Girl problems *sigh*

[Wontonz]

So there's this girl I asked to prom about 2 months ago, we have simply been friends for a while now and since we were both single at the time I thought whatever why not just go as friends?

She said yes, and prom is in about 2 months or so.

Anyways, she has this guy that she really likes that lives in another town. She's thinking of asking him out, but they've only gone on like 2 "dates" with friends. (meaning they just go to the movies with a group of people)

Now, I'm not jealous or anything, and I don't want to date her, but I heard from one of her friends today that:

Basically she's planning on asking him out, and if he says yes she's just going to ditch me and go with him to prom (obviously she was going to tell me beforehand, she's not just going to go with him and not tell me)

And if he says no, well she'll just go with me...

Does anyone else think this is kind of an asshole move or is it just me?

Not sure what to do from here either...I might just ditch her and go with this other chick that I've been hanging out with a lot lately.

advice would be appreciated

 

[Rahman]

Well, in all seriousness. Confront her about this. Like, if she's going to ditch you for another guy ask her if its real or not cause you dont wanna go alone etc etc.

Wait for what she says then according to the response go to the other chick that you've been hanging out with recently.

But in the end, what girl do you think you could get together with in the future maybe? Because if the second girl is decent and your into her why not go with her in hope that you could be more than friends.

 

[rstrader1471]

I would also confront her. I would say it's rude if you ditch me just because you hooked up with someone else. If i was in your shoes, i would ask the other girl out if she's more "loyal" then the bird you asked to the prom in the first place.

 

If she says anything to you then go with the other girl, plain and simple.

 

[Zerkerfist]

I would say that she is definitely sleeving you buddy... DICK MOVE for sure. The fact that you guys are just friends and you are not romantically interested in her sort of creates a grey area where her ditching you to go with a guy she really likes would be OK, but even if you don't LIKE the girl, that is still not a very nice thing to do to somebody as it leaves you with no date, and feeling like your only "second best".

If I were you, I would suggest start working on finding a new date or a backup plan, and preferably somebody that you actually really want to go with. Why not take a shot in the dark and ask out that really cute girl who sits in the row across from you in 4th period? Or that pretty girl who you bump into in the hall once in awhile who smiles at you? I think that would be much more enjoyable, you would feel like a total bawss if you got a girl you are interested in to say yes, and you also create some security for yourself, and a reassurance that you will not be ditched last second and end up being the guy with no date at prom.

There IS another option as well, which I thought I might as well mention. You could always confront your friend about this and tell her that you heard through the grapevine that she might blow you off if this guy expressed interest in going to prom with her. Tell her the truth, that you find this rude and that it kind of hurts you/pisses you off, and then who know, maybe she will actually acknowledge that you are right, and that its NOT fair to you to do that. Sometimes things like this only need a little bit of communication to smooth things over and to find a solution to the problem.

Either way dude, good luck!

 

[MyKo0L]

Have you told her how you feel? If shes unaware of this then how does she know it would bother you, if I told a 'friend' that I wanted to go to the prom with my girlfriend, they wouldn't be upset because they're only a friend. If she doesn't know that you're into her then in all fairness shes doing nothing wrong, but I would attempt to talk to her about it, but in the right way, worst comes to worst you can be friends with her. And if she does end up going with him, then you've allways got that other girl to go with!

 

[Annex]

Confront her about it and whatever you do, don't pretend you don't know about it as it will let people know you are a pushover.

 

[Mechgineer]

As mentioned, talk to her. I do not want to say confront just because it seems very unfriendly. Since you asked her as a friend, she must have assumed that if the opportunity arose for her to go with a guy she likes beyond friendship that you would support her. Prom is one of the biggest nights for high school couples after all.

How about this. Talk to her and find your way to the topic of prom. Then ask her if she wants to go with the guy she likes. It may have been a "dick move" on her part but, from what I read, you heard it from one of her friends so I wouldn't approach her 100% confident in your information.

Since she's your friend you should both support her and let her know when she's crossing the line, but do it calmly. And who knows, maybe what you've been hearing has been incorrect all along.

 

[billybobdead]

im gonna have to say...find a back up plan. a girl you know will go with you no matter what. even if its a friend, just go as friends. but you deffinitly dont wanna get turned down a week before prom. just get a back up plan. always gotta stay on the safe side. also, confront the girl about it. keep your pimp hand strong if you have to(not really) but let her know that if shes gonna just up and leave you like that theres probbly somethin wrong.

 

[I_DONT_BOT]

I'm confused by rules.

In america, do they have to be in same school & year to go to prom? If so, then you should expect stuff like that, if anyone can go, that's just dumb, and planning 4 months in advance expects changes.

 

[Golf]

I have to be honest with you, getting help doesnt get you anywhere, Solve your problems by using your heart and brain.

 

[N01s PeRfecT]

You should definitely ask her about this and what her plans are. If this is true, then I would certaintly say that she's a bitch. If she admits to you that she's planning to dump you as a prom date for some other guy she's barely met than I would recommend finding someone else. When I graduated, I knew a couple that got together in the middle of our senior year and they ended up going to prom with other people. They didn't break up or anything, they just promised others at the beginning of the year that they'd go with them and that was that.

That's just my experience and opinion- hope it helps.