Did I do something wrong? Im so confused.

The Ract · Feb 11, 2014

In regards to : http://www.sythe.org/personal-support/1677735-girl-i-met-over-weekend-2.html

ast weekend this girl in one of my classes asked me to come down and party with her, so I did. We ended up going back to her room and having sex. I was in her bed until like 6 am, and we woke up and did it again, then her roommate came back and I left. The next day I came back to get my clothes, and we cuddled, watched a movie, and had sex... again. The next day I saw her in our hall lobby and we stayed there until 5:15 AM talking, flirting, and hooking up until a janitor came and we left. the next day... you guessed it.. we had sex again. Tuesday she asked me to hang out with her and her friends so we only kissed good-bye, but here's where it gets weird.

Wednesday, thursday, and friday we saw each other because we're in the same group and were doing work. She didn't acknowledge anything we did and wasn't flirty at all. I asked her her plans over the weekend like "What are you doing friday?" she'd say "busy". 'What are you doing Saturday" "busy". and so on.

Saturday night I was out with some friends and we went to grab food (we were all drunk af) and I saw her there. Her friend saw me when I walked in, whispered something in her ear, and then the girl didn't even look up and say anything. Then at like 4 AM she finally responded to a text about what she was doing Sunday, and she said she was busy.

Now, today, I was studying in the lobby and she walks in and walks right by me, not saying a word.

Like, I'm confused. I don't know what happened. Last weekend and stuff we were fine, then randomly starting Wednesday she just dropped me off.

What should I do?

Text her and ask her what's up? Wait to talk to her in person? Talk to a friend? (I'm friends with one of her best friends' boyfriends)

tl;dr = Had a fun weekend, hooked up multiple times, she also knew I liked her more than just a hookup buddy and still was hooking up with me after that.

Later in the week she started ignoring me completely and I have no clue why.

BGlave · Feb 11, 2014

A few possibilities:

She moved on
She is no longer interested
Something happened that is affecting her
She may actually be busy

Give her time and space. Let her contact you and if she doesn't, you can assume she has moved on.

The Ract · Feb 11, 2014

BGlave said:
A few possibilities:

She moved on
She is no longer interested
Something happened that is affecting her
She may actually be busy

Give her time and space. Let her contact you and if she doesn't, you can assume she has moved on.

If she moved on / was no longer interested, wouldn't there be a reason? It just seems weird that one day you're hooking up and the very next you drop them off without saying a thing.

She seems fine otherwise whenever I see her. And it's not the busy part that gets to me, because I know she's in a sorority and is actually busy. It's the fact that she ignores me completely..

BGlave · Feb 11, 2014

The Ract said:
If she moved on / was no longer interested, wouldn't there be a reason? It just seems weird that one day you're hooking up and the very next you drop them off without saying a thing.

She seems fine otherwise whenever I see her. And it's not the busy part that gets to me, because I know she's in a sorority and is actually busy. It's the fact that she ignores me completely..

There is a reason for everything. Why she is ignoring you? I do not know. The way you described her makes her sound like a whore. The girl is definitely not worth the time you give her if she acts the way she does. I'd suggest moving on yourself.

The Ract · Feb 11, 2014

BGlave said:
There is a reason for everything. Why she is ignoring you? I do not know. The way you described her makes her sound like a whore. The girl is definitely not worth the time you give her if she acts the way she does. I'd suggest moving on yourself.

I mean, that's true enough. Although she's said the only other guy she's been with is her ex-bf of 3 years (I believe her because she didn't really have any experience). I don't know. I guess I just wanted someone for valentine's day lol and she was only the second girl or so i've made that kind of connection with here on campus.

BGlave · Feb 11, 2014

The Ract said:
I mean, that's true enough. Although she's said the only other guy she's been with is her ex-bf of 3 years (I believe her because she didn't really have any experience). I don't know. I guess I just wanted someone for valentine's day lol and she was only the second girl or so i've made that kind of connection with here on campus.

I hear ya man. The next time you see her, talk to her and ask why she is ignoring you or if there is something that is bothering her. I do not suggest texting her this because it would be awkward. If she refuses to talk, well there you have it.

The Ract · Feb 11, 2014

BGlave said:
I hear ya man. The next time you see her, talk to her and ask why she is ignoring you or if there is something that is bothering her. I do not suggest texting her this because it would be awkward. If she refuses to talk, well there you have it.

Ah well. True enough. We're meeting Wednesday for our group so maybe I'll get a chance to talk to her after. And worst case is we're done with whatever we had haha. I guess time to look for someone else

IxI Duality IxI · Feb 12, 2014

Damn, what the heck happened? Seems like things were goin' good for you. Yeah just find out what the dealio is (in person) with her, and alone - so she doesn't try to pull no funny stuff in front of everyone. First thing they want you, next thing you don't even exist. Pfft, girls will be girls I guess. Good luck dude.

J E Parts · Feb 12, 2014

Lol...

Either you was crap in bed, or she is bored.

Most likely is that she wants some space and because you like are in love with her because she is a girl and had sex with you, your acting crazy because she is busy and doing something NOT including you lol....

Not beeing harsh but its happened to us all

... just keep going, don't look like a weirdo and be pushy etc, just chat normally.

Ask her if she wants to grab some food YOUR treat and DON'T have sex with her lol

R · Feb 12, 2014

The phenomenon of girls. Space, dude. Back off and if she's in to you she'll
come back.

Nt A Charity · Feb 12, 2014

I've had this happen to me a few times. Although, I haven't actually had feelings for the girls. Sometimes girls just crave sex badly then when they have it they're satisfied until the next time. There are multiple possible things that you could have done to turn her off you; hygiene, past relationships, socialising with a person she dislikes, performance inadequacies, being clingy, etc.

I suggest you just move on, if she's not into you anymore there's not much chance of you winning her back. She may even be confused about her own feelings for you and need space to think about what she wants.

Tl;dr Leave her alone to think and if, after a few weeks, she's doesn't want to know you, move on.

The Ract · Feb 12, 2014

@J E
1, I'm not in love with her, in the slightest. Do I like her? Yeah. I could care less if she doesn't have time to hangout and is busy. That's not the point. It's the fact that in person she deliberately ignored me twice, and it's just confusing.

Whenever our group meets we're fine, so it's not like she hates me or anything.

Also, if I was bad in bed.. She wouldn't have done it multiple times.

I'm still just confused.

Lean · Feb 12, 2014

Sounds like she doesn't have the guts to tell you in person or be straight forward and tell you she can't hangout anymore. Text her and say hey, if you get no response then it's pretty apparent you should move on.

Justin Fag · Feb 14, 2014

She may be having other issues that she doesn't want to tell you about, but I'd just stop talking to her if she's going to be like that. Wait until she comes and talks to you instead of you trying to talk to her. Play hard to get (But not too hard to get), and see how it goes, Let us know how it goes for you!

psycho sales · Feb 14, 2014

Roary said:
The phenomenon of girls. Space, dude. Back off and if she's in to you she'll
come back.

@roary, you're such a pimp. however, i'd have to agree with this mans response.

if you ask her what she's doing one day, and she says busy, don't proceed to ask her what she's doing the next day. you already made your statement that you want to hang-out, so you should of allowed her to initiate when she wants to hang out, since you already asked her and she said she was busy. it sounds too clingy. you are basically saying, 'hey, im free any day that you want to hang out.' even if you are, you want to act like you're too busy to hang out with her all the time. feed off the fact that, 'you want what you can't have.'

Justin Fag · Feb 14, 2014

psycho sales said:
@roary, you're such a pimp. however, i'd have to agree with this mans response.

if you ask her what she's doing one day, and she says busy, don't proceed to ask her what she's doing the next day. you already made your statement that you want to hang-out, so you should of allowed her to initiate when she wants to hang out, since you already asked her and she said she was busy. it sounds too clingy. you are basically saying, 'hey, im free any day that you want to hang out.' even if you are, you want to act like you're too busy to hang out with her all the time. feed off the fact that, 'you want what you can't have.'

I agree fully with Psycho, Don't bother her and wait for her to come to you. If you keep asking her, she'll most likely keep refusing. If she comes to you, she's been thinking about you and hanging out with you and wants to meet up. If you almost play "Hard to get" as, you don't bug her much, but still make your presence known to her, she'll be thinking about you, and possibly even have feelings for you, and hang out with you. Hope it all works out for you.

The Ract · Feb 14, 2014

Well, pretty sure I found out what happened lol. She's seeing another guy now I think. A couple friends told me last night that they think they were seeing each other, and then today in class she was talking to her friend about going out to eat with him tonight. So, yeah haha. Oh well, was a fun 5 days

Justin Fag · Feb 14, 2014

The Ract said:
Well, pretty sure I found out what happened lol. She's seeing another guy now I think. A couple friends told me last night that they think they were seeing each other, and then today in class she was talking to her friend about going out to eat with him tonight. So, yeah haha. Oh well, was a fun 5 days

Ah, That's salty.. She shouldn't have lead you on like that, hopefully you didn't go out and buy her anything. Well, That would be a very fun 5 days, Nice job getting to that stage of having sex with her.

I'd suggest just ignoring her and forgetting about her, maybe she'll realize that she wants someone else and start going for you. ^_^