I feel betrayed..

[Unregistered]

Im a senior in highschool and its my final year. Plently of friends but most of them girls and Im a guy. Theyre great friends, but lately they had been getting on my nerves.

Theyre the so-called eldest sisters of the school, since theyre seniors too. And they are the people who always get themselves into other's problems and issues and try to solve it their way. Dont get me wrong, theyve helped me a few times and I truly appreciate that. However, they lately had been so full of it.

They would get into other's businesses and lend a helping hand. This is fine and all but when someone does not take in their help, and they see this someone crash and burn, they would laugh away and tease the person. They would spam their pages with hate towards the person like, ' we've told you to let him go! you didnt listen! HAHAHAHA ' or smth similar. Its like theyre feeling superior over the person and felt that they're ALWAYS right.

The problem started to escalate a few days ago. Everyone would only speak to me when they needed something or were just in a awkward silence moment with me. None of them would bother to reply to my texts or go out with me. This never happened to me before and lately I kept feeling used by them which was terrible when its by your own close friends. They said they would always be there for me when I needed them and they just pushed me away, giving me excuses, avoiding me. I feel so neglected by them..

I tried telling them.. but we were not on the same page. So I ignored all of them, ignored their calls and texts, everything. I wouldnt even look at them while walking down the hall. I felt that I was under-appreciated and felt that I deserve respect. I was waiting for an apology but yesterday, I got a text from one of them.

Shes the only person I could count on. She realized that I had been distant from her and the girls and asked me whats wrong. I replied, ' You would not like the answer if I told you, worth the risk? ' She agreed and I told her how neglected I felt by them. And guess what..? The next thing I knew I was the number 1 hated person in school.

Noone would even talk to me right now and on their social website pages, flooded with curses/references of me, insulting me, for being pathetic and weak. Theyre calling me a pussy/gay etc because I apparently insulted them in some way. I didnt know what I just did?!?!

I texted her again apologizing but she did not even reply. And when I checked her page shes there telling everybody about it and everyones laughing at how stupid I am. Practically now everyone in school knows about me and even the juniors are picking on me.

Ive been through alot of shit in life and friends are the only things that would make me happy but I just feel.. betrayed. It hurts most when its by those who you care about.

.......What the hell jst happened? Im fucking confused right now. I just need someone to clear things up for me!!!! Please I need a way out of this situation, I dont want to be alone and feel so neglected. What if this occurs again in the future? How do I adapt to this? Help sythe..

 

[3Socks]

If you act introverted around those people, maybe pity can get you out?
If you're looking for a non-pity way out maybe you can try to search for new friends? Obviously this friendship circle won't work out/won't feel the same anymore since now you know you can be betrayed again.
Another solution could be getting someone to vouch for you for being a good person still. I used to be that one person who would always be untrusting of the new person in a friendship circle, but if someone vouched for them or talked about them I would end up liking them.

I don't understand the problem completely, but if you could name the 'she's that would make it a lot easier to see who's the one you told and who's the one who hates.

Good luck though

 

[pinky boy]

This just plain bullying, if i was in your position i would report them. Bullying now illegal, it is just so stupid to bully someone imo. Be strong and try to find a group of people who like you for who you really are, not some jerks who end up using you.

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Would just start fresh, no point in trying to back and fixing problems that you didn't even start. Best of luck friend.

 

They are not/were not your friends.
You'll have to deal with it if you can for now, or report the problem to your teachers. Personally I'd just take it all and fight back, once you humiliate someone they'll stop skitting at you.

I can't believe you text her saying you're sorry, as you most definitely should not be. These people are stupid and not socially developed, unfortunately that's how some people are when you're in school, it all stop when you join the world of work or university.

 

[Unregistered]

thank you everyone. after reading your posts i feel better, really. i somewhat felt that they were never my friends but it was just hard to accept, for we had been close for so long. fortunately, i only have a few days of school left before the holidays and then college. ill start afresh and hope for the best. thank you