My relationship with my mom

[Schoolboy Q]

I'm 16 years old. Don't call me spoiled or anything because i'm not. But i actually have the worst relationship with my mom i fight with her EVERY DAY and i honestly mean that we yell ateach other everyday and right now she just started crying and had my aunt pick her up, and now my entire fucking family is after me...

Anything i could do? And don't tell me no apologize bullshti because i do but she still makes me angry and does the same shit to annoy me after

 

[yoyocheese]

I'm 16 years old. Don't call me spoiled or anything because i'm not. But i actually have the worst relationship with my mom i fight with her EVERY DAY and i honestly mean that we yell ateach other everyday and right now she just started crying and had my aunt pick her up, and now my entire fucking family is after me...

Anything i could do? And don't tell me no apologize bullshti because i do but she still makes me angry and does the same shit to annoy me after

What do you fight about?

 

[Boxur227]

I'm 16 years old. Don't call me spoiled or anything because i'm not. But i actually have the worst relationship with my mom i fight with her EVERY DAY and i honestly mean that we yell ateach other everyday and right now she just started crying and had my aunt pick her up, and now my entire fucking family is after me...

Anything i could do? And don't tell me no apologize bullshti because i do but she still makes me angry and does the same shit to annoy me after

You're young, i would get into verbal fights with my mom too, (still do at 20). I would tell you that moving out fixes it but from my experience, it doesn't. I, personally, have a terrible relationship with my mother mainly because she's a dumb cunt. I have four sisters and we all moved out at an early age because we couldn't stand her.

 

[Ziggily]

My best advice is to approach her without attitude and discuss what is going on in a calm tone. Being female, I can tell you that if you approach a situation with a girl (your mom in this case) with attitude, we are likely to return the favor ten fold.

If you two cannot be calm, maybe get another family member to mediate. I would call her and tell her that you are truly sorry about arguing with her and that you would like to discuss ways to improve your relationship. I know this first hand since I had to do this with my mom until I left the house at 18.

I wish you the best and I hope you patch things up with your Mom. She will always be your #1 lady in your life and I would hate to think that something petty like arguing would break that relationship.

 

[Nidalee]

I'm 16 myself I'm going to give you some advice and help here are the first few points you need to learn and have.

-Good attitude
-Respect for your mother
-Learn how to approach her

Any yes you need to learn to do these things your 16 years old not some child anymore. Anyways your mum might feel so bad and as you stated ''she just started crying'' you don't know how your mum feels her own son shouting at her but okay their might be a few arguments here and their but everyday man come on dude you have to be that person supporting your mother getting and doing all the things she asked for you to do its also meant to be a happy relationship. But I don't say am perfect I also fight with my mother but like maybe once a month maybe and not even. So dude man you need to have a happy relationship with your mother and how about if somethings happened and your mother's alone who's going to support and do all the things she needs? And also even if your getting angry because she did something that you didn't like you can always sort it out by sitting down and talking to her and going through things instead of shouting and getting angry at her 24/7 dude come on she doesn't need to put up with these things she carried you for 9 months and this how you treat her everyday you must change after you read this. Goodluck, and make the best out the time you have right now than later when you will regret it.

Have some time to think about it man.

 

[ASAPgang]

Why even bother fighting with your mother? Immature and disrespectful to say the least. I don't know what you's fight over, I don't really care for it. At the end of the day, nothing is more important in this world than your own mother, the lady that bought you into this world, the lady who cared and raised you as a child all the way through to late teens, you will realise one day that your mother is a saint, no matter what you think about her or fight about.

There are many in this people who are going to fuck you over, and guess who'll be there for you when you're upset? your mother.

 

[Boxur227]

Why even bother fighting with your mother? Immature and disrespectful to say the least. I don't know what you's fight over, I don't really care for it. At the end of the day, nothing is more important in this world than your own mother, the lady that bought you into this world, the lady who cared and raised you as a child all the way through to late teens, you will realise one day that your mother is a saint, no matter what you think about her or fight about.

There are many in this people who are going to fuck you over, and guess who'll be there for you when you're upset? your mother.

Bit ambitious given you don't know the entire relationship with his mother. She could be a cunt and his siblings or father could have raised him.

My mother neglected the shit out of all of us (which is why we all left early). She hasn't helped us with anything over the years, we all put each other through school and set a foundation for one another.. All of our accomplishments came from the support of a brother and sister(s). My sisters are all very wealthy, the only contact they make with our mother is when she hits them up for money. She's not a junkie, she's just a terrible mother and was/will never be fit for the position.

If he is in a similar position the only option i see is toughing it out until he's done with school.

Once you bounce, you're done. If you choose to never converse with her again that's your choice. Don't get all worked up about the situation, you're 16, you'll be out soon.

 

[wuhh510]

My trick? Just tell them what they want to hear, be like ok, yeah, your right, then get out of the room when you get a chance. It won't exactly fix your relationship with your mother but you guys will not argue anymore

 

[Schoolboy Q]

Don't want to get into detail about this situation too much , Asap your reply was insanely idiotic. You really shouldn't be on personal support section with posts like that. Also ziggily and boxur thanks a lot. I don't want to get in fights it just happens and i feel like shit after but then each day i just get right back to it. Just gonna try remaining calm and chill now when she pisses me off

 

[Weaboo]

I know that sometimes parents can be a real ass, but don't forget that you're her son and she is your mother, and never forget the pain she carried when you were in her womb. And the troubles and the hardships she faced in life for you. So what you're doing now, do you think that's good for her? Just apologize and keep a check on your anger level.

 

[LoLSmurfin]

Honestly, it seems like you're just looking for us to side with you in an argument we know nothing about. The real world is a rough place, and if all your mom is doing is "annoying you," maybe you should take a deep breath and grow some thicker skin. My mom annoyed me, too, and I fought with her, but she's a great woman and I love her to death all the same.

 

[Zeus22]

family therapy classes

 

[Dream Gp]

its just a phase in your age its easy that this happends verry commun and it will stop think she knows it to, you sould try to calm down a but instead of screaming back.

 

[Loner]

She is your mom and honestly I would just do my best not to upset her. You may not like her but you should respect her. She gave birth to you and whether you're aware of it or not there is a bond. Just try to have a higher patience level because most of the time parents try and look out for their kid's.

 

[Unregistered In]

She is your mom and honestly I would just do my best not to upset her. You may not like her but you should respect her. She gave birth to you and whether you're aware of it or not there is a bond. Just try to have a higher patience level because most of the time parents try and look out for their kid's.

Exactly this. I doubt she gets pissed at you for no reasons at all, maybe you stay on the computer too much, or maybe you dont study (or many other reasons) that you should probably try to work on.

Instead of saying like "X comment is insanely stupid" you should be thanking we're trying to give you support, try to be more humble, it could work in your situation.

 

[FiveBots]

Im really not sure, My personal beliefs are that, You only have Mum, The one who was with you from the start. Like above, try talking to her and maybe give her a gift, for a "Sorry". Maybe you have stress on your hand? because of school? maybe someone is picking on you and letting out on her... , Let it calm down, and just wait till both of you are calmed down. explain reason why you get angry and so on. Seems there is someone missing in your life.

 

[ThePrestigedMuzza]

When it comes to parents you have to give them the respect they don't deserve, it's sad but try to see it from their eyes, when you look at someone like 5 years younger then you, yeh you treat them like a person but you always feel they aren't saying anything as valid as yourself, when the age gap is much bigger and the person is is their kid, parents have a tendency of saying things and thinking their word is 'GOD' and you have no opinion. Which is shit, however dude it's not forever, it's kind of like high school your going to have your good and your going to have your bad just ride it out and learn to cope. Best advice i could give you is to wait for shit to cool down and apologize even if you are 100000% in the right, you won't get a better outcome any other way.

 

Maybe give her some space? I used to fight with my mum everyday, all day. Then I left the country. We get on great now! But I know if I was back there, we would still argue. Maybe stay with a friend or other family members for a while? You only get one mother I'm afraid, just have to make the most of it. Keep your distance for a while until she's calmed down.