Ok this might not sound right because I'm still working on my English. Anyways im dating a guy and I'm a guy to. I love my boyfriend almost as much as I love my family. However he treats me bad but sometimes he can be really sweet. I fell in love with him because of this. Anyways the main problems I have with him is that he smokes Meth and weed. I personally have a drinking problem. When I drink I do not put up with any of his shit. We almost got into a fist fight the other day and now he want to be all lovey dovey. Another thing is he wants to have sex but I'm content with just kissing him. I told him he can have sex with other guys or girls since he's not getting any from me. Now im living at his parents house. Only problem with that is his father is not comfortable with him being gay so we cannot sleep together or anything like that. I am personally set I won a major lawsuit by suing the
I really dont know where to start with all of this.. so i'll try and touch on each point if I can.
My first question to you to make you think is this: What do you truly want from him. I couldn't be content kissing someone who is all over the place as you said your boyfriend is. The meth thing would be a deal breaker with me. You need to worry about your needs and what makes you happy before you can worry about his.
Second, if your boyfriends' father is going to be an antagonist in this whole story you call love; then maybe you should think of YOU getting your own place and allowing your boyfriend to come stay every once in a while. Don't move in with him because you don't know what the future holds. Having your own place will allow you to have your own space, and a place away from his father that seems to want to keep his son under his thumb.
Third, By stating to him that you allow him to have sex with others because you can't will not EVER have good outcomes. When you finally can dedicate yourself to him, he will have that mindset that because you let him wonder before you will allow him to wonder now. and that will cause you tons of grief. imagine your emotions then when your with him all happy and cuddily and he is getting it from another person, male or female.
and finally, Remember that there 7,198,475,375 people in this world. 48% of those are male. so there is plenty of fish out there for you. Please do not feel as though you must stay with him or that you can't find anyone else. Your a great person and you deserve someone who thinks of you that way.
Sorry if this comes off gruff. I mean it very respectfully =)