GF trouble

[infested123]

Its not really much trouble just something that bothers me and im sure after a few responses ill either be really pissed or cool with the whole thing
SO BE HONEST
Ok, were sophmores in highschool...
we'v been going out for 3 months now and i find out that shes going to these parties and doesnt tell me till like day of, prob bc she doesnt want me to come, but all people do here is grind.. and she openly says she grinds with people but "its just dancing"
that pissed me off for a while cause its not really dancing its sex with clothes...
now i find out she wants to go to a beach party, and the little flier thing says "its time to get our grind on" so you know thats ALL there gonna be doing..
she doesnt think its wrong to be grinding on other guys and now, with guys without shirts on, and while shes wearing a bikini, like i said sex with even less clothes now
what should i do?

 

[eennee]

Let her go... some girls need the attention? If you give her more attention maybe she wouldn't do those kind of things. I know someone who does the exact same thing... its just how she is. If you can't live with how she acts then you just have to let her go. My opinion would be to just accept her.

 

[infested123]

Let her go... some girls need the attention? If you give her more attention maybe she wouldn't do those kind of things. I know someone who does the exact same thing... its just how she is. If you can't live with how she acts then you just have to let her go. My opinion would be to just accept her.

Sorry you confused me there, by accept her do you mean let her go or to just be cool with it

 

[Deathawaitss]

What I read he said if you want her you got to accept her grinding on other dudes.


imho, FUCK THAT LITTLE HOE. I'd dump her in a second.

No offense.

 

[eennee]

you gotta choose. If you truly "love" her then you gotta accept who she is. Let her know how you feel but don't take it too far. As long as she treats you differently then how she treats other guys... you know what I mean. Then its alright.

 

[Novi novak]

I'd trust her and not stress about it, if you find out she's trying to hook up with another guy end it. Trust is key.

 

[Deathawaitss]

Any guy I know that is okay with his girl grinding up on other dudes are the ones that are only with the girls so they don't have to around looking for some on the weekend.

 

[Novi novak]

I'd trust her and not stress about it, if you find out she's trying to hook up with another guy end it. Trust is key.

 

[infested123]

a while i been fine with it, its just bothering
i mean i myself would feel like i was cheatin on her if i did that, its so sexual its not funny

 

[Deathawaitss]

You're either very committed infested or just looking for some.


If I even saw my gf texting someone saying they were gonna grind I'd dump her, unless we were really close and have been dating for a while then I'd beat the shit out of the guy and tell her never to text him again and never grind on anyone else again or we'd be done.

 

[infested123]

Im committed...
which is why its so confusing,
shes like the nicest person ever, shes all about marriage b4 sex, she goes to church every sun and wed and enjoys it

Yet she'll dry hump someone...

 

[Deathawaitss]

Well I don't know what to tell you man.


Either accept it and then that's that.


Or talk to her about and let her know you're not messing around and if she says its not a big deal don't worry about say Good Bye.

About the two choices you have.

Or keep your emotions bottled and go on a killing spree, but I wouldn't consider this as a real option myself !

 

[Novi novak]

Well to alot of girls (Most of them) its just dancing...and well....fun. I know its not fun to hear that she's going to parties and grinding with other guys, But If you really like her i would stay in the relationship if its just simple "dancing", As i said again if you find out other stuff happened (Sex, making out) etc, theres the clue to end it.

Hope i helped.

 

[infested123]

well yeh of course they find it fun.... who wouldnt find it fun? I wouldnt mind going up to someone and grinding them if i didnt have respect for my Gf or care, but i do, so do you think she even cares/respects me?

 

[Novi novak]

She cares (to an extent) if you two are in a relationship, unless she's using you somehow...Which in turn would be good for you to end it, But i wouldnt think negatively,

If you feel strongly enough for her and want to make sure she doesnt get hurt/hurt you i would suggest on getting a friend to go to that same party and maybe see if she's interested in another guy, but then again that is sort of an extreme (Not essentially if you're in love with her)

Hope all goes well!

 

[infested123]

Alright well thanks.. my friend was gonna go anyways, i was acutally thinking bout going myself and if shes dancing with other guys ill just dance with girls, but then tahts just gonna cause competition and conflict...
Damn!
things suck

 

[tamachan]

Its not really much trouble just something that bothers me and im sure after a few responses ill either be really pissed or cool with the whole thing
SO BE HONEST
Ok, were sophmores in highschool...
we'v been going out for 3 months now and i find out that shes going to these parties and doesnt tell me till like day of, prob bc she doesnt want me to come, but all people do here is grind.. and she openly says she grinds with people but "its just dancing"
that pissed me off for a while cause its not really dancing its sex with clothes...
now i find out she wants to go to a beach party, and the little flier thing says "its time to get our grind on" so you know thats ALL there gonna be doing..
she doesnt think its wrong to be grinding on other guys and now, with guys without shirts on, and while shes wearing a bikini, like i said sex with even less clothes now
what should i do?

Omfg that's horrible to be honest.

You should let her go, Honest opinion. No matter how much you love her or whatever, Do the right thing and dump her. That's straight up disrespectful the way she hides it from you, especially if it's something like "Grinding".

It seems mad suspicious that she didn't tell you about this earlier,
"Ohh she doesn't want you to come", Bullshit.

Don't let her play you out bro, fuck that.

 

[Novi novak]

Alright well thanks.. my friend was gonna go anyways, i was acutally thinking bout going myself and if shes dancing with other guys ill just dance with girls, but then tahts just gonna cause competition and conflict...
Damn!
things suck

Yeah, don't do that..jealousy will kill things,

Why dont you two go together?

 

[infested123]

Omfg that's horrible to be honest.

You should let her go, Honest opinion. No matter how much you love her or whatever, Do the right thing and dump her. That's straight up disrespectful the way she hides it from you, especially if it's something like "Grinding".

It seems mad suspicious that she didn't tell you about this earlier,
"Ohh she doesn't want you to come", Bullshit.

Don't let her play you out bro, fuck that.

that makes sense,
Also
MORE TO THE STORY
she was gonna go to this party, i was invited to.... i ended up going.. and she changed her mind and didnt go...

 

[infested123]

and novak, look at the post above... i tried once.. and she changed her mind..