, and I like her too. She's practically a copy of me, she finds all my perverted humor funny, and she even makes crude jokes too. She also understands and gets my nerdy references. (Total win) I'm just confused if I really should date a girl over the internet. I mean, I know she's real, but I'm not sure how to make it all work and all that. I'm also slightly afraid of the response I'll get from friends and family. On one hand, I know I have to do what makes ME happy... but this is my first relationship I've ever had. Can someone give me some advice or help here?

Much appreciated.​

 

[Saint Grimm]

Me and my wife lived about 40 miles apart for over a year of our relationship. I honestly dunno if it would have worked out so well if we NEVER got to see each ohter, but if your capable of seeing each other atleast once a month or more, then I think it should be able to workout.

 

[Joay1]

How old are you?

 

[Cabbage]

How old are you?

Err- 15. I seem young, I know. I would prefer if you wouldn't say something stereotypical and say things like "you're too young" or "there will be more fish in the sea".

 

[Promethium91]

Cabbage, I fully respect your situation as I've been in it before.

When I was 16 years old I met a girl online. I lived in Texas. She lived in Massachusetts. We got along perfectly, she was gorgeous, etc. We skyped at least 6 hours a night for about a month. After talking to each other for about 3 months all day every day we decided to make it "official" and be in a long distance relationship.

Over the course of our relationship(lasted about 2 months, I'll cover that later) we attempted to visit each other. Unfortunately the expenses would have been at least $700-1200. I was extremely happy with her and we were really compatible, as it seems you and your new friend are.

Previous to this I had a one year long relationship in which I experienced things I never thought I would in high school(including losing my virginity), and around 7 months after my long distance relationship ended I entered another relationship that lasted around 4 months. Neither one was comparable to the long distance relationship I had.

We broke up because the distance really got to her. She couldn't deal with not ever being able to see me, or hug me, or sit next to me, or kiss me, etc. And so it ended, but of all the relationships I've ever had, I was the happiest in that one. Staying up til 2-3 AM with her and falling asleep with her on Skype wasn't a chore like it'd be with some other girl.

I'm not going to tell you that you should enter a relationship with this girl, because it's more than likely that you will never see her, but at the same time I hope that you can draw from my experiences.

It doesn't matter what anyone else to say as long as you're happy. Her friends just referred to me as 'texas boy' and mine referred to her as 'internet guy from Massachusetts'.

If you have any more questions about it, feel free to ask, but otherwise I feel that's the general jist of it. If I could sum up all of what I'm trying to say here, I'd simply say, "No regrets."

 

[I Bleed Duke Blue]

Rarely works man, but if you think you're ready, go for it. I was in a similar situation as you my senior year of High School. It never materialized into anything though, as her feelings for me weren't as strongly reciprocated. It ended up just disintegrating, but it was a fun experience. Go for it.

 

[MZ132613]

how far away from her are you? and would either of you get to see each other?

cause my girlfriend lives about 1 1/2 hours away from me, she has her license so we meet each other half way and we get to see each other about once every other week so it works out pretty well.

everybody says long distance never works out but honestly don't listen to that rubbish, no one really knows for sure and it can't be proven, as long as both of you are loyal i think it's worth a shot.

good luck man i think it's grand

 

[Cabbage]

how far away from her are you? and would either of you get to see each other?

cause my girlfriend lives about 1 1/2 hours away from me, she has her license so we meet each other half way and we get to see each other about once every other week so it works out pretty well.

everybody says long distance never works out but honestly don't listen to that rubbish, no one really knows for sure and it can't be proven, as long as both of you are loyal i think it's worth a shot.

good luck man i think it's grand

We are about 6 hours away from each other. I think we would be able to see each other during the summer though. At least I hope so..

 

[Finally07]

Can you reach her by yourself? (train f.e.) If not can your parents give you a ride every month or so? Considering it's a 6 hour ride you probably should offer to do a favor in return, work a few hours around the house or something like that.

 

Distance makes the heart grow fonder

I'd go for it, I lived in a different country to my girlfriend for a while and we managed Just make the effort to go there when you can, maybe spend a weekend there every so often or have her come to yours.

 

[Tape Worm]

it wont work

 

[Pockets]

I'm sorry to say, but it's extremely unlikely that this will work out and if you stick with it, you may not find that out until you've wasted a lot of time any money.

There are so many girls out there. You're super young and have tons of time to find someone right for you. Don't worry about it, don't get tied up in something like this, and live your life.

 

[szskateman22]

I guess this is about two days old, but better late than never.

Let's start... I can say that I kind of had a similar experience with what you're going through. Although I was a little closer to my girlfriend (not to mention I actually originally met her at a summer camp), it was very frustrating. Let's see... This was back when I was 14? Somewhere around there.

I pretty much dated a girl for a year over the internet, while she was only half an hour away or so. We didn't have the fancy Skype/Webcam/iPhones (Face-cam) chatting then - at least not at an efficient level. Very intelligent girl - always reading and studying and something clicked that she was really good for me. However, we never really met each other except for in a game (she didn't have AIM and MSN was... still as unsecured as it is now >_<) so we had to meet in Gaia. That was pretty much all we did - until we could coordinate meeting each other.

The problem is that whenever we coordinated to meet - even though we were half an hour away, something always came between us meeting. The first time, my dad went to accelerate on to the highway and something in his engine blew (an air-intake valve or something)... we ended up not meeting that day. The next time we actually met, we went ice skating and as soon as she got on to the ice she got sick... She wound up going home 15 minutes into our "date". >_< SO frustrating at that age to not go on dates.

Eventually, it turned out that I found a girl in the high school that was essentially her equivalent. Closer by, so I could see her pretty much all the time - not to mention the physical aspect of actually holding someone felt so much better. Fast forward 4 years.

Another girl I met on the internet (her in Canada, me in US). I told my parents about this one and they seemed shaky on it, but sort of supported it. We "dated" for a couple of months but the fact that I missed physical contact with a girl drove me nuts. This girl I had skyped with all the time - and I do mean all the time and it made me happy with the mental aspect... but you miss out on a lot when you can't hold the girl in your arms.

In my opinion if you want to go for it, then go for it. You will find the comfort in knowing that you have a girlfriend... but you're still very young. You MIGHT realize at a certain point that you want someone else. You might not. Being away from each other for a little while is fine (a year)... but after a while it starts to become stressful - at least it was for me.

 

[SatanInside]

It's always worth a try. It might not work out, but never be afraid to start something new, else you'll never start anything.

Anyways, I'm in a distant relationship as well, we see each other about every month for a week and I'll say that it works, but whenever it goes past 1 month, it becomes really hard, but nonetheless - it's always worth a try.

 

[farkid]

If you really like each other and you dated chances are it wont work and someone is going to end up hurt.