I don't know what to do/say.. really embarrassed

[Ireland]

I'm 15 almost 16 and my girlfriend is 16, we've been together for almost 4 years (I know, pretty weird/long time, and i said so in a thread i posted a while back.)

Anyway, I guess we're both just teenagers who think alot about sex, and for the last few months our relationship has developed further into a slightly sexual one.. no, we haven't actually had sex, but you know what i mean. ;/

anyway, last night i was at her house at about 11pm and we were fooling around as usual, we were on her bed kissing and she was in her underwear. Her mom came in the door, and we quickly stopped and she got off me.. i was just shocked, haha.. her mom started shouting at her, she she was basically saying "what?! look ive got clothes on omg" and stuff.. but her mom didnt listen and told her to go to the living room.. then her mom sat down opposite me and basically gave me a lecture. it's pretty surreal, haha.. told me that she doesn't want me and my gf to be doing that kind of stuff, that she needs to respect herself and that if i love her i shouldn't be doing that stuff. She said she trusts both of us, and that shes not stupid and she knows whats going on and that if anything else happens like that, we'll never get to see eachother again..

i do love her, and it's unlike it's me who always fucking starts it?! tbh mostly it's her. anyway, after her mom gave me that little talk i just walked home and called her when i got home.. she said she was so embarrassed that she was so sorry etc and that her mom will probably not let me come over as much and stuff (which i understand i guess.. ;/).. and before this, i just knew her mom liked me, i had the feeling she accepted me as her daughters boyfriend, now idk what to feel. she probably hates me, i understand.

i'm alright with cancelling out the sexual-part or whatever of our relationship if that's what my gf wants/has to do, however long it takes. but for now i just need a bit of advice from you guys on what to do right now. i'm still shocked, and it's the morning after haha.

 

[KLDG]

Honestly though, How many moms are cool with their 16 year old daughter having sex? While your in their house, respect their rules. Fair game outside the house

 

[Pack Yak]

Yeah, you need to respect their rules.

Why would you make out in her bed with the door unlocked anyway. :huh:

 

[.eNaCiRRuH]

When I was 16 I wasn't even allowed in their room ............

All you can do is respect the rules over there, maybe avoid her room to be honest. Watch T.V. on the couch, watch movies on the couch, do something outside of the house, etc.

 

[thatguy1234]

a similar situation happened to me a while back. what i suggest is just being respectful and not doing the least bit sexual things around her mom. even if her daughter is freaky dont risk trying to fool around at her house or when her mom is near. its really hard to stop when youre in the mood somethimes, but id just chill out around her mom to show another side of you that she may not see. if all goes wrong just make her mom laugh that helps a ton

 

[Zerkerfist]

Just so you don't feel so bad - this situation is alot more common than you think among young teenagers!

My ex-girlfriend and I dated for 3 years and I was her first boyfriend EVER. Her parents also happened to both be highly religious and to not really believe in sex before marriage (neither did my gf when I had first met her). Also, her dad really didn't like the idea of us sleeping in the same bed together.

Needless to say, within a few months I was regularly banging his daughter and sleeping in her bed and there was nothing he could do about it. But we had that awkward talk with her parents a couple times and in order to respect their wishes, we were very careful about doing anything that they would frown upon while they were home, or atleast while they were awake.

In your situation, I would talk with your girlfriend and figure out how she feels about this. Obviously you guys are teenagers and sex is a natural thing that is going to happen sooner or later, whether her mom disapproves of it or not. Maybe you guys could try relocating to your place when you want to experiment and fool around? Or maybe you guys can slowly earn her moms trust by not doing those sorts of things around her or when she is home, spend more time hanging out in the family room etc.

It takes time, but the longer you guys are together, the more likely it is that her mom will loosen up a bit. Every parents gives in eventually and just realizes that kids these days are going to have sex no matter what, and that the proper thing to do is educate them about the risks rather than try to stop it completely. Don't worry about it too much man, its really not a big deal. Just talk about it with your girlfriend and figure out how you guys are going to approach it. Just remember - having the trust and respect of your gf's parents is HUGE!

 

[r3dm0nk3y]

Honestly , this has happened to me . It has happened with her mom AND her dad for me . . Just try and keep things down a bit . If anything , every parent (especially the father) are this way . They just don't want anything bad to happen , such as pregnancy , or anything bad that can happen from having sex . Another thing is most parents just think that the way guys are is that they just want to have sex . I'm not saying every guy is that way but a majority of them are . Just try to show her mom that you want more out of this relationship other than just sex . Try to talk to her mom , become somewhat of a friend to her . Nothing matters more than the relationship with the parents . . Feeling uneasy and nervous around anyone's parents will eventually cause you to be frustrated , then you'll feel like you can't handle feeling that way and everything goes in downward spiral . Just fix the relationship with her parents then everything with her will be good from there . Hope I helped !

 

[No Rage Quiting]

Honestly though, How many moms are cool with their 16 year old daughter having sex? While your in their house, respect their rules. Fair game outside the house

my gf's mom is...
/OT

Just go over and if she tries to start sexual things just be like "maybe later at my house or something"

 

[Snatchmasta]

Hmmm. From personal experience with a similar situation, your girl probably feels like shit. Her mom has undoubtedly bitched her out, and made her feel like a skank. Just chill for awhile, keep it at second until the situation calms down. Let your GF re-initiate intimacy.

 

[ClazzD]

she could always come over to your house