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Girl Trouble (Shocking, right?)

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Danlan

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Alright, so Ive been dating this girl for a few weeks now. Prior to me asking her out I knew she thought I was really hot because her friend had been telling me what she said. Well something just isnt right about her. In most circumstances she wont say a word no matter how much I try to get her to talk. Most of the time she doesnt even move. Shes like a statue. Always in defensive posture. The only time Ive seen her act like a normal girl was when I was driving her home yesterday.

I want to be able to communicate better with her but its really damn hard, help? Also do you have any ideas what the problem might be?
 
Try being comfortable. Ask her if there is anything wrong. Is she like this around EVERYONE? Just you? Or what?
 
what makes you think there is such a thing as one normal girl.

there are many different personality types.

go to wikipedia and look up schizoid personality or avoidant personality

if you need a girl that is really extroverted than this girl is not for your.

try not to think so simplistically.

what your doing reminds me of this scenario:

guy wants some fruit.
guy gets a whole barrel of blueberries.
guy gets confused that the blueberries dont taste like other fruits.
guy gets on a forum and asks people how to get his blueberries to taste like other fruits
 
She might be nervous around you and she doesn't know how to act. And like Aroxez said, does she act this way around everyone?
 
She may be anxious around you. Try to talk to her and tell her the situation just say "Hey I'd like to make this more comfortable for the both of us by _____". Ask her what's going through her mind when she's around you
 
You seem pretty smart and able to read body language. The best thing I can recommended since I don't know the situation.(even though you sorta don't either.) Be very patient. If she begins to take defensive posture or position, do not pressure her or ask her what is wrong.

She has not told you anything and chances are you may make it worse by seeming like a nag (No offense). Just do whatever you can to make her comfortable. Take her to mall and window shop if she like that, go to the movies, or do anything you know she enjoys.

She will naturally become more comfortable with you and she will already be slightly more comfortable in the situation, because she is doing something she enjoys and knows well.

She may just open up to you, and her comfort level with you will grow, so maybe if something is wrong she may tell you in the future, when she is more comfortable.
 
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