Ask her out over phone or text?

[Law Abiding]

Monday Update: Well I have come now to my computer to update my thread, okay lets see here... I wanted to ask her out, but the situation that I was in - I feel as if it wouldn't be appropriate. Basically she texted me asking about some homework she was missing, so I sent her a pic of the HW - but it didnt go through.

This gave a reason to call her to get her somewhat comfortable, so I only talked to her for a little to see if she got the pic/ whats she doin/ etc. So then I texted her and said I would need her help on one assignment, and that we should sit next to each other again. (We only sat together once.)

So I came into class late, and I see she was sitting in my area with a seat open next to her, so I sat and we took a test. Test over and I was chilling with her for a little, got to get more info on her. But I can now confirm she is shy, she talks very low that its hella hard to hear her! Anyways, so were out of class, and shes looking at her phone. So I was like "You waiting to get picked up?" She said "Yeah I gotta call my mom."

No one around, atmosphere was fine - vibes were cool. I asked you live in "xxx city" right? She said yeah (I already knew this answer). So I was gettin ready to meet up with a friend so I was walking away slowly, but turn my body slightly, and my face still looking at hers and said something like "If your mom cant pick up you sometime, I can give you a ride...if it's cool with you and your mom."

Couldn't remember her facial reaction, but she didn't seem stunned at this. She basically said softly "Alright......Bye" as she left the building. (Why'd she leave the building if her mom wasn't there yet?) Now I was thinking maybe I attacked to early, but I think this was the best option. Asking her to hang would be asking for an answer right there. With me offering a ride, she has the right to accept whenever she feels comfortable.

So with that being said - you still with me? Haha. My plans are to establish more contact with her, attempt to talk to her on the phone multiple times, then ask her casually over the phone (or in person) if the time is appropriate. Thanks for reading and I will continue to update this probably bi-weekly. Stay pimpin'

Hey man, I was always shy as hell around girls I liked. I don't know what it is, but in front of most girls I can be funny as hell and they dig me (I'd never know obviously). I'd personally if I was you, talk to her for a good month or two, get to know her, text her from time to time, make her laugh! That is very important, when the time is right then ask her out. You never want to rush into those movie-type dates where girls are down after meeting a couple of times because that rarely happens in my opinion. I used these principles to really get to know some amazing girls. Good luck brother!

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Thanks for the advice Law Abiding. I'm slowing down now, but losing interest as well.

Update: Okay well I need to take a big step back man, seriously this stuff was getting out of control. I'll try to make it short. So my buddies and I went to this local party, was pretty sweet. Meet these girls here and since my boy lives nearby we went back to his crib. He ended up hooking up with one and I hooked up with the other. Was a good time, so we eventually were planning to have a party at his crib next week, and invite them and we can hook up with them again for the whole party.

Okay cool, so next week comes - my girl that I was with last week couldn't go b/c she got in trouble and wasnt allowed out. But the other girl was allowed out, and my buddy picked her up. Word, so were having the party, got a pretty dope setup, got music and lights playing, drinks - games - little bit of everything. Party is dope, but people just kept showing up. Probably had about 50-60 people In a one bed-room rancher like house. We had an outside bonfire so people were all over the place.

So I'm chillin talking to mad girls, spitting game like nothing - now I'm seeing a lot of people go outside. I come outside to see people fighting, so I quickly analyzed around to find my cousin to make sure he wasn't in there. Well he was, on the floor, getting jumped. I quickly engaged after to pull one of the dudes. I pulled him off, then the kid hit me - didn't see it coming and it was dark outside with only one light on outside. I wanted to retaliate but I would put my risk of getting hit from someone else. I came back to pull him off again and everyone was scattering out. Took him to the bathroom and told him to wait there and went out to break things up. Two other fights occurred after. Then the cops showed up and just took names down and everything was situated. House was ruined, bottles and crap everywhere - mesh doors broken, stuff laying all over the place. It was just terrible.

But its over now, got to set my priorities straight. This thread is basically irrelevant now but those were the issues that occurred. I told the girl I hooked up with last week that we gotta chill and shes down, but I don't even know if I want to anymore. It's whatever though, I will probably make a new thread if I need to.

 

[Blackouts]

Defiantly all about doing it in person, you make them shy but i'm sure it'll be fine, i wish you all the best with this girl buddy! edit: sorry didn't read the whole thread i'm a noob, but have fun with it man!

 

[jed1]

phone or face-to-face

 

[IxI Duality IxI]

Final Update: Keeping in short.

So the main girl of interest in the thread has a boyfriend....a boyfriend.... I've looked up her profile and not ONCE did a see any picture of a boy and her together, no notification of him or anything! Does this guy exist? Don't know, but she said he is going to the army soon and she was over his house for Thanksgiving. Psh, whatever.

The girl I met at the party is done with, tired of associate with these ho....girls. That about sums it up. Stay pimpin my friends.

 

Tough break. Either the boy friend exists or he doesn't and she's brushing you off - move on regardless. Keep on hustling brah