My Life.

[King Legend]

Many thanks for your help guys, I will take the advice on board!

 

[Hookups]

Well, honestly I think the main reason you are a loner, is of this post. you always need to have confidence.

I will give you some tips that may help with your little problem.

- Take care of yourself. (not to preach) Always brush your teeth, take showers, and really stay on your personal hygene.

- TALK. this is probably why you're not getting noticed or you having girl problems. I know this is every guys dream, but every girl won't stare and drool over you all the time. If you are interested in one, do ANYTHING you seem fit to talk to her or get to know her.

- Join sports. Honestly, this is probably the easiest way to make new friends and get some ladies. EVERY girl loves an active in shape guy. and joining any kind of team gives you something to do, and you can meet new people.

 

[cosrob97]

Well i think to fix your problem is to get a job. As this way you are meeting new people and get out of the house. Any job is good except the one's where you work at home. Even if you work at some clothing store you tend to loose your shyness and be more open.

 

I also think so much, I think that if I don't become a successful Chartered Accountant (which is what I hope to become), or something successful related with business my life will end and nobody will like me, like my parents will be disappointed in me.
I try really hard with my with my dad, but he simply doesn't care and ignores me a lot (no I'm not adopted). It feels that everywhere I turn in life, it's a dead end and sometimes I wish that I got a disease and that I would just die, I feel that my existence is worthless, and simply nobody really gives a fuck.

Your problems sound chiefly psychological. The best thing you could do for yourself is see a therapist. The issues you have (self-esteem in particular) all have psychological root causes, all of which are 100% curable. There is no reason you should continue to suffer because of abuse done to you as a child.

(And for the love of god don't join a sports team as someone else suggested. This will not help you one iota.)

 

[Hookups]

Your problems sound chiefly psychological. The best thing you could do for yourself is see a therapist. The issues you have (self-esteem in particular) all have psychological root causes, all of which are 100% curable. There is no reason you should continue to suffer because of abuse done to you as a child.

(And for the love of god don't join a sports team as someone else suggested. This will not help you one iota.)

Are you kidding me? read above as to what I stated after when I said "Join Sports."

joining sports will honestly solves all the problems he stated above.

(i'm taking it, he's having a majority these "lonely" feelings in school).

Of course a therapist will help, and I recommend you see one also.

 

[King Legend]

Thanks for your help and support guys I've applied to a few jobs over the summer, hopefully I get them.

I don't suffer from child abuse or anything.

 

[Angelmax]

There's no one size fits all 'cure' for anything like this, you just need to try and open up new avenues to meet new people and rekindle relationships with old ones. It might be a sport, a job or a fridge-appreciation society for all it matters, the most important thing is to get out there and not hide away inside yourself.

I know how hard it is and it will take time, but eventually you'll get to where you want to be at. Also, as Sythe said your problems are rooted in self esteem, and a therapist may be able to help you overcome some of your problems.

However, don't feel you have to act like everyone else to gain attention and that you have to wilfully change yourself. All you need to do is become more confident and people will appreciate you.

 

Are you kidding me? read above as to what I stated after when I said "Join Sports."

joining sports will honestly solves all the problems he stated above.

No, they will just promote the false-self and cement the trauma further.

The type of people you meet in sports-culture are not generally well-balanced psychologically (unless its purely a social and mostly non-competitive sport).

What essentially happens is the weak ego ties itself to the group identity, promoting the false-self and imprisoning the true-self further. I would not advise anyone with psychological problems join a sports team unless they first see a therapist who recommends it.

 

[Angelmax]

No, they will just promote the false-self and cement the trauma further.

The type of people you meet in sports-culture are not generally well-balanced psychologically (unless its purely a social and mostly non-competitive sport).

What essentially happens is the weak ego ties itself to the group identity, promoting the false-self and imprisoning the true-self further. I would not advise anyone with psychological problems join a sports team unless they first see a therapist who recommends it.

You're being far too harsh. While he may encounter some dickheads if he joins a sports team or club, there are plenty of people who, surprisingly enough, play sport for fitness and fun rather than an ego trip.