Break up with ex ( again )

[Sledded]

Updated 7th Aug 12

okay so we dated last month on the 12th which was a few weeks ago and shes going to Los Vegas for a week and traveling around pretty much HollyWood for 3 weeks so a month all up which is 37 days shes gone for. bLahbalhlbah... I was jealous because she's going overseas ( we both live in Australia ) and I stupid of myself end the relationship a week shes was there, because was an idiot in ending it.. the jealously really got to me..

then I waited for her from 5am for 14 hours on the compter curious if the our break is still on.. ( the first time that I stayed up for )
then she replied but once I replied all of a sudden logs off... I waited patiently if she would come back but she didn't because she was to busy..

We gave each other long messages via facebook until I ended the relationship accidentally, she said to me...

"i know you've done sooo much for me,, but to be honest i dont think i can be with you anymore. not for the reason that i am in vegas, but for the reason that i just want to be living the single life as i was intending to. i thank you for everything that you have done for me very much. you are a good guy but yeah i just dont want to be in a relationship.

i understand that jealousy is a major problem in our relationship, but i cant put up with anymore lil fights. i am not a person to fight with. i dont like to be tested and i dont like to be treated as if i have to fight for my position in being your girlfriend sometimes.

congrats on getting your licence too. you dont need to worry about me and dion. no one has seen much of the crew out and about since the competition has finished.

i know you stayed up all night for me but you shouldnt have cause i already know how dedicated you are to me. no need to prove anything. im not going to accept it because im done. sorry to say but yeah.

the letter is true and i honestly meant it. " ( she wronte me a letter week when she left saying my love grows each day ect )

she wants it to be official and talk it in person
but should I try when shes gets back or just forget it.

To be honest the jealously was ONLY occurred when she was going overseas nothing else besides who she had Sex with which I was a shocked who it was. As shes going overseas she and I decided to agree on a break ( for only a week ) to save our relationship ( as she hooked up with someone I know when she was drunk of 19th of may when we went out in which I forgiven her and let the pass go) going over going to Los Vegas to rep her country in hip hop internationals. our relationship is quite strong making it one of a kind, people were jealous of what we got between each other but the fights were just her going overseas nothing else like I stated before as well we weren't meant to be official to go out until she gets back from America; but we got together sooner enough.. ( we did this because i didn't afford in losing her )

What she told my friend that " I think its for good " she usually well most of the time says YES majority of the time and I thought it would be " Yes, its for good now" but it wasnt lol

IMO - I think all she wanted was a break till wednesday, which we agreed on but nope, she called it off because I think its to much... she wanted the fun until she gets back in 3 weeks time and not making me worried where she is ect, thats why I think she wanted a talk to talk in person to make it "official" breakup not via internet. moral story is using what she has as a coverup and doesnt want me waiting/worrying

What I did was deactivated my facebook account ( so i can focus at university and work )
until she comes back, so there wont be any contact of her unless she texts but thats alot like alot overseas, and pick her up at the airport with flowers ect. From there I'll take her to the beach and tell her the changes that I've made such as Jealously. Sorry for being stubborn in this scenario because this few months were heacktic because she was going to vegas to do the HHI which she now has finish and seeing as we only dated not very long I reckon after she gets back we can at least stay for 6 months and more...

 

[Synful]

No point being in a relationship if your guys are jealous of each other... Your in a relation ship that is supposed to support and be together.. Its pointless to keep going on. Forget it.

 

[Sordeo123]

well, first off.. i just recently got off from a 3 year relationship where we broke-up and ended up dating again 5 different times. I'm telling you. If she's saying she wants to live the single life. I'm sorry but that's putting you in the shit list. She tried every way to make it sound like it was her. But what is the reason other than the "single life" to break it off. A relationship is all about dedication and trust in the other person.

If jealousy is a major conflict to you guys then you two have to work on what it takes to not making one another jealous.

I broke it off for good with my ex because it seems nothing has changed even tho she told me she would be different, she wasn't. There are PLENTY of fish out there my man, the only problem with some guys is they don't just sit back and let it come to them, they get impatient and run for the closest option. That's how i ended back with my ex 5 times.

If i were you, i would take what is left of dignity and self-esteem and use it on a woman who actually adores it. I can name off 10 of my friends who are woman and are dating douche-bag guys .. I would say no. I know feelings rebuild after seeing someone but stay head-strong and chin up.. Trust me, she might be across the street, at the store, who knows. You WILL find someone..

 

[Sledded]

so saying and I will change when she gets back? leave it but she will miss me like last time?

 

[Sordeo123]

so saying and I will change when she gets back? leave it but she will miss me like last time?

don't be with her at all.. you can be friends but I wouldn't do anything more.. that's not love man..

 

[Sledded]

yeah I know bro but she said that and we both single as in she broke up she missed me; but yeah i guess i shall move on..

EDIT - as well she wanted to be with me after vegas, but made it a bit earlier and be with me, just dont get it lol

 

[Sordeo123]

yeah I know bro but she said that and we both single as in she broke up she missed me; but yeah i guess i shall move on..

EDIT - as well she wanted to be with me after vegas, but made it a bit earlier and be with me, just dont get it lol

maybe over time she will realize she misses you, but don't wait up all night to talk to her. Just reply a few hours at a time.. That'll hit her hard and maybe just MAYBE she might change and realize she needs you.. and i'm sure you'll be able to tell!

 

[Sledded]

yeah from now tlill she getes back she will miss me, i think lol and we can talk it out

Edit: she said "wel I won't lie, I may miss you. You been there for me through times are difficult but yeah ** my name ** . I've made my decision."
that she said that before but I dont know what to believe, now

 

[Sordeo123]

let it go, don't give her the time of day to making her believe you would accept her back.. trust me!

 

[Sledded]

hit me up with a PM to be in my situation lol

 

[MKarn]

To maintain a relation you need mutual help and contact, not be jellous and respect each other. I don't think she'll forget about it since she doesn't trusts ur being anymore.

 

[Sledded]

PM me, that you will change your opinion. hopefully lol

 

Jealous is an issue that occurs in ALL relationships, but if it's the type of jealousy that makes you stay up at 5AM and for 14hrs... that's not a good one.
And no offence, but staying up that late and for that long kinda shows a desperate and needy vibe.. I mean that in the nicest way possible.
IMO: Her saying she wants to be single is pretty much saying she needs space, but she used "i just want to be living the single life" as a cover up to avoid hurting your feelings. She probably felt strangled in the relationship with all the little fights you mentioned about jealousy. I believe that's kinda what pushed her away.
Fights over jealousy is usually because one party, either you or her, is the control freak. Girls don't tend to like that in a relationship.

I suggest you really try to keep your cool and try to control them jealousy feelings that occur, even if she gets jealous too, YOU gotta be the bigger man here. Keeping your cool in any type of situation within a relationship is something girls find very attractive.
Move on with your life and let her be. If she sees you so cool about everything suddenly she might even come crawling back.

Sorry if this sounded too straight forward but yeah, just being as helpful as I can. Goodluck!

 

[Sledded]

To be honest the jealously was ONLY occurred when shes overseas which she is now seeiing as were both in Aus shse going to Los Vegas to rep her country in hip hop internationals. our relationship is stable but the fights were just her going overseas nothing else.

Edit - thought so said to me well a friend that " I think its for good " she usually well most of the time say YES and I thought it would be " Yes, its for good now" but it wasnt lol IMO - I think all she wanted was a break till wednesday, which we agreed on but nope, she called it off because I think its to much she wanted the fun until she gets back in 3 weeks time, thats why she wanted a talk to talk in person. moral story is using what she has as a coverup and doesnt want me waiting

 

[MKarn]

Get her pregnant. Its the only viable solution

That's stupid, just a baby holding your relationship.. not true love

 

[Sledded]

I edited the first post, so its more understandable

 

[Kratom]

Let her go, she wants to see other people.

 

[Sledded]

Sorry. that dones't help me though if you elaborate more ?

Let her go, she wants to see other people.

 

[gistered]

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[Ripta]

^ lol?

Anyway it sounds a lot like this "girl" I knew. Reading the letter she gave you, it sounds like its bogus. If she wanted to be single in the first place, why did she get with you and waste both of your times? Seeing as how she logged off, and then found out later you waited, sounds to me like she was having second thoughts. I know it hurts man but theres a girl out there who will adore that you would wait online for her and return the exact same devotion instead of giving some horrible, garbage excuse. Oh yeah and on the jealousy part, its completely normal and it would come down to how much you trust her when she traveled away. Obviously, she is not very stable and unsure of things. I can tell just by reading what you gave us from her message.
You don't take "breaks" in a relationship in my opinion... Time away, yes. But if you love the person you'll be thinking of them at random times, ect ect. I'm told that doing other things, getting active and meeting new people will eventually get that ex off your mind. Its true, while I'm doing a hobby I don't think of it as much. Try it man