wtp
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Well here's a bunch of techniques I use when dealing with people and they work nicely. But I'm not saying these techniques are accurate in all situations in a lot of cases you would want to do something totally different. Anyway read this and you might get something out of it.
Never judge people.
Don't ever insult people. The definition of a person in this case is what the person is or owns. Don't insult ones possessions, there intelligence, there way of thinking, there opinions, or there friends. Judging someone will only make them like you less.
What’s done it done.
If something gets screwed up don’t yell at anyone it’s not going to change anything all it will do is vent your anger while making the other person dislike you.
People care about themselves.
People care about what themselves and what they want to talk about 100 times more than what you have to say. So encourage them to talk about themselves ask them questions they want to answer and become genuinely interested in them. After that anyone will like you and when you become interested in someone they will become interested in you.
Arguing never solves anything.
When you argue people get defensive and backup what they say. When someone says something they put all of there pride into it if you yell at them and tell them there wrong how can you expect them to change there mind? There self-esteem rests in what they say. If you insult there ideas or opinion you insult them. Instead make it easy to change there mind talk nicely and make it seem like that it is logical to think what they have said.
Don’t criticize
If you think someone does something stupid don’t mention it. If you criticize someone they will automatically tune you out they will think you’re wrong. But if need to change someone’s ways compliment them say what you like about what they do and they will do a better job at whatever.
Persuading
Often when people try to persuade someone they think. “What do I want” when they should be think “What does the person want”. Like if your trying to sell something think of why the person would want it not what you want you just want to sell it.
When you’re wrong admit it early and enthusiastically
We have all been wrong and we will surly be wrong another time. Admit when you’re wrong as early as possible. Doing this will only make things easier. If we were right even 55% of the time we could make a million dollars on wall street daily.
Smile
Smiling makes everything more friendlily. If you’re not smiling then people may think your in a bad mood and make you less approachable. Smiles are welcoming and say that I enjoy your presence.
Agree and exaggerate
When you agree with someone make sure they know it, then exaggerate be more exited about what the person said than how the person originally said it. Like if someone says "Do you want to come over?" you should say something like "Yes, I'm really bored now I really want to come over!". This technique is often used in jokes; if someone says a joke it is there joke there dignity, if you add to it and make it funnier they will laugh because they are thinking you are funny because "This was my joke originally and you made it more better so you are making me feel more important.". Your funniest joke is the one that isn't yours.
When offered something accept it.
Sometimes we say no to things just to be polite, but most of the time its more polite just to say yes because the person offered it to you because they wants the feeling of importance that they will get from giving you something. Just make sure you say thank-you and you appreciate it.
Parents
I think I figured out something, parents care extremely little about what you do as long as they feel that they are in control. Often parents will tell you to do stuff like a chour that is unreasonable just so that they feel important, when they do this say yes and do it even if it they want you to do something that could be done a lot easier another way just do it the way they say and make sure you don't act angry or say anything bad just say yes and do it. Doing this you parents will get no feeling of importance you didnt argue or complain. And the next time they ask you to do something you can be sure its going to be much easier.
Making fun
If someone makes fun of you don’t take it seriously. Think are they doing it because they hate you or just because it’s funny. Most of the time it’s just because it’s funny and if you think about it most of the jokes are funny if you laugh with you won’t be laughed against. But on the other hand people will sometimes do it just to be a jerk. When this happens dont yell at them or show much emotion. Lets say someone makes fun of your name. Just look at them with the most serious face (but not angry face), and say don't ever call me that, and you can be sure that they won't ever do it again.
Be available
Anyone will become your friend as long as you do two things: Don't be a jerk and hang out with them. Even if you share no hobbies or have the same interest you will become friends just because you are around them. You don't need to have special moments or to be laughing all the time you just have to be available.
By: wtp
Never judge people.
Don't ever insult people. The definition of a person in this case is what the person is or owns. Don't insult ones possessions, there intelligence, there way of thinking, there opinions, or there friends. Judging someone will only make them like you less.
What’s done it done.
If something gets screwed up don’t yell at anyone it’s not going to change anything all it will do is vent your anger while making the other person dislike you.
People care about themselves.
People care about what themselves and what they want to talk about 100 times more than what you have to say. So encourage them to talk about themselves ask them questions they want to answer and become genuinely interested in them. After that anyone will like you and when you become interested in someone they will become interested in you.
Arguing never solves anything.
When you argue people get defensive and backup what they say. When someone says something they put all of there pride into it if you yell at them and tell them there wrong how can you expect them to change there mind? There self-esteem rests in what they say. If you insult there ideas or opinion you insult them. Instead make it easy to change there mind talk nicely and make it seem like that it is logical to think what they have said.
Don’t criticize
If you think someone does something stupid don’t mention it. If you criticize someone they will automatically tune you out they will think you’re wrong. But if need to change someone’s ways compliment them say what you like about what they do and they will do a better job at whatever.
Persuading
Often when people try to persuade someone they think. “What do I want” when they should be think “What does the person want”. Like if your trying to sell something think of why the person would want it not what you want you just want to sell it.
When you’re wrong admit it early and enthusiastically
We have all been wrong and we will surly be wrong another time. Admit when you’re wrong as early as possible. Doing this will only make things easier. If we were right even 55% of the time we could make a million dollars on wall street daily.
Smile
Smiling makes everything more friendlily. If you’re not smiling then people may think your in a bad mood and make you less approachable. Smiles are welcoming and say that I enjoy your presence.
Agree and exaggerate
When you agree with someone make sure they know it, then exaggerate be more exited about what the person said than how the person originally said it. Like if someone says "Do you want to come over?" you should say something like "Yes, I'm really bored now I really want to come over!". This technique is often used in jokes; if someone says a joke it is there joke there dignity, if you add to it and make it funnier they will laugh because they are thinking you are funny because "This was my joke originally and you made it more better so you are making me feel more important.". Your funniest joke is the one that isn't yours.
When offered something accept it.
Sometimes we say no to things just to be polite, but most of the time its more polite just to say yes because the person offered it to you because they wants the feeling of importance that they will get from giving you something. Just make sure you say thank-you and you appreciate it.
Parents
I think I figured out something, parents care extremely little about what you do as long as they feel that they are in control. Often parents will tell you to do stuff like a chour that is unreasonable just so that they feel important, when they do this say yes and do it even if it they want you to do something that could be done a lot easier another way just do it the way they say and make sure you don't act angry or say anything bad just say yes and do it. Doing this you parents will get no feeling of importance you didnt argue or complain. And the next time they ask you to do something you can be sure its going to be much easier.
Making fun
If someone makes fun of you don’t take it seriously. Think are they doing it because they hate you or just because it’s funny. Most of the time it’s just because it’s funny and if you think about it most of the jokes are funny if you laugh with you won’t be laughed against. But on the other hand people will sometimes do it just to be a jerk. When this happens dont yell at them or show much emotion. Lets say someone makes fun of your name. Just look at them with the most serious face (but not angry face), and say don't ever call me that, and you can be sure that they won't ever do it again.
Be available
Anyone will become your friend as long as you do two things: Don't be a jerk and hang out with them. Even if you share no hobbies or have the same interest you will become friends just because you are around them. You don't need to have special moments or to be laughing all the time you just have to be available.
By: wtp
