Internal Family Bullying

[Cabbage]

I'm not particularly sure on how to explain this. Its interesting because I can stand up bullies, for example, at school. But, lately my family has been picking on me for my interests. And its not typical banter. I mean, they bloody say how what I do is a waste of time and how my interests are essentially, s**t. They trash what I like to watch or the comics I read, how I spend weekends, etc. Lately, I've been told basically I will never amount to anything in the span of my life. I'll be honest with you, I'm a bright individual. My GPA and IQ is higher than a lot of people my age, so I don't know why their negativity affects me so much... And the worse part is, since they are family, I can't come out and do the same thing I do with the ignorant people that bully you at school. I don't know how to really deal with this because of course, they are my family. Anyone have any suggestions they can give to me about dealing with this?

 

It gets to you because they are your family and they're the ones you listen to the most by nature. Basically, it is similar to bullying in any other environment. You need to make a stand (don't throw punches or anything though) and bring it to them directly, asking them why they are criticizing you so much and come to a resolution.

 

[Cabbage]

It gets to you because they are your family and they're the ones you listen to the most by nature. Basically, it is similar to bullying in any other environment. You need to make a stand (don't throw punches or anything though) and bring it to them directly, asking them why they are criticizing you so much and come to a resolution.

Yeah, I know. But, I shouldn't have to even do this in the first place, I don't know if this might because I'm not being the person they want me to be.

 

[DMR]

Let them know how you feel and I'm sure they'll stop. They're probably just teasing you and taking it a tad too far without noticing it. Talk it out with them. Best of luck.

 

[RuneScapeJJ]

They are just jealous you will CEO 10k a day in the future.

 

Talk to them and tell them what they're saying is really getting you down. Lack of communication is the cause for most family problems. As long as you know you're headed in the right direction, everyone else will stand corrected when you prove them wrong.

I used to have comments made towards me about the music I listened to and what I looked like etc etc, but things like that happen all through life and you need to just try to accept that as long as you're happy with where you're at, then what anyone else says doesn't matter. Obviously it's tough because they're your family.

tl;dr Talk.

 

[PIAV]

My family thinks my choice is wrong, and believe me, they tell me this a lot. Do what you think is right.

At the same time, when it comes to our families, we must be very patient, as specially our mothers. Show kindness and spend some time with them. Eventually they will accept you hopefully.

 

[Schoolboy Q]

is this your parents or like cousins? I mean family have tough love it might just be that your family prob doesnt mean bad if it rreally offends you come straight tell them the jokes are going to far and to lay off they should stop if they love you

 

[mustard2]

If they tell you you'll never amount too much in life, it's probably because they doubt the choices you make. Your family most likely just wants the best for you.

 

[Integrate]

As many people said you should start off by telling them that you're being affected by their comments. I experience this type of thins sometimes and if I know they're doing something that hurts me then we just sit and talk about it till it gets resolved. They want the best for you so they might be telling you that because in their view of life you shouldnt be doing what you are and thats why they critize

 

[UniversalHacks]

Are they trying to help you out or just degrade you? Because, in all honesty, spending your day online isn't healthy or smart, I know that, but it is important to balance it out with other things (sports and friends for me personally). I guess my advice is to determine if they have a point or not and talk it to heart.

 

[jamesm201]

I'm not particularly sure on how to explain this. Its interesting because I can stand up bullies, for example, at school. But, lately my family has been picking on me for my interests. And its not typical banter. I mean, they bloody say how what I do is a waste of time and how my interests are essentially, s**t. They trash what I like to watch or the comics I read, how I spend weekends, etc. Lately, I've been told basically I will never amount to anything in the span of my life. I'll be honest with you, I'm a bright individual. My GPA and IQ is higher than a lot of people my age, so I don't know why their negativity affects me so much... And the worse part is, since they are family, I can't come out and do the same thing I do with the ignorant people that bully you at school. I don't know how to really deal with this because of course, they are my family. Anyone have any suggestions they can give to me about dealing with this?

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