Everything is PISSING ME OFF!!

[HamzaAbbasi]

Firstly I'm Asian (strict ass parents), I'm 14 and I want to enjoy life not spend 10 hours a day doing work then 2 or so hours of me time...it pisses me off that when I need help no one helps me and my dad don't listen to me, I'm meant to be an A* student aiming for top marks but I HATE maths so much that I just can't do it and no one cares as they have such high expectations and want me too exceed in everything even though I hate it!
When I ask for a helping hand they say no when I want to do something I like they say NO but they can boss me the fyck around all they want!
It just pisses me off so much that everything is fycking up and I was just beginning to enjoy life and doing what I like...gaming and sports, I want to do fighting like professional fighting and join a Muay Thai, brazillian jiu jitsu or boxing club but they won't let me!

I try so hard to avoid fights in school because I know I'll get in trouble yet I know I'll win, it pisses me off that even in school I try hard and at home I try hard but they don't see that and when I try to explain they change the subject knowing I'm right and decide I don't have a say by shouting at me.

It's driven me to madness...to the point I thoughtof suicide just to piss them off even though I'd never do it as it's against my religion, I thought of beating the shot out of assholes in school sometimes even just going mental and loosing it on people but I have self control so I don't get too overwhelmed.
WTF DO I DO?!?!!?! don't ask too talk to them they're Asian they won't listen.

 

[Elnosiaht]

Hey man, I'm also Asian and used to be in the same exact situation you're in. You have to try to talk to your parents first of all and make them understand that what they're doing is detrimental to your mental health. The fact that you're so depressed and considered suicide is a serious issue even if you know you'd never do that.

Some questions I have is why are you nearly getting into fights at school? Are you being bullied or do you just have a short temper?

If it's the first reason, you should talk to an adult. I know it sounds stupid but you should. Ask me a few years ago and I'd say beat their ass but at a young age, the last thing you want to be known as to adults is the trouble maker. It just doesn't benefit you.

If it's the second, you should try to find an outlet for your anger. I used to play football to relieve the stress of life. It helps a lot.

That leads me to my last pieces of advice. If you want to do things such as sports and martial arts but your parents don't want you to, you should use that as a deal point. You should work on your schoolwork (even the math that you hate) and in return, your parents should let you participate in sports. That way you hold both yourself and your parents accountable. If you want something, you have to give something back and the same applies to them.

Last thing is don't join any martial arts with the mindset that you'll use what you learn to fight people. That's setting you up for bad things to come. Martial arts are meant for self-defense in the event that you have no other option than to physically defend yourself.

Hope that helped a little bit. Feel free to keep posting if you have any other questions.

 

[Excisioncf]

Just do shit to piss them off eventually they'll give up.

 

[Elnosiaht]

Just do shit to piss them off eventually they'll give up.

That's horrible advice. The only thing that results from that is they get even more strict and overbearing which in turn makes OP that much more stressed out. You obviously don't understand strict Asian parents.

 

[Mr Smith]

No, do NOT aggravate your parents.

Firstly, you're obviously wound up and you're suffering from some stress, so, I suggest you listen to some music, any kind of music will do, just something good and peaceful. Strictly, NO heavy metal bands because that won't make you calm.
Secondly, watch something on Youtube which entertains you. Watch Syndicate or Kevin. Just someone on Youtube that could make you laugh, that'll cheer you up.

Now, the parents. They're obviously strict because they want you to go far and do very well and they want you to be successful. The only thing I can suggest is that you sit down and talk to them about everything. Don't scream at them, just be calm, and talk. Make sure you tell them gently, make them both aware and if they try to alter your opinion, tell them, NO. You must stand firm.

 

[Zerkerfist]

I know that in many Asian cultures, disrespecting or going against your parent's wishes is extremely taboo, and not something you should do.

The best solution in my opinion, would be to sit down and actually talk with your parents. Explain to them how you are feeling, that their expectations are way too high, and that you want to actually spend some of your time daily doing things that mean something to YOU, rather than just doing things that make them happy. Maybe you can make a deal with them... if you keep your grades up to a certain point, they can allow you to join a martial arts group as an extracurricular activity, or join a sports team at school.

And no matter how pissed off you are, DO NOT start fights with kids at school just because you think you're a big tough guy and you will win. That just makes you look like a raging jackass, and will only get your in major trouble with your parents and with the school.

 

[†Pain â€Â]

Dont do anything that can harm anyone or your self...try going for a run/walk maybe talk to someone and try to get away from home for a while...

 

[HamzaAbbasi]

Nice advice, I don't start fights, I keep away from them.
I wouldn't use martial arts to start them it's just that I enjoy the actual thrill of it and I enjoy fighting yet I avoid it because I know the consequences.
I have a short temper which runs in the family but I keep it in.
I already do a lot of sports and fitness and I have to say thanks to all but one (you can guess who) I really like the idea of making a deal with them and I will try it for sure.
Thanks all, was just really getting on my nerves.